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He does the little things that are romantic. Tells me I'm beautiful, cooks dinner, refills my drink, etc. He takes really good care of me. Thats all more romantic to me then if he treated me like crap but brought home flowers once a week.
I have trouble with the 'enough' part of the poll. My SO isn't romantic at all, he has occasional impulses to be but he's terrible at it. But he is romantic 'enough' because I like him that way and don't miss it. When I've been with romantic guys I've never trusted a word they said - which isn't a good thing to have in a relationship.
My SO is quite the romantic. He's very flattering, carries me over slushy sidewalks, wrote me a song and sings to me, and once showered me with rose petals while I was taking a shower. He's awesome. Just the right amount of romance for me. :)
My FI tries to be romantic which is very sweet... we just have different (cliched) ideas about romance. To him its romantic when he spends a whole bunch of money on my birthday gift or plans a special something for graduation etc.
Those are nice but I wish he was less grand-gesture and more everyday-romantic. I'd be happy with cheaper gifts on holidays if he'd bring me home a card for no reason sometimes, etc. He isn't big on the "for no reason" thing.
In the past few months I've been trying to instill a little romance in our relationship by doing extra stuff for him to see if he reciprocates. He did well for v-day but still not much "for no reason" romance on his end :)
My FI has his moments but if he were romantic all the time I dont think it would be very special. My proposal was incredibly romantic and even to this day I'm still surprised that he thought of it and pulled it off! He has sent flowers to my office for no reason a few times and that was very romantic. He takes good care of me and is always there for me and is my best friend and to me thats more romantic than anything else.
DH isn't overly romantic in his actions in the "traditional" romantic sense (like what Minutiae is talking about--stuff movies are made of!) but he always says the sweetest most genuine things (still shocking to me, after living with a very masculine father who doesn't do or say anything sensitive like that!) and occassionally does romantic things like gets me flowers. More so, it's just in how he treats me and how he appreciates me. If i comment about going out to eat, he just goes, "where do you want to go?" versus bitching about the money, haha. I rarely WANT to eat out. It just makes me over the moon how he respects me and adores me. Boy i sound silly, haha. But he really is an adoring kind of guy. But I'm not a mushy girly girl for the most part, so I'm totally cool with all his practical romantic gestures.
When i come home and see he's fed the cats, threw the chicken on the grill, and see that he vacuumed, did laundry, and pauses the TV to welcome me home and give me a hug, it makes me feel so good.
In the everyday "do anything for you" kind of way he can be romantic- makes sure to get me a napkin with my dinner (I always forget until I sit down and get something on my hands), we go out to eat quite often but it's not like a "romantic" thing or even a "lets spend time together" it's more of a I'm hungry lets eat now...
@CorgiTales: Jason is the same way! He will spend a ton of money on me for my birthday/christmas but when it comes to little things they just don't get it! lol Before we were even dating he bought me a new cell phone (without a contract so it was super expensive! like $400)... Then for our first christmas he got me a laptop and a digital camera (and something else that I forgot what it was, oops!) Boys are silly.
When J gets it in his head to do something, he goes all out. :) But he isn't spontaneous and those grand romantic gestures are far enough apart that I keep appreciating them. Good thing he shows his love in other ways too!
Mr KM can be when he really wants to be. I'm not a super romantic girl, though, so we balance eachother out. He's really, really good at bringing me flowers about once every two weeks! He totally FLOORED me for Valentines Day, though. He hates Valentines Day more than the average guy, so he doesn't like to do anything for it. Which... whatever, in theory we have a deal that we don't have to do anything for New Years if we don't do anything for Valentines Day. Well, we ended up going over to his parents for New Years so in theory we should have done something. I decided to work instead because I didn't want to have to hear him huff and puff about it.
ANYWAY, for valentines day, he made a comic book of our entire relationship using our nicknames (that involve animals) for each other! Omigoodness, I cried and cried and cried it was so amazing and creative. Hands down the best romantic thing he's ever done.
I get the right amount of romance. He will surprise me with flowers for no reason and write me amazing cards on holidays. I guess his romance is limited to special days other than a few flowers for no reason - but that is fine with me.
I come from a family with a father who does not have a romantic bone in his body. For example, when he proposed to my mom he was going off for a 6 week stint in the army and as he walked out the door he said "And go pick out a ring while I am gone!" How romantic LOL!
So I am head over heals with every small romantic gesture Mr. M does.
He cooks... A LOT. Sometimes he will bring home a nice bottle of wine though, to make it special. He occasionally gets me flowers *not for holidays, just for fun... and only a few times a year* so it is always a nice surprise. He scrapes my car for me in the morning if there was snowfall during the night. He makes me icepacks (my ankles are really bad and I ice daily) and he is great at holding hands. It might just be the love, but after 3.5 years I still get the warm fuzzies when he grabs my hand.
my fiance is definately not as romantic as I would like him to be..but he is quite a manly man and i guess it just doenst fit his "style" but regardless he is a great guy and his romanticlessness is not a deal breaker :)
My fiance started off WAAAAAAAAAAAY OVER THE TOP romantic so that I couldn't look him in the eye without laughing and was actually embarrased to tell my friends things he did for me (LOTS of poetry, every gift somehow related to photos, grand declarations). If he could play the guitar I KNOW he's have sung a song for me by now and clearly I would have had to break up with him. I truly CAN NOT stomach that stuff. He's since - thankfully - turned it down a notch but still has his moments. Like adding a poem he wrote for me to our wedding website. Couldn't we just keep that between us??
Don't get me wrong - i DO appreciate the sweet things he does, and I'm fully aware how lucky I am - everyday - to have him in my life; but I definitely appreciate the small gestures or the toekn gifts for no reason more than the grand overtures.
This is an interesting question.
I tend to agree with a couple of previous posters on this one. For the first 5 years of our relationship, Mr. K and I lived long distance. During that time Mr. K was SUPER ROMANTIC! He would send me cards and letters all the time (for no reason) flowers EVERY WEEK, big extravagant surprises for birthdays and holidays...
He certainly "wooed" me from the very beginning! As the years went by and we actually started living together, his romantic gestures grew few and far between.
But I can't complain. I don't need grand gestures or expensive bouquets. I cherish all of the little thoughtful things he does to take care of me every day. He opens every door for me, he drives me around, brings me home my favorite snacks, takes extra loving care of my/our kitties, cooks dinner regularly...I could go on and on! I feel so lucky every day!
This question came up because a co-worker and I were talking about our SO's and she was saying her BF is so romantic and she is NOT! And how I am a hopeless romantic and Jason is well, not. haha I just thought it would be fun to get other women's opinions on it!
And wondering if any totally non-romantic guys pulled off super romantic proposals. lol (hoping there's a chance!)
FI is always sweet and is romantic alot of times. He'll cook for us and will leave me notes in my books when he knows I will be studying that night. Other times he'll just lean over and say I look beautiful!
The other night I was studying and he came and dropped off my favorite coffee from Starbucks and just said he wanted to stop by and say he loved me! :) and then he left so I could continue studying! I loved that I knew he was thinking about me!
KM -- The comic book sounds so sweet!
My FI is a self admitted nonromantic, which, I have to say gives me a little pang sometimes. I do not need super grand gestures or anything but just some little things above the everyday routine. I love and appreciate that he takes care of the dog and cooks and cleans and all, and I am sure that is his expression of love, but it's all just so... practical. I mean, shouldn't he be helping around the house anyway? His V-day gift this year is about as romantic as it's gotten, and I have to admit I was pleasantly surprised. He got me a potted rose (which is as close to "flowers" as I am going to get I think) and an extremely cute card that he actually wrote in a little, too.
More often it happens something like my birthday -- we were going to go to dinner with his parents (his mom and I share a bday), and he was super late getting home from work and didn't call or text to let me know he'd be late. So there I am all dressed, ready, eager, and waiting... and he is 40 minutes late getting home, only to tell me the reason he is late is that he stopped to get me flowers but the shop had just closed. So not only is he late, but he shows up empty handed. Not that I care so much about actually getting a gift, but the point is the thought -- you didn't plan ahead, trying to remedy that made you late, so you leave me waiting AND still didn't make up for your lack of planning?
He really isn't the emotional type at all, so he doesn't always get why that may not be a good idea or why I would like a romantic gesture.
He's plenty romantic enough for me, but I am about the least romantic person ever. We don't celebrate Valetine's Day, but he found a heart-shaped balloon left over from a party in our building and wrote
R - I love you forever. -M
on a post-it stuck to the balloon. Which totally made me swoon. And then we proceeded to completely ignore the fact that it was supposed to be a special day.
Ooops - I am totally like some of your guys, though. My idea of being sweet and romantic is paying for his new computer and cell phone.
He's romantic but just not in conventional ways... which makes it more fun when he does do something I really appreciate!
i'm with cybele! it makes it harder to do something amazing for him in return though!
My husband is the "few and far between" type, but he does lots of stuff everyday that I think are romantic. My favourite is that he always seems to know when to tell me that I look amazing...you know, on those days when nothing seems to look good and you think you look horrible.
His proposal wasn't a grand gesture, but I think it was pretty romantic. We were making dinner together and he just dropped down on his knee and pulled out a ring. He told me later that he'd been planning something else, but he thought our everyday life together was a better setting than any set up he could have contrived. He was right. :)
My husband isn't the romantic type usually, but sometimes he pulls off something romantic and completely catches me off guard. Like making dinner for us (complete with a candle) one evening when I worked late. And he wrote me a song back when we were dating :-). And he gets up with me early in the morning to have coffee and pray with me before I leave for work (his idea) which is pretty romantic if you ask me :-). So even though I sometimes think rather wistfully of how nice it would be if he were more romantic, he's getting better at it. Maybe?
he is occasionally romantic.. and I love it.. but I wish I got more and more!
romantic, what is that? my husband has never done that stuff for me, and oddly enough after being with him for almost 6 years, i want a tiny bit of that......but not gonna happen, lol.
I think I am definitely blessed in the romantic FI department. Not only does he do the 'small things' like make the bed, cook special dinners and tell me sweet things, but he also does the big romantic gestures when the time is right. Somehow he still manages to remain so 'manly'.
He is, but he's not mushy or emotional as I sometimes equate with romantic. He is full of meaningful gestures and we each go out of our way to show the other how much we love them. I can't wait to go home and see him - I know he's picking up our favorite meal from a local restaurant tonight :)
He has his moments. I would say he's definately trying and its so adorable sometimes.
He's not romantic but he's thoughtful. And when he tries to be romantic it's usually an epic failure but I can't tell him. Yesterday he brought me home a present. He never brings me presents. BUT he bought me a candle stick holder (what?! We don't even have candlesticks!!!) because he saw it and he liked it. Not he thought I would love it, he liked it. Sigh. It's pretty, but ONE candle stick holder, no candles, and something that's really for him... So I made a big "oooh thank you" show out of it since he was so excited about it. Granted, it's pretty, but I likely would have bought two.... LOL!
He's thoughtful though. He always keeps the toilet seat down, asks me if I need anything while he's up, does stuff for my family, etc. I wouldn't trade him for the world! I have a day dream of coming home one day to a house full of rose petals and candles, but something tells me that is never going to happen!
I think every girl wants a prince charming that will make us and all girls swoon with envy of a hopeless romantic! Unfortunately, not all boys come that way and it's a good thing I suppose! haha! Mine is definitely not romantic, but I'm kind of a tomboy so that could partially be my fault?
hmm, honestly no. sometimes i wish he was more. Don't get me wrong he can be but its few and far between i guess. Whe we first started dating 11 years ago he definitely was... like over the top..love notes, flowers all the time, tell me sweet things outta no where..etc.
He is a sweetheart and i love em to bits... but romance... he needs some help in that department :)
Cam is possibly the least romantic person I know. It's one of two things we argue about. He sucks with holidays, gives me nothing for no reason, and just well, has not one romantic bone in his body.
Don't get me wrong ... I still love the things he does for me ... like tell me I'm beautiful, send me a text in the morning when he wakes up (way to go ldr) and practical things like change my oil. But man - once in a while a flower would be nice, or a card maybe sent from his house ...
this has been an evolving story since we first met :)
FI actually got me by the small, lil gestures... not necessarily "AWW OMG YOUR SO CUTE..." but the lil considerate things like remembering my favorite drink and getting it for me, or telling me to pick out a movie i want to watch even if it was a girly movie, cooking for me, and extravagant gifts and dinner dates, flowers, etc.
when we got to really getting to know each other... i realized he's a big dork and real softie... but at the same wears this macho man exterior 99% of the time (as most men do :P)...
i've been fine with it, as i've never been a movie romantic or flowers type of girl... there's been the occasional "Just because" flowers... and a couple "i'm sorry" flowers too! LOL. and he's always been great gift giver...
but, something about the water in our new home together... ever since he's been engaged, he's just goo-goo gah-gah over everything i do and spits out lines like i'm juliet and he's romeo. :P
He's romantic occasionally. Which is just perfect for me. He buys me flowers occasionally and helps me put out the laundry and does the dishes and sends me cute texts during the day.
Not really. I wish he showed his care more often, whether it's through practical things like cleaning, cooking, etc. or through thoughtful gestures such as notes, small gifts, what have you.
I'm not particularly romantic, but I am pretty thoughtful and sometimes I feel like I do a lot for him and he just doesn't know or care to do those things.
What can I do? We've been dating 3 years and he was never really like that in the beginning either. Boo
He's somewhat romantic - just not in the traditional flowers and candles way. When he comes home from a working trip he quite often brings me something small: my favourite candy, books etc. Sometimes I would like him to light candles and so on, but it's not his style.
I'm out of town at the moment, so I have to remember to bring something to him. I usually forget and I'm really ashamed now.
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If he isn't do you ever wish he had just an OUNCE of "hopeless romantic" in him? I sure do! I love him to pieces and he says very sweet things that are romantic OCCATIONALLY... But just once (and I'm hoping in a future proposal) that he just sweeps me off my feet!
Although when he does say sweet things I swoon because it's so unlike him...
What about your SO? Is he romantic enough?