Is your SO your soulmate?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: I consider my SO...
    My soulmate : (31 votes)
    10 %
    My best friend : (83 votes)
    26 %
    My best friend and soulmate : (165 votes)
    51 %
    Just my SO : (31 votes)
    10 %
    Other : (14 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2696 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Same here. When my baby is gone, I can’t even sleep in the bed. I just lay there all night staring at the wall so I go sleep on the couch.  I try to watch TV until I eventually fall alseep. Even my appetite is a little different.

    My SO is my soulmate, but my BFF is a girlfriend of 10 years.

    Post # 4
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    8707 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    He absolutely is my soul mate and my best friend. That doesn’t stop me from having other best friends.

    When my husband is gone, half of my heart is in the sky (He deploys on planes in the Navy) and I am not whole until he is home.

    Post # 5
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    998 posts
    Busy bee

    I voted that DBF is my best friend. I’m actually not sure if soulmates exist – I believe that there are multiple combinations that could yield a happy relationship for any given person.

    However, when I am with DBF, I feel so at ease, as if he is my other half. You never know… 🙂 

    Post # 7
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    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @Hyperventilate:  He absolutely is my soul mate and my best friend. That doesn’t stop me from having other best friends.

    Same. He was my best friend before we started dating, and he’s definitely my soulmate. I also have other best friends.

    Post # 8
    Member
    534 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I guess I’m weird; I voted “other.”

    I don’t believe in soulmates, so I couldn’t choose any of those options.  And my FI is my best friend and he is my SO, but he’s more than JUST a best friend or JUST my SO.  He’s the man I chose to spend the rest of my life with and to create a family with.  I adore him and love that every day we spend together puts another brick in the foundation of the life we’re going to share.  He and the family we’re creating are the center of my world.

    I’m not sure what to call all of that, but that’s what he is to me.

    Post # 11
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t believe in soul mates. DH and I have had conversations about this and believe that we could both be happy if married to other people but since we love each other and we are happy we are no longer looking for someone else. However, he is my best friend.

    Post # 12
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    6510 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @sailor_girl:  That is a great explanation! That’s exactly how I feel about my DH.

    Post # 13
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    2661 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @sailor_girl:  I liked your explanation so much I voted “other” as well! FI and I don’t really think there is just “one” person out there for everyone. I think it would be a lot harder for everyone to match up if that were the case! I think you could be compatible with many people. FI and I happened to find each other, and we make each other very happy…but we are not perfect! But I agree, he’s more than a best friend and more than “just my SO.” He’s just something special!

    Post # 14
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @sailor_girl:  

    @rosegoldie:  Agreed! I don’t believe in “soulmates” but I definitely consider my DH to be different than my female best friend (more than just that I don’t have sex with my biffle, lol). In some ways I’m closer to my best friend since we’ve known each other much longer (13 years vs 6 years) and have similar backgrouns. In other ways I’m closer to my husband, as he is the one I have chosen as my life partner (I use this phrase too!) …could I have chosen somebody else and it also would have worked out and I would have had a good happy love-filled life? Yup. He’s my “mate” but I don’t believe our souls are bound together or were meant to find each other or anything (then again I’m also an atheist and don’t really believe in a “soul” persay to begin with so that may play into it too), I love him to pieces and don’t want to live life without him, but I firmly believe I could have felt the same way about somebody else *shrug* 

    Post # 15
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    671 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    He’s both. We pretty much do everything together. Neither of us were particularly extroverted when we met, and that hasn’t changed. It’s just nice to have someone you enjoy being with no matter what.

     

     

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