Post # 1
I’ll be conducting the rehearsal for my wedding and not sure what to do. Our officiant is a friend who is doing this as a favor, I already have the ceremony written and what not, but I was wondering a few things. Like, do I give everyone a copy of the ceremony & line set up? Or should i just tell them when they get there? Do I have to use the actual garden that we will be using (if we do this then it will cost about $100 more for the night)? I can’t really think of any other questions right now, but if I missed something, let me know. Or if you have any advice, shout it out. All advice is welcome.
Post # 3
I ran my rehearsal. My uncle was our officiant and he was doing it because we asked, he just got ordained for the day.. so planning the ceremony was up to me. I only gave a copy of the ceremony outline to my uncle.. no one else needed to see all the details. I highlighted everything my uncle needed to say and made it really easy for him (he held the outline in a black leather folder at the actual wedding). I think it’s worth the $100 to have your rehearsal in the exact space where you are having the wedding. That way every one know EXACTLY where they need to be and there are no issues on the day of. The biggest thing is that the bridal party remembers what order they are in and how they are processing up and down the aisle (make sure the walk slow and wait for the person ahead of them to get about 3/4 of the way down before they go). Come up with a plan with your Maid/Matron of Honor for taking your bouquet and arranging your train if you have one. Other than that.. they pretty much just stand there and watch. The best man will need to have the rings but the officiant will ask him for them so he just needs to pay attention : )
Post # 4
My sister conducted her own wedding and it lasted almost 4 hours. So it may be beneficial for you to hand out any information ahead of time to your attendants AND immediate family. The family was the biggest slow down for us… they had no idea what to do.
If you don’t want to spend the extra money to rent the garden the night before, just hold the rehearsal in a backyard or somewhere where you could possibly set it up similar to the way it will be the day of the wedding.
It’ll all work out! 🙂
Post # 5
I’d say using the actual space might be good so it’s familiar to people in the wedding party. If you reherse elsewhere and leave out a detail of the layout it might be confusing for people (e.g. “line up by the planter” – but there are 2 or 3 different planters).
I think that your officiant should have the ceremony and then you should have 2 copies of the line up (one for you and one for where people are waiting) because most of the cues are given verbally during the ceremony.
Post # 6
thanks everyone!! That really helps out!
Post # 7
1. Have someone a bit more assertive (best man, father of the B or G etc) assigned to welcome everyone, get and keep their attention and then turn things over to you. Without an assertive assistant, the group will be joking, laughing, chatting and generally not paying attention.
2. If you are having prerecorded music, it would be helpful to have that music at the rehearsal. (an ipod and a small speaker will do) It is easier for most people in the Bridal party to remember a tune than the complex parts of a ceremony.
3. Choose key words or parses to alert your individual Wedding Party members as to when to take action. Make sure each participant knows his or her key phrase. You may write it down in a script form with a copy for each, highlighted with their key phrases or words.
4. Keep your direction simple complete and brief or you will loose their attention.
5. Run through the whole thing a few times to insure everyone got it.
Then enjoy your friends, your family and your rehearsal party.
Post # 8
oooo music!! I kind of have music, but haven’t finalized it just yet. How much music should I have, like do every grouping (ie. groom, groomsmen, brides maids, ring bearers, etc.) get their own song? The aisle is about 20 ft long & there is a little bit of walking before the individuals get to the aisle.
Post # 9
Prelude music, these are several tunes played as people are being seated and while they are waiting for the ceremony to begin. The last prelude tune cues everyone that things are about to begin. Usually the VIP’s (parents and grandparents etc) are seated by the ushers during this tune.
Processional, a processional tune is common just for the bridal party or just the ladies in the Bridal Party as very often the men took their places during the prelude music. A 4 minute tune is usually long enough for four or five people to walk up the isle with a nice distance between them. This is a good reason to have the music at the rehearsal and the Bridal Party will know how fast or slow to walk. Your music can be faded once everyone is in their place so too long is better than too short.
Processional for the bride and her father. A 3-minute tune should do the trick but again it can be faded once the Bride is in her place.
Interlude, this is a tune usually used when the B&G are doing something like a sand ceremony. The person playing the music needs to know a key word to start the interlude tune so as not to run the music over the officiant etc.
Recessional, this is the final tune usually started immediately after the officiant presents “Mr. and Mrs. Smith for the first time”. After this music is started, the B&G walk out and once they clear the isle they are followed by the Bridal Party. Again a longer tune is best here and it should be played until the end.
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Post # 10
I made an outline for the Pastor and my aunt. I asked my aunt to run the rehearsal and ceremony for me so that I could take in the moments. I think this was the best decision I made because it didn’t make me out to be the bridezilla and everyone listened to her. Plus she stood in the back with the bridal party and told them when to walk. That way our timing was right. We also practiced with the music. My aunt set-up the first row of chairs and then marker chairs along the asile so that we could get a feel of where everyone would be standing or sitting.
PRACTICE IN THE LOCATION!!! My brother’s wedding we didn’t practice in the location and it was a disaster! My parents couldn’t see the wedding at all because the first row was placed too close to the bridal party and so they couldn’t see around the groomsmen. The flowergirls and ringbearer also had a hard time knowing where to go