Post # 1
Hi all! I feel a little out of place here, as this is my second time around for marriage and I’m thinking most of you are blushing, first time brides. However, this will be the first marriage for my Love and he is the sentimental sort who wants a traditional wedding celebration. I.E., he didn’t go for my “let’s run off to Vegas” idea. I do have to say that I am enjoying planning this wedding immensely. Now that I am older, I have a much more definite sense of my personal and decor style. I love a party and we didn’t have resources like Weddingbee during my first time around. And – Weddingbee is FABULOUS. Albeit, dangerous. Many a night when I should have been getting much needed beauty sleep, I found myelf stalking this site. I am now limiting my time on the site, as each time I check in, I find yet another something that “I just HAVE to do or have” for the wedding. A girl could go insane. This girl could definitely go insane, because when I get into something – I REALLY get into it. I mean, this wedding planning could easily become a full time occupation and methinks that my children and employer already think I am fully occupied.
Anyway, I digress – which happens frequently. So I apologize in advance.
We are having our wedding at a lovely, private, beachfront residence on Isle of Palms (IOP), South Carolina. There is an IOP ordinance which limits the number of guests at a private residence to 40. I think we are actually going to be at 50 guests. Has anyone had experience with a wedding at a private residence in IOP? I’m just wondering how strictly this ordinance is enforced and/or how it is enforced. We will have valets parking cars and there won’t be any outlandish decor at the front of the house (the rental agent asked that we not have balloons at the front door. Uh – ok, no worries there since we’re having a wedding, not a HS prom). So I’m thinking a random police officer or resident driving by won’t encounter a ton of cars jammed out front or anything that screams “PARTY!” The wedding/reception itself is intended to be a very elegant and classy affair. We’re older, our guests are older – it’s just not going to be a raucous booze fest. Meaning, we’re not going to be disturbing the neighbors. So I think we’ll be fine. I’m imagining that you run afoul of the ordinance when you disturb other residents and the disturbed folks ask the police to investigate. I’m thinking to send my charming Love over to the neighbors when we arrive, let them know that we’ll be having a wedding celebration, that we certainly don’t intend for it to disturb them, but if, on the off chance we do, would they please just give us a call before sending over police officers. I would be MORTIFIED if our wedding was interrupted by the police doing a head count. I’m thinking a police bust definitely ruins the classy, elegant vibe. So – if any of you have any experience with an IOP wedding at a private residence, I would love to hear your words of wisdom. Many thanks!
Post # 3
First, welcome. And there are plenty of encore brides so don’t feel out of place.
Second, I’m a bit torn on what advice I want to give here. On one hand I’m tempted to say a rule is a rule and you need to abide by it. What if you had mailed your invitations to only 50 people and didn’t include any plus ones but then all of your guest showed up and exceeded your limit (not the venue limit, but your pesonal limit). You would be pretty ticked because you had set a limit and it wasn’t followed.
On the other hand, sometimes it’s easier to ask forgiveness than permission. What is the likelihood that all 50 of your guests will come? I’m not saying you should count on someone not coming but I think you should ultimately be fine. There’s going to be more than 40 people in there anyway by the time you include valets, caterers, officiant, photographer, etc. That being said…you have to realize that their 40 guest limit probably allows for vendors, etc which would give you around 50 people. So if you up your guest list to 50 then you’re really going to have around 60.
Does any of that make any sense? I guess my official opinion is this: do what you want but be prepared for the consequences.
Post # 4
I live in Charleston (never been to a wedding at IOP though) and I think you are right Miss Polka Dots…as long as you dont have people shouting and running around the house like crazy people you will be fine…the cops arent gonna come in and do a head count…haha. I think if you were having like 70 and up people u may have an issue…but I think you will be fine. I have rented a beach house on IOP before…and I dont really remember any issues with noise around us therefore no cops that I saw…but thats just what I saw. I would just say…keep the neighbors happy…like you said…they are only going to do anything if they are bothered…and good luck!
Post # 5
I moved this to the South Carolina board for you so hopefully some locals can help you out. Also, be sure to check out our encore board!
Post # 6
I agree with the go ahead and seek forgiveness if needed 50 isn’t hugely over the limit and if you are expecting no trouble then I wouln’t worry too much. You’ll have to keep us updated on how things turn out. We’ve been down there visiting several times since we moved here it is so beautiful!
Also there are many encore brides don’t worry! You fit right in with ideas, questions, and being addicted to thie site! I think it’s cute your Fiance wants a wedding. Mine is supportive but would have preferred eloping, saving the money, time, and stress, and then spending the money on something else.
Post # 7
Hi! I don’t want to scare you before your big day, but IOP takes there rules very seriously. I went to a wedding last year and they did a very small after party gathering at the house they rented. There were only 34 people there but the cops did pay a little visit…and asked exactly how many people were there. I do think its great that your having valet parking, just make sure the people parking the cars know the rules, I’ve been to IOP numerous times and I’m always seeing someone get ticketed. It might be a good idea to call the IOP police or even stop by the police station and mention that your having a dinner so that when they drive by they won’t feel compelled to stop in…just a suggestion. I hope every thing works out great! Let me know how it goes too please! good luck!!!
Post # 8
I am also considering a wedding at a beachfront residence on Isle of Palms, South Carolina. I am not as worried about the number of guests as the noise. We had planned to hire an acoustical guitarist to plan & sing throughout the evening, ending by 10pm. Has anyone attended an IOP reception with music? Do you think we could get fined? Any help you can provide would be appreciated.
Post # 9
@Morrik19 – honestly if you are planning on hiring a guitarist from the area you may be hard pressed to find one. Most vendors in the area know the rules on IOP beach and will not work with you b/c they know its illegal to perform services on the beach. Honestly I wouldn’t risk it. The only beach in the area that doesn’t have as strict of rules is Folly.
Post # 10
@Miss Polka Dots: I want to do the exact same thing. I will have 30 guests max (family only) so I will be under the 40 person minimum. I think you will be ok though being that close. Are you going to have the party/dinner catered? Also where did you find the residence on IOP? I have been searching VRBO.com for the perfect place that will actually allow us to have the gathering. My idea was to also have the ceremony in the backyard with the beach.
Does anyone know if beach weddings are allowed on IOP or would we have to have the ceremony at a different location? I am trying to figure all of this out being from Columbus, OH, ugh. I am thinking of hiring a reasonable planner to assist but this site is making me hopeful that I can do it with some help from all these great posts.
Post # 11
@soccerchick – Here’s a helpful link on IOP weddings. http://www.iop.net/FAQs.aspx. We rented a house on IOP from Island Realty before, but it wasn’t an event house so I’m unsure if they have them. I mean Island Realty, not IOP in general 🙂
Post # 12
Hi, I live in SC on the otherside of the state (near Augusta) and we were plannng a beach ceremony in MB but now are considering Charleston because it is less touristy. Can you tell me how things worked out?