(Closed) Isn't four old enough to eat with a fork?

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
8526 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@peachacid:  i wouldn’t expect a 4 year old to put a napkin on his/her lap, but he should probably be eating with a fork by now.

Post # 4
1189 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Not normal.  


My girls aren’t saints at the table, but they know how to use utensils and napkins properly.  Although, well, sometimes food falls off those utensils, but still.


ETA: My girls are 3 and 4.

Post # 5
259 posts
Helper bee

The napkin’s no big deal, I’m 20 and only do that if I’m eating out with company. But yes, they should definitely be using a knife and fork by that age.

Post # 7
3277 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I work at a daycare and our 1.5 years old use all utensils, so yes he should definitely be using them. It also helps a lot with fine motor development. 

Post # 8
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ajillity81:  +1. Usually the parents will still need to cut up their food, but they should be eating with utensils.

Post # 9
808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

My 16 month old eats with a fork.  Granted- it’s difficult for her with some of the things she eats, so she will still use her hands, but she tries really hard.

Post # 10
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Fork & Spoon by age 4 for sure… altho kids usually need friendly reminders, as they are apt to just “naturally” want to get at food with their hands.

As for a napkin… sorry but

ROTFLMAO… I’ve met ADULTS who don’t even have a clue… so I wouldn’t pretend that a 4 year old should.

(Thanks for my chuckle of the day)


Post # 11
1042 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Er…I nanny/babysit for one and two year olds who use a fork and spoon. Unless he is eating finger foods, that’s a bit odd.

Post # 12
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My TWO year old daughter uses her spoon and fork properly. Her napkin doesn’t go in her lap but she has one by her place setting and knows how to use it. I work at a daycare and we teach them how to start using utensils at 1.

Post # 13
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

4 is definitely old enough for manners like using a fork and napkin properly.

Post # 14
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@peachacid:  Yes, he should be able to use a fork.  Shame on the parent(s) for not teaching him.  Some people just seem to want to keep their children infants. 

Post # 15
1124 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My 5 year old still likes to eat with her hands. Although we make her use the fork. I don’t let her cut up her food though, with a butterknife year but not a steak knife or anything.


All my kid knows about napkins is that you wipe your face when you’re done. If we were to take her out to a restaurant to eat where it would be propper to use a napkin in the lap I would put it in her lap and leave it at that. No big deal.


The kid should be able to use a fork at least though

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