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I know this is a wedding forum but this just ANNOYS the heck out of me. I haven't necessarily had a close friend die to me, but I've seen many people who've died around my town, and the one person who DESPISED them a week before, or who hated them, or tortured them because of something silly, just magically LOVES them after they die.

I know that if you're friends & you get in a silly argument and then a person dies, ofcourse I get that...but when it comes to someone that wasn't even close to that person, or who've hated them for a long time, it's just aggrevating to see.

There are just so many fake and dishonest people out there in todays world it kills me. I get pleasure out of knowing that I did something good for someone, not be mean to someone because I feel insecure about myself, and the only way I can get pleasure is making other people feel bad so I can make myself feel better...it's ridic!

Sorry bee's, I had to vent :)

Thanks for listening! Now can I get an AMEN!?

@Mitla: I see where you're coming from. My point is basically that I think the people who "hate" other people, and the ones who are so mean...need to think about the fact that that person has a possibility of not being around for a long time.

Probably should've said that in my post, but I guess it just made sense to me so I didn't add it in.

I just wish people would THINK before acting.

^(doesn't read latin) does that say 'don't speak ill of the dead'?

this is honestly why i avoid funerals. people aren't memorialized at them, so often, they're idealized and people speak of a few of their good qualities while avoiding all of the subtleties of their personalities (both negative and neutral qualities!).  suddenly everyone comes out of the woodwork, saying what a great person they were, even . it's weird.

i speak ill of the dead all the time. i guess that makes me a bad person.   when my best friend (who i had a complicated relationship with) died last year, i was overcome with sadness and a lot of relief too, because it freed me from a really terrible relationship, even though that friend wasn't necessarily a bad person.  nonetheless, i was relieved, and whenever i told that to anyone back around his death, they looked at me like some kind of monster. oh well. i can't help how i feel!

I do know kno what you are talking about, but as a pp said if someone passes away that I do not know well somtimes the circumstances of the death can make it difficult for me.

For example, when i was in high school a classmate of mine comitted suicide and her Dad saw her shoot herself. As a parent I had a very difficult time dealing with this even though I didn't know her well. some times in life things happen that make you reflect on your own life and can make these situations hard.

Oh for sure. I've unfortunately had several friends die, and it never fails. Someone that barely knew them would claim they had been best friends, or someone that had been dating them for like a week, claims they were soulmates. And they just run around and act ridiculous and say the dumbest things.

I definitely know what you're saying.  This actually just came up for my family.  My grandmother died a year ago and the women of the family got together a couple weeks ago and remembered her.  We started off with just good memories but then acknowledged that to truly love someone is to love ALL of them, not just the good.