Post # 1
This is a semi rant, but I do need advice on how to approach this and please let me know if I’m the one in the wrong here!
FI and I have really kind of bopped around in the cake department. He’s really picky and I don’t really feel the need for cake-but whatever, we’re having a cake. We considered cupcakes, having a frendor make the cake, and seen some outrageously expensive cakes before finally settling down on a cake made by my dad’s friend from work – his sister, still with me?
We met with her and she was great, really took our vison for the cake and went with it. We tasted her samples and they were fabulous, not to mention her quoted price was 1/2 what the others were quoting.
Yesterday I gave them a call so we couid go down and pay for the cake, while on the phone with her she said we would have to buy all the candy pearls that would go on our chosen design along with the price of her making the cake. I was in a rush to get off the phone and into the shower so we could be there before they left for the day that I didn’t really think of asking her to clarify on that topic.
Once we got there, not only did she not accept credit cards 🙁 (My fault, didn’t ask about it, was still pissy because we drove a 1/2 hour for nothing.) but she elaborated on the pearl ordeal in which she didn’t want to buy the pearls because she didn’t want to mess up the colors… We were simply looking for shades of ivory, silver, and gold – I promise they weren’t hard colors to pick out.
I kind of left the shop in a huff and said I’d call her back. Guys- am I wrong to think she should look for and buy the pearls herself? FI, mom, and I were all under the understanding after leaving the consult a few months back that she would do that herself and that it was part of the quoted price.
Not to mention I don’t even know where to find such an item around here.
Any advice? I’ve been looking for a new cake person, but they are few and far between here. Many of them are already booked for our weekend as well..
Help? Am I in the wrong?
Post # 3
Many cake bakers require you to buy your own decorations. For example any designs made with buttercream are usually included but you pay for the ribbon, flowers, and anything else you want. I think I paid for an upgrade of the fondant/gumpaste designs and I paid my florist to provide the fresh flowers directly to my baker. Since the ribbon on my cake was pretty plain, they included it for free but they usually ask the bride to bring in their own ribbon.
Post # 4
My baker asked me to bring my own ribbon and cake topper. If I had any other design elements, aside from the buttercream, I was responsible for providing them. I don’t know if this is standard, but it’s what I experienced.
Post # 5
@miss.wiggums: Sorry sweetie, those pearls are your problem, and the reason for that is to ensure that you, the customer gets the exact thing, shade, color, shape that you want…otherwise it’s all a crap shoot and she could buy what she THOUGHT you wanted, and come to find out that your concept was totally different.
Post # 6
I agree with PPs that it’s pretty typical to buy your own decorations. However, my baker told me this. She said she could purchase them but that she charges extra to do this so I figured it was worth it to just do it myself. A quick search online showed that they should be easy to find. They might even sell them at Michaels.
Post # 7
Yep, Michaels and Jo-Anns has them in their cake decorating section. They’re also called “Dragees” and you can find them in various sizes.
Post # 8
You can totally order them online too. I have to provide the ribbon and flowers for my cake as well.
Post # 9
@miss.wiggums: If you’re near a Joann, use some coupons to buy them. If you have 5 items and five different coupons, they’ll take them all. It’s not a “1 coupon per transaction” store.
And you get bring Hobby Lobby and Michaels coupons too 🙂
Post # 10
@miss.wiggums: our baker is making us bring in the decor for our cake, as well.
Post # 11
Any decorations we want for our cake, we provide.
I supose that’s an easier way for bakeries to deal with picky brides?
I don’t care, but who knows, maybe I do? I haven’t started cake-planning yet.
Also, our venue doesn’t accept credit cards. We were upset at first, but OK with it after the coordinator told us it’s because in order for us to use a card, the CC company would charge us an extra percentage on top of the costs at their venue (probably the way their system is set up, it really doesn’t matter to us though) and he doesn’t want to do that to us.
So it was somewhat thoughtful and honestly, we can deal without using credit cards.
Don’t fret too much about cake!
And think on the bright side – you can pick out whatever pearls your heart desires now!
Post # 12
Thanks guys. None of the other bakeries we talked to had even mentioned it. She didn’t mention it either, I just wish I had known beforehand. It was a bit of a debbie downer moment if you know what I mean.