- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
A little over two years ago, my husband and I moved into my FIL’s house after he and his wife divorced, and he wanted to downsize to an apartment. His house was all paid for, so it was very generous of him to gift us his house, and for that I am very appreciative.
Of course with his moving into an apartment, there were some items that he had to leave here, such as a couple of tractors and whatnot, which was no big deal, as he sold most of those bigger items within a couple of months. The issue, however, has been with my husband’s BIL, who was also my ex-stepMIL’s brother (complicated family. I’d need a chart to explain it all!). BIL had lived here briefly when he and his wife were separated, so there was A LOT of his junk here.
So over the course of the past couple of years, BIL has dropped by whenever he feels like it, to pick some of his junk up, but at the same time he leaves more stuff here, in two sheds. This didn’t bother me at first, but now that it’s been TWO YEARS, I’m finding it a bit ridiculous that he keeps coming to our house to store his crap.
Supposedly FIL tells BIL that he can have various tools, which neither husband nor I care about if he takes, but it would be nice to be given a head’s up once in awhile before BIL just drops by and demands to be let into the shed. The one day we weren’t home, he actually sawed the lock off of the door to get in, instead of just waiting, and drove through our yard to get to it. And the last time he came over to get the tractor, they took the lawnmower instead…
Anyways, this is a big source of conflict between my husband and I, as I want all of their stuff gone so we don’t have this problem anymore, and my husband’s stand is “it’s not hurting anything sitting in there.” No, it isn’t, but they can’t just come and go as they please. It’s our house, and with our own things accumulating in there, what if they take them (I don’t think they would on purpose, but you never know).
Any advice on how to handle this situation? I have thought about doing a certified letter thing, telling BIL that he has so many days to come collect ALL of his stuff or else I’m pitching it, but I don’t know what all is involved there. I have thought about just throwing the stuff out, because I think it could be considered abandoned property. I don’t want to create a huge conflict within the family, but this is our home, not a dumping ground. I shouldn’t have to worry about the safety of our own items because BIL feels he can just wander around and take as he pleases.