Issue with invitations

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

cindy.tran.56211:  That sucks :(. It sounds like you really feel caught in between … If you haven’t done the invitations yet then you could put something like “Along with their parents, bride name and groom name would like to invite you” so it doesn’t need to feel as awkward about your father, if you still feel like you want to include him.

Post # 4
405 posts
Helper bee

If you pay for the invitations, then they have zero say in how you choose to word them.  But, if you want to keep the peace and do what they want, then I would use wording like below:<br />Ms. Margo Luanne Manning<br />Mr. Patrick Lewis Manning


request the pleasure of your company<br />at the marriage of their daughter<br />Amelia Rose

to<br />Liam Quinlan<br />son of Mr. and Mrs. Riordan Timothy Cullen<br />Saturday, the fifth of June<br />two thousand fourteen<br />at three o’clock <br />Gilfillan’s West Hill Country Club<br />Camillus, New York

Post # 5
373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

If one set of parents is divorce, you still list the bride’s parents first, but with the mom’s name on the first line and dad’s name on the second line.

You could also say:


Together with their parents,

Bride’s Mom

Bride’s Dad

Groom’s parents,

Bride and Groom

invite you to celebrate their wedding, etc.

You can still list your dad even if he will not walk you down the aisle.



Post # 6
631 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My Chinese friend (divorced parents w/ mother out of the picture since young age) just sent out her invitations  (Polish in laws) and they are worded like this:

Brides father


Grooms parents 

request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their children






additional information.


I say do whatever you both want. If he wants his parents on it to make them happy.. he is the groom. If you dont want your dad then dont. You each get to chose about your own family.. in my opinion… 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 4 months ago by  Scou.
Post # 7
90 posts
Worker bee

It is proper to put the brides name first. His name will come first once youre married, but as a not-yet- married couple, the lady’s name is always first. It’s your wedding, so do what you and fiancé want. Everyone else can hush. Also, might be a good idea to keep any remaining details from her, as it sounds like she will have an opinion!

Our invites will say “bride and groom request …”. We are paying, so we decide. However, we are not telling this to FMIL because she is going to be livid when she sees her name is not on there…even though she is not hosting. My mother is also upset, but they are not paying!



Post # 8
90 posts
Worker bee

Also meant to say you should get your groom on board. It’s very hard to battle inlaws by yourself, he needs to step up when she gets too pushy!

Post # 9
347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Honestly I never get why this matters! Both sets of parents are contributing in our wedding, and we are putting ‘together with their parents’ and everyone is happy with that.

Remember it is your wedding, and therefore your invitations! It’s not like you’re suggesting leaving them off altogether.

To me, ‘together with their parents’ is just a more succinct way of writing than having a long list of everyone’s names. I never really understand what the issue is – and my dad is really traditional yet is happy with this solution as it’s fair to everyone!

The name order thing is up to you – I would say your name first is fine!

Post # 10
8385 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think it depends on who is paying for the wedding.  I’m Chinese, but since we paid for our own wedding, we didn’t include parents’ names on the invites.

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