Post # 1
I am trying to plan with someone out of state to get married on Valentine’s Day, just the two of us. Today I called back to confirm if we could use the location we chose and the response I got was “well you’re picking a prime time”. The other day she had told me it would be just fine but it took me a couple days to get back with her because I needed to contact me fiance who is overseas and make sure he liked it.
My gut feeling is to just go elsewhere. That’s not starting on the right foot… I asked her if she would like me to pay a deposit and she said no. I’m worried she will bump us for someone else who is having a bigger ceremony and will pay more money. I completey understand if she would rather leave that date open for someone else, but then I think she should have told me no upfront when I spoke with her the other day.
I’m nervous about making all these plans and then getting there and it all doesn’t work out. It took me weeks to find this place and make a decision and now I think I should start over again.
How do you find reputable people who will do a good job with a destination elopement/wedding? Since it’s just the two of us and we aren’t spending very much money, I don’t feel like people really care very much about our business.
Post # 3
My only advice is: Always, always go with your gut feeling!
I’m sorry you’re having such a difficult time with the planning… usually people elope to avoid such hassles.
Where are you looking to elope? If you give us a little more information on what you’re looking for I’m sure someone can help come up with different locations!!
Post # 4
Yikes! What an ass like thing to say to you!
I’d go somewhere else. I got a horrid response via email from a restaurant that we were looking to host our (large) rehearsal dinner at. Deleted that one! It’s not worth your time to deal with crappy people.
Post # 5
We are planning to go to San Francisco. I can’t even remember how I came up with that location now but I’ve always wanted to go and it seems like fun. My fiance wanted to go to Las Vegas but I thought San Francisco would be prettier and more romantic. My fiance’s one and only request is that we go somewhere private so that’s why we haven’t chosen to meet a justice of the peace somewhere – which is what I think would be easiest. Ahhhh! This is supposed to be easy!
Post # 6
It’s never easy. Trust me. It will all work out though. That’s the cool part of weddings. Sh!t can hit the fan but somehow it works all out in the end.
Post # 7
I agree with Miss Sapphire…find someone else! As a wedding planner myself, that makes no sense what the person that you were working with did. She should’ve had the decency to let you know that she either can’t work with you or let you know that she is waiting on a tentative client so that it doesn’t get your hopes all high. So its most definitely not worth your time and effort for sure! Sorry you had to go through that =(
I know planning weddings are supposed to be one of the greatest and exciting times of our lives….but it can also be very frustrating at times. That is why I say don’t give up, just because one planner didn’t quite meet your expectations doesn’t mean you won’t find someone who meet your standards =) (This is what I always tell brides that I meet)
Planning a destination wedding can be a lot of work, but its worth it in the end. Hope everything works out in your favor! Many blessings to you!
Post # 8
I would avoid right on Valentines day. Wedding vendors are doing to be doing only BIG ( most profitable …. ) events that day . You’ll have much better luck if you aim for something the day before or after …. or just around that day. You could get married at sunset Feb 13 for example and then spend V-day as your first day married !
Post # 9
Our wedding in Vegas started as a joke! I was drinking one night (what’s new?!) and at a friends house, and called FI and told him that I wanted to wear my old dress (I”m an encore who held on to my first dress) and party in it, all night in Vegas. Here we go- the dress has been modified, but I will be waeing it all night, post wedding, in Vegas. If it’s just the two of youm you can afford to be creative and flexible. Find the officiant first then figure it out from there. It may be in from of a neat sign, or a pretty bridge..anything goes!