(Closed) Issues with my mom regarding my stepdad…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well…I think in the end the issue is if you want to have a relationship with your mother or not. She made it perfectly clear if you are not polite to her new husband than she will not want to be in your life. So, either be polite or don’t, but you need to be perfectly okay with decisions either way.

I fake polite with people I don’t like ALL the time. Like my grandmother. Nasty old woman, but she is my dad’s mother so to keep the peace between him and I…I am “polite”.

Post # 4
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2289 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Unfortunately, you are going to have to be polite to the SOB. Your Mom married him, which means that she’s chosen him. You regrettably must respect her position. And think of it this way; how would you feel if your Mother didn’t like your FI and refused to speak with him or have any kind of relationship with him? It would suck. Be “polite”, and as things come up try to work through them as respectfully as you can (i.e: “Step-father, I know you didn’t mean to do this, but please be careful not to break my furniture…”)

Post # 6
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176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think you’re a bad guy.  He’s a freaking jerk.  See if you can somehow limit your contact with him (without specifically ever saying that outloud) now that he’s living somewhere else. 

Post # 7
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835 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

i agree with @msblueshoes. limit your convos with him. if u need to talk to mama, go to llunch or something, or have your man distract him, play his lil game. and first and foremost, change the locks. u r a renter, he is not allowed in your house without you there or without your permission. i say ignore him, limit contact, and dont indulge him when he says outlandish stuff…and your sweetie should prepare himself that ole stepdaddy is gonna say crazy stuff.  and when its all said and done, i know u wanna help mama, but i would try to see about getting out of their house.  i know finances may not permit, but certainly try and not see the man. he sounds like an a$$….

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