(Closed) Issues with our photographer

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

That is completely insane, what kind of vendor asks to bring a date or thinks they should have an opinion on things that have NOTHING to do with the service they’re providing?! I think you’re definitely right to be concerned. She’s acting like a bossy guest or bridesmaid, not someone you are paying for a service. Why is her siser getting mad at you – have you explained the situation to her? I can’t see how she could possibly think YOU are the one being rude.

I would drop her as your photograpjher – if you don’t I think you’ll really regret it on your wedding day, when you’ll probably have to bug her to do her job, and then even more when you’re unhappy with pictures of moments that can’t be re-created. I’m kind of stumped on how to do it without making things awkward with your friend though, hoping some other bees come along with advice for you.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

She had her mother call you? how old is she? Wow, talk about unprofessional.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Stay strong! Good luck! Drop them all!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@meeegz2587:  Yikes, I could see her being curious about your plans in a “trying to be supportive” kind of way, as photographers are a BIG part of your wedding and you’ll be getting to know them quite well…

But if she’s trying to interfere or keeps asking when you obviously don’t want to share with her… no.

And everything else is completely unprofessional! I wonder if she is always this unprofessional or if its because she thinks she can be since she already knows you. Either way, its no good. I would go with someone else…

I swear, when you’re friends with a vendor, sometimes some of them think that they can treat you in an unprofessional way. At my work, some of my clients become my friends and some of my friends become my clients. That’s fine. But you HAVE to maintain professionalism no matter what when you are doing your job. Sometimes I think some people get confused as to what is “job time” and what is “friend/acquaintance time”. They don’t seem to realize that so long as they are working with someone – it is professional time. Thankfully, for me, the boundaries are more clear. If we’re in my work its time to be professional. For a friendor, I think its more confusing.

I was okay with having a friendor photographer until she tried to get me to pay for her family to take a trip to Scotland. Nooooo longer my photographer.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Is she an actual professional photographer with a real business or is she doing a few weddings on the side mostly for family/friends?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Lashmont:   yah, I’m wondering the same thing.   I’d be SHOCKED if she had an actual business.

Either way, DUMP HER ASAP.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@meeegz2587:  I’d look for a new photographer too!

Did you sign a contract (or anything) with your friend’s sister?

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

Even when we shoot weddings for friends and family we approach those events like business relationships.  There are contracts, and those people become our clients.  You need to get another photographer as soon as you can.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

That’s too bad. I was hoping she had an excuse haha! 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I offer opinions/advice on wedding plans when I am either A.) Asked specifically to do so or B.) See my client struggling with a decision and looking for deciding factors to help THEM make that decision. All I can do is point out, from a photography standpoint, what I think will work best for their photos. My “opinion” may or may not affect their decision and I don’t push either way. It’s the photographer’s job to make THE CLIENT’S vision come to life in the photos, not push them into creating THE PHOTOGRAPHER’S vision.

Unless your friend’s sister’s husband is a photographer and offering to second shoot for free (in which case he would not need a guest seat, maybe just a vendor meal as a courtesy) that is a completely ridiculous request. Your wedding is not a party for them to get drunk at and have fun. She is supposed to be WORKING and unless her husband is working too (assisting or shooting) he would be nothing more and a huge distraction and an extra expense. You made the right choice starting the search for someone else!

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