(Closed) Issues…rant..whatever else you wanna call it. Ugh moh problems.

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sorry you’re feeling aggrivated.  It would be hard not to be given what you’ve mentioned.  It could be jealousy causing her behavior.  It could be that with the wedding talk (as little as it might have been) she’s realizing that her bff is moving on with her life and a-you won’t have as much time for her as you previously did and b-that she really wants to be in the same place as you, but isn’t.

I think sometimes people go through their own issues and it’s very tough to be a good friend.  I know there have been times when my own life was a bigger concern for me and I wasn’t there for my friends as much as I normally would have been.  Vice versa for some of my close girlfriends.

I can see her point on the bridal shower.  My sis is getting married this year as well, and lives across the country.  Despite that, I know her friends and had fully planned on throwing her a shower.  When she told me that another friend was considering it, I was pretty hurt. Yes, saving money would have been nice, but I had thought long and hard about what kind of shower to throw her.  Is there any chance the shower your aunt is throwing is mostly family?  Or could it be?  Perhaps do family only with the aunt and friends with the MOH?

Overall, I think the best thing is going to be for you to talk to her.  Plan a fun day where wedding talk is not involved and you can get back to being close friends.  Reassure her she isn’t losing you as a friend because of the marriage and that there is still plenty to talk about besides the upcoming wedding.  See how that goes and take things from there.  

I hope it gets better for you!

Post # 4
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sigh…… from what it seems she has some issues going on in herself.

Maybe try and have coffee with her to talk about her, just her, give advice if needed or just an ear, NO WEDDING… it seems she is “crying out” with her constant self interjections.

Maybe something happened or your wedding has just brought up some insecurities?… but I think the important thing is to figure out what’s going on and working out your friendship through love & acceptance

I know that it’s your wedding, and you’re the bride, BUT if this girl is a real friend of yours then I suggest seeing if you can shift your focus and see if you two can get back on the same page.

And then maybe whatever is going on in her can be dealt with and you two can get back to being excited together….

If she still does all these things then I suggest just loving her through it and seeing if your other BM can maybe pick up the slack….

I personally don’t think a wedding is a reason to loose a friendship….. it really is only a 1 day thing and it’s over like the snap of a finger (believe me… after all said and done I couldn’t BELIEVE I put SO much time, stress, and everything into it)

The day is about you and your fh and those that love you…. all the “tasks” and such are just a small part of it.

Sorry if I didn’t tell you what you wanted to hear… I just know that people are more important and alot of times as brides we can forget that and get wrapped up in the whole “wedding thing”

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