Post # 1
I just saw a very passive agresive dig on facebook from a “friend” about her husband (who is a closer friend) about his hobby. She has never liked it, and doesn’t like most of his friends because they are all friends because of the same hobby. The hobby isn’t dangerous, does not include any substances, and has been his hobby a lot longer than they have been together. In fact, her husband and I met through this hobby before I knew her. She is also not excluded from joining the hobby, and has tried, but didn’t like it because she was not the center of attention.
Their relationship is already on the rocks because of this issue, which she keeps pressing. He has said on multiple occasions that while she comes first, his hobby is important to him, and he isn’t going to stop. This was before they got married.
Watching them on facebook is like watching a train wreck waiting to happen… but good god, I can’t turn away. I know it’s not the healthiest, but anyone else have friends like this?
Oh, before I was done with this post, she made a second comment about it. Where is my pop corn?
Post # 3
I’m intrigued — what is this hobby?
Post # 5
@Misswhowedding: i want to know the hobby!
But yes, I have ‘friends’ like this. There are people on my facebook that I can’t bring myself to delete (even though we’re not really friends) because their drama is just too entertaining.
Post # 6
@Misswhowedding: Yep! My husband’s closest friend and his girlfriend need to break up. They are wonderful people, just not wonderful together. Normally they are blah towards one another, but when you add alcohol to the mix, it is fireworks. It is a trainwreck. To give you an idea how bad the last time we went was, there was an unprovoked cat fight because someone was talking to her man, drunken tears over not being engaged, followed by a discussion about she is not sure he is the one, a drunken verbal fight with her boyfriend, then another verbal and physical altercation where she almost got kicked out. Then she went and hurled all over a restaurant bathroom, then out the cab window.
It was so bad my DH just turned to me and said “buzzzz! Weddingbee is going to be all over this drama!”
Post # 7
@BluSptLvR: I’d also like to make a motion that this hobby be brought to the floor for discussion.
@Misswhowedding: And to answer your question: yes. Not really on facebook (occasionally), but they do argue and bicker and full out fight A LOT in front of other people. I’d grab popcorn, but its really more awkward than anything.
Post # 8
@abbie017: @BluSptLvR: Roleplaying type things, like D&D. Though, mostly variations as there are thousands of these type games out there. Trying to be light on the details as I don’t know if she is on here or not.
Post # 9
I’m beginning to have a love/hate relationship with Facebook for the reasons that people SUPER overshare a lot. I’m on it just to keep in touch with family who lives far away and my best friend and his wife who live in Japan.
Over the weekend this trainwreck happened:
MY FBIL’s roommate decided it was a good idea to put a picture of FBIL’s ex-girlfriends children’s toys sitting outside on their deck with a caption that said “And the annual ex girlfriend needs to pick up her stuff day at casa de **/** is underway. (At least this one don’t need a u-haul).”
Like really? Not only is this super super inappropriate because the daughter (who is 5 and has no idea what is going on) did nothing to FBIL but FBIL and his roommate both had custody of their respective children that weekend (who are all boys, BTW). To me, this is inappropriate to be teaching/showing children. I actually looked at my FI the other day and said that I feel really sorry for his nephews because they don’t have a good example of how a normal, functioning, healthy relationshp is.
Post # 10
My cousin and his dreadful wife are constantly bickering. Not really on Facebook, but it’s pretty obvious when they are in a fight. They both change their pictures to ones solely of them and then when they make up they usually put up a wedding picture from their 2012 wedding. Their pictures change at least once a week, but usually more like 2 or 3. It’s terrible but it’s also so amusing to me because everyone that knows them knows they should have never gotten married to begin with.
Post # 11
@Misswhowedding: Oh gosh, I was so close. I was going to guess World of Warcraft.
Roleplaying/cosplay/LARPing is awesome. She sounds like a boring person.
Post # 12
oh my. DH and I were SUCH drama when we were first dating. We would get drunk and F-I-G-H-T. We were as reliable as clockwork. I don’t know why this happened, and thankfully it doesn’t happen anymore, but I was always soooo embarassed. Luckily our friends are awesome and never held it against us. Ah god, it pains me to even think about it now!!
Post # 13
@Misswhowedding: I used to have friends like this on facebook who would put up the most passive-aggressive statuses and everyone would know they had a fight with their SO, or they were fighting with their BFF but my absolute favorite one was of one couple where the BF was blatantly cheating (updates constantly of him being tagged with the “other woman” and the “other woman” commenting “<3 him” on the photo…) so the GF in this who would then see these updates would post things like “So tired of being a doormat” and things like that but NEVER LEFT HIM. This went on for MONTHS. So finally she must have had her fill and she posted something that wasn’t so passive aggressive anymore… something along the lines of “BF, have fun with your whore, I hope you get herpes!” To which their mutual friends starting freaking out and telling her to take it down in the commnet otherwise he would flip out at her.
Oh yeah by they way, they’re still together.
Post # 14
@LiliKitty: She has done this too. Not so much him, as he doesn’t raise to the facebook bait.
@spezia: I love it too. Espeically the cos-play/LARP because I get to wear cool stuff that I would not otherwise get a chance to wear.
Post # 15
@Misswhowedding: OH! Don’t worry there are a ton of gamers out here so no need to worry about finding out!
@spezia: +1 She does sound boring lol
Post # 16
@Misswhowedding: It’s so immature for a married couple to have a public fight about something on facebook rahter than discussing in person. That being said…. I totally have peole on my facebook that I keep on there for entertainment!