Post # 1
Does anyone else really not like this phrase? First, it’s in human nature to complain about something that’s crappy. It just irritates me that when I’m complaining someone is like “Well it could be worse… people are starving in Africa.” Or “It could be worse, someone could have died.”
Like YES things could always be worse, but by saying that it doesn’t make things better. It doesn’t make me less annoyed about x, y, or z. So stop using that phrase and trying to shame me in feeling bad about it. Kind of annoying, but whatever.
And when I say stop, I just mean people in general, not anyone specifically.
Post # 3
doesn’t bother me, i actually like a reality check and to have someone else bring in perspective to snap me out of whatever stupid thing I’m likely worrying about. most of the time we freak out over silly little things and it’s true – it could be worse. I’m also the person when something bad happens (no matter how awful) for someone to just tell me THAT FUCKING SUCKS instead of omg im so sorry, thinking of you, how i can help… You can help by agreeing with me that it sucks!
Post # 4
It does kinda belittle your concerns and feelings, doesn’t it?
I use the phrase for myself with regard to my own problems, but never say it to other people.
Post # 5
I’m not typically a fan of Dr Phil (ok, not at all) but I did hear a nice little gem from him once:
If you have a papercut, but I have a broken arm, does that make your papercut hurt any less? No.
There are always problems bigger than yours in the world, but that doesn’t make yours any less concerning to you.
Post # 6
@MissNoodles: Yes, this is exactly what I was getting at. It does belittle your feelings a bit. Like obviously things can be worse, but it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t suck right now.
Post # 7
@MrsWBS: Yea, sometimes it’s just nice to vent and have someone agree that it does suck. I don’t need anyone to solve my problem, but it’s nice to let my frustrations out.
Post # 8
Honestly it depends on who says it how it’s said and what they are responding to. If its something minor ok maybe I need a reality check but if it is in response to something I am truly upset or concerned with it just makes me more upset.
Post # 9
@FoxyBride14: Oh I hate this too. Feelings are valid and I HATE when they’re diminished for anyone.
Post # 10
Sometimes I appreciate the reality check, but I agree that overall it isn’t a helpful thing to say: pain is pain. I had a roommate in college who would ALWAYS tell me any ailment I had could be worse because she had diabetes and it was the most awful thing anyone could go through. Bitch, I had blood clots in my LUNGS. That was pretty awful! *ahem*
Post # 11
@FoxyBride14: Yes, it can annoy me. I try to ignore it because I feel it’s just a platitude. People are like “It could be worse,” and I want to say “Or it could be better.” haha. Knife cuts both ways, so I think the “argument” of it for “perspective” is completely invalid. Sure they could be worse, but they could also be better, so what’s the point of even saying it?
It’s like it’s just supposed to make you feel bad about how you feel, which just makes you feel worse. haha. Completely useless phrase, typically. Sometimes it’s fine and works, but usually it’s just pointless to say and/or will just make the person feel worse.
Post # 12
@FoxyBride14: Yeah I guess it can be annoying. I suppose it’s the quick, easy way of trying to say “put things into perspective”, which is a known psychological technique (positive reframing) designed to reduce stress.
It can be construed as rude and dismissive, though, and as a way to gloss over the problem.
Post # 13
While I agree that sometimes we all need a little reality check, often that does annoy me. Unless the people saying it have a fix for whatever I’m upset about it, they can just shut it if that’s what they’re going to say.
Post # 14
@MissCalifornia: Yea blood clots in your lungs do not sound fun. 🙁 Hope you’re ok now though.
Post # 15
Reality checks are sometimes necessary, but sometimes I just need to hear “It totally sucks!”
Post # 16
I hate that phrase. A few months ago (naturally right before my wedding) I had a hand/arm injury that made me not able to use my hands. It was incredibly painful and I couldn’t do anything! DH was even brushing my hair for me. And someone said “Well it could be worse” + some example. I wanted to harm them. Except I couldn’t, since I had no use of my hands. I’m actually still dealing with the injury today, although since I’m typing I clearly can use my hands now 🙂