Post # 1
So I’ve been very happily married for almost 8 months. It’s been way fun, and we have settled happily into our home. We both work at the same place, but different hours, and have the same days off which is super nice. It means that we get to have our time together, and sleep in together, which is a nice relief.
However, I’ve been looking on facebook, and a lot of my friends are going through exciting times in their lives. They’re getting engaged, they’re getting married, they’re having kids, they’re making strides in their careers, etc. Even my own brother has been makeing great progress in both his schooling, and his career, and I’m super happy for him. I guess the best thing to say is that I’m jealous. I’m not in school, I’m in a job that pays well but probably isn’t going anywhere, and there’s really nothing exciting going on.
My husband and I are saving money, being smart newlyweds. There’s no surprises, no excitement. Not to say I’m bored with my husband or our life, I just wish that there would be some sort of change to our routine, other than a double EXP even on our favorite MMO (nerd talk)
Post # 3
Go on vacation, go to grad school, pick a hobby, buy and/or fix up a house, or have a baby. That’s all I got.
Post # 4
@ElbieKay: I disagree. Don’t have a baby just because you’re bored.
Post # 5
I coupon and every Sunday I’m super excited to go through the coupons and circulars.
You can also try taking a class or volunteering.
Post # 6
We’re kinda at the same point — life certainly isn’t boring, but we just aren’t in the major life changes club right now, no baby or house on the horizon or anything. However, I’ve been told to enjoy this happy, calm time because we’ll miss it when it’s gone!
We’re trying to save money, too, but one thing we’ve found that breaks the routine is just to take a fun weekend trip. It doesn’t have to be far, and it doesn’t have to be for long. And it certainly doesn’t have to be expensive. Just getting away together and having something to look forward to can make the biggest difference. 🙂
Post # 7
Life is only as exciting as you want it to be, an adventure is just as close as a step out of your door. Mr. 99 and I are little eccentric, I like looking at Offbeat Destinations and finding weird and wonderful places for us to go invade, take dumb pictures, and buy something totally crappy from the gift shop! We have a cork board in the kitchen, we fill it up with pictures, post cards, weird things we find, ticket stubs and bottle caps, whatever, on New Year’s Day, we take it all down, put the stuff in a box and mark it that year and start all over again, sometimes I’ll be cleaning up the dinner stuff and Mr. 99 will be standing in front of the board, eating a popsicle or something and he’ll say, “The board is looking a little dull, let’s go to Bishop’s Castle, or The Cave of the Winds…or whatever.”
Just decide to go somewhere and go, or plan a party, take home brewing your own beer classes, haunted houses are a thing right now…just start doing stuff and before you know it, you’ll find your more busy on the weekends and happy to get to work so you can sit in the same place for five minutes!
Post # 8
@mrslittlefish: I was being a little tongue-in-cheek, but I guess that’s not so clear over the internet.
Personally, I don’t find my life post-wedding to be boring at all, so to be honest I don’t really relate to the OP.
Post # 9
I’m not married yet (still engaged) but I can relate to the OP: I feel like it’s easy to get in a funk even when you really enjoy your life because it doesn’t have that excitement, that feeling of change: it feels like it’s on pause, especially after all the life changes you had with marriage! But I would second the above advice: it’s not hard to find little “excitements” to shake up your routine. Find a new hobby! When I was really bored with college, I knew I needed a hobby, so I started a blog, and it was exactly what I needed. Put together a cookbook. Start a quest to find the perfect Christmas gift for your mom, dad, whatever. It doesn’t have to be expensive: maybe join a book club or other community organization. Just something new and different that shakes up your routine!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
I am basically the type of person who needs to be planning or doing something in order to be happy so I truly can understand where you’re coming from. Since home buying and babies are so far away right now I was feeling very restless without something to plan or look forward to.
So we’re planning out a vacation which has been really exciting (choosing a destination, where to stay, what to do while we’re away, shopping for the best deals, etc.) and we’ve also been hosting dinner parties 1-2 times a month which is a great way to get everyone together and I get to plan out and coordinate a whole meal and activities for the evening.
Post # 11
Don’t stop dating. Just because you are married now doesnt mean the romance and excitement has to stop, that’s why marriages go through some of the struggles that they do. Keep going on dates and trying new things. It doesnt have to be crazy but it should still be fun and exciting.
Post # 12
@Nona99: Amen Sister!!
Life is what you make if it!
To quote the Great Louis CK:
“I’m bored’ is a useless thing to say. I mean, you live in a great, big, vast world that you’ve seen none percent of. Even the inside of your own mind is endless; it goes on forever, inwardly, do you understand? The fact that you’re alive is amazing, so you don’t get to say ‘I’m bored.”
Post # 13
That’s great that you and your husband have the same days off! I know you said you’re saving money and that alone can get pretty boring… but have you tried looking into a short vacation you guys could take together or just a fun activity? Do you have pets? My 3 dogs definitely keep me from being bored… Do you enjoy cooking? I wasn’t really into cooking until a few months after getting settled into married life–I love trying out new recipes and expanding my repertoire.
I feel like all my free time is taken up with cooking, taking care of my dogs, playing videogames and cards with friends, and little “dates” with the hubby like going out to dinner/drinks, going to a movie, getting massages (I’m always checking Groupon and Living Social for these kinds of deals), etc. And of course this time of year, football.
This IS an exciting time in many 20-somethings’ lives (I’m assuming that’s your age?) with marriage, kids, grad school, etc. Try to be happy and always improving upon what you have going on; I’m sure plenty of people feel jealous that you have a good job, a husband you love, and no kids yet.
Post # 14
@Pomapoo: We have two cats and two tarantulas. I study the tarantulas, but it’s difficult to get extremely excited over a creature dubbed “A living rock” 😀
We do have the same days off, unfortunately they’re not two days together, it’s wednesday and sunday, making a vacation, even a little getaway impossible! It’s frustrating cuz I can think of a million places I’d love to go for a little trip but work is super stingy about giving time off, and you have to plan waaaaaay ahead.
I really wish we had a dog, but our apartment won’t allow it, even a small one. Some day we definitely plan on it.
Post # 15
@Gemstone: Getaways are impossible, especially overnighters, cuz our days off aren’t together. They’re Wednesday and Sunday.
Post # 16
We’ve been married almost 5 months and have experienced a little of that as well. I try to find excitement in little things. “We’re fixing up our apartment so last week we got a couch, awesome!” Things like that. I also like trying to new places to eat, so I look out for groupons and living socials, which have the added bonous of being cheap, so if it doesn’t turn out well (our last foray to a new bbq place was not good…) then it’s ok.
I’m working on decorating our apartment and making things feel homey, and this close to Christmas thinking of and finding creative gifts for our loved ones is also on the list! I’m making wedding photo books for our mom’s right now; since you were married earlier this year too, that might be fun as well. 🙂 Good luck!