Post # 1
I’m about to get engaged, and we know we are getting married in the fall, and I am going to be ready to start dress shopping soon and it finally hit me that my sister, who is my best friend and will be my maid of honor will not be here. I’ve known the whole time she wouldn’t be, but I just now am getting upset about it. I don’t really have any close girlfriends, and my mom is a very butch lesbian (which I say with love and no judgement, just pointing out dress shopping is SOO not her thing), and my sister is just the person I always imagined would do it with me. Just feeling kind of blue… Maybe ring pictures will cheer me up?
Post # 3
@nattiejeanne: Could you bring along an iPad and skype/facetime her in for some of the time you are trying on gowns so she can see your top contenders?
Post # 4
@nattiejeanne: I am so sorry that your sister won’t be able to join you. It is hard when we really want those special moments with our family/friends and they just aren’t possible.
I will say this my mom, grandmother and majority of my family was not there when I did my dress shopping. I thought I would be really sad but in the end I bought my dress on a solo trip to the boutique so that I would base my decision on my thoughts alone.
I would see if you could take pictures and send them to your sister for input. What about your MIL, SIL or any female family members on DH’s side? Would any of them be interested in joining you?
Post # 5
Skype is possible and I can definitely send pictures. I think since she can’t come I probably will go on my own. I really hate shopping, and probably wouldn’t want it to be abig group thing anyways, and I like the idea of it being my choice with no one elses input! Just a bummer she is so far away!
Post # 6
@nattiejeanne: OK so I feel like I’m stalking your posts. 🙂
My sister is my best friend and wasn’t able to be with me when I bought my dress. My mom is also very disinterested in the whole idea of wedding. Very supportive of our marriage, just gives no shits about the wedding decisions. I was with my Fiance and he was real-time texting my sister photo and doing his best vocal impression of her when he read her responses. It won’t be the same but it technology can help. She and I set up ‘cyber dates’ to shop for shoes and a veil where it’s just us, gchat and a lot of Etsy links.
Post # 7
@nocleverbeepun: That is a good idea. I don’t know why I didn’t think to bring him with me! I already told him I’m not one to care whether he sees the dress beforehand!
Post # 8
I second the idea of having him come!
We live far from our families, and I had FI come with me and text my mom pictures and video. He actually enjoyed it a lot, and it allowed me to include my mom.
Post # 9
and the nice thing about taking your FI is that even though hes seeing your dress, he wont see you all done up so his jaw will just drop more, just when he thinks he knows what to expect! 🙂 good luck!
Post # 10
@nattiejeanne: I bought my dress alone, and it was the right decision for me. My family and closest friends were not immediately available, and I wanted to get the ball rolling. There are also such absurd expectations of how you are supposed to feel when you find “the dress” and I was not interested in that kind of pressure.
So many things about wedding planning are super fun and really special, but it’s ok if not EVERY SINGLE THING is life changing… or at least that’s what I tell myself!
Post # 11
Thanks ladies! I do think I’ll have him come! He is the person I’m closest too anyways, even more so than my sister! Plus as much as the idea of him being surprised is nice, I also like the idea of having his feedback! His opinion is the one I care mostg about after all..
Post # 12
@Ifoundone: He also had a mini “omg it’s a wedding dress” moment the first time he went shopping with me, so I don’t feel robbed of that experience at all. Actually, I’m kind of glad it wasn’t lost in the rest of the excitement of the wedding day!
Post # 13
@nattiejeanne: I went dress shopping by myself and emailed pictures to my mom, sisters and BFF. I really liked going by myself. Less pressure, I was more relaxed and focused on what I wanted.