It finally hit me…. now I'm feeling blue

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@nattiejeanne:  Could you bring along an iPad and skype/facetime her in for some of the time you are trying on gowns so she can see your top contenders?

Post # 4
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@nattiejeanne:  I am so sorry that your sister won’t be able to join you. It is hard when we really want those special moments with our family/friends and they just aren’t possible.

I will say this my mom, grandmother and majority of my family was not there when I did my dress shopping. I thought I would be really sad but in the end I bought my dress on a solo trip to the boutique so that I would base my decision on my thoughts alone.

I would see if you could take pictures and send them to your sister for input. What about your MIL, SIL or any female family members on DH’s side? Would any of them be interested in joining you?

Post # 6
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@nattiejeanne: OK so I feel like I’m stalking your posts. 🙂 

My sister is my best friend and wasn’t able to be with me when I bought my dress.  My mom is also very disinterested in the whole idea of wedding.  Very supportive of our marriage, just gives no shits about the wedding decisions.     I was with my Fiance and he was real-time texting my sister photo and doing his best vocal impression of her when he read her responses.  It won’t be the same but it technology can help.  She and I set up ‘cyber dates’ to shop for shoes and a veil where it’s just us, gchat and a lot of Etsy links. 

Post # 8
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014


I second the idea of having him come!

We live far from our families, and I had FI come with me and text my mom pictures and video.  He actually enjoyed it a lot, and it allowed me to include my mom. 

Post # 9
5 posts

and the nice thing about taking your FI is that even though hes seeing your dress, he wont see you all done up so his jaw will just drop more, just when he thinks he knows what to expect! 🙂 good luck!

Post # 10
650 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@nattiejeanne:  I bought my dress alone, and it was the right decision for me. My family and closest friends were not immediately available, and I wanted to get the ball rolling. There are also such absurd expectations of how you are supposed to feel when you find “the dress” and I was not interested in that kind of pressure. 

So many things about wedding planning are super fun and really special, but it’s ok if not EVERY SINGLE THING is life changing… or at least that’s what I tell myself!

Post # 12
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Ifoundone:  He also had a mini “omg it’s a wedding dress” moment the first time he went shopping with me, so I don’t feel robbed of that experience at all.  Actually, I’m kind of glad it wasn’t lost in the rest of the excitement of the wedding day!

Post # 13
9938 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@nattiejeanne:  I went dress shopping by myself and emailed pictures to my mom, sisters and BFF.  I really liked going by myself.  Less pressure, I was more relaxed and focused on what I wanted. 

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