Post # 1
Well Bees, it happened. I had read so many stories on here of people crossing out the number given on their reply cards to add extra people, asking the parents if they can come, or just showing up with extras on the wedding day. I always thought “wow there are a bunch of rude or dis-connected people out there! But that won’t happen to me!”
Insert foot in mouth. My father informed me today that my cousin–who I have met twice in my entire life, and have not seen in 13 years, and who I never talk to–would like to come to my wedding because “she just got engaged and wants to come see what its like.” Excuse me? What? My wedding is not a show-pony for you to inspect if you’re thinking of having your own. You can look at pictures after its over, or buy a magazine. We are already dangerously close to our maximum capacity, and even though my father offered to pay for their meals, I am really just not stoked about scrunching everyone into an even tighter space because my cousin just wants to “check it out.”
Okay, vent over. Thanks for listening.
What have other bees done when this has happened to them?
Post # 3
I haven’t experiened it (yet) but good lord… I can’t believe what she said!!! I’d be pissed off enough to flat out say no and not feel bad about it. How tactless for her to say that’s why she wants to attend the most special day of your life.
Post # 4
Hmm, ya that’s a bizarre thing to admit—that you’d like to attend a wedding to see what it’s like. But, in the grand scheme of things, try not to get too bent out of shape. You don’t want any negative feelings to interfere with the excitement of the day, and hey, maybe you’ll get the reciprocal invite so you can ‘check out her wedding’ after 😉
Post # 5
Sorry. 🙁 Some people never cease to amaze me. I met a girl at a party and she found and friended me on FB a few months ago. We never talked a lot and never saw each other in person. Right after I got engaged though, the messages from her were nonstop. She was planning my wedding, telling me she could be my wedding planner and just came right out and said I’m invited right? Just mind blowing. It’s like you don’t know anything about me but you want to be at my wedding? Weirdo.
Post # 6
Lol, don’t ya just want to “Bride Slap” them silly
That and say outloud…
Sure, just so you know WE ALL (this side of the family) inturn EXPECT an invite to your Wedding to see “how it turned out… and if it was up to snuff”
Lol, ok I couldn’t help myself
Ya it happens, too many folks don’t understand Etiquette, or WHY their tagging on can be considered an “inconvenience” to those who are Hosting (really that is the part I’ve figured that causes all this… people just don’t think / realize what their presence costs… Invitations – Postage – Food – Beverage – Tables, Chairs, Dishes, Cutlery – Centrepieces – Favours etc)
The COST can be significant !!
Post # 7
I had my highschool teacher ask my family if she could come to the wedding. I haven’t seen or talked to her in 7 years! It’s just so random that she even wants to come.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
@DrRoberta: Hope you’re putting your foot down on this one. You can ship her all your bridal magazines for inspiration. Unbelievable!!
Post # 9
Happened to me too. I was out watching the NCAA Championship (Rock Chalk) and a girl I went to high school with and haven’t seen more than a few times since said “I know I’m probably not invited to your wedding, but if you have extra room I would love to go see what it looks like.” I’m having my wedding on the top terrace of a new hotel overlooking campus and she wanted to see the view. If you want to see the view go up there during a time when it is open to the public. I am very non-confrontational and was not prepared for that, I literally had nothing to say.
Post # 10
Doesn’t she have any friends who have gotten/are getting married? I’ve been invited to 4 weddings in the last 7 years.
Post # 11
It happened to me too. I went ahead and made the adjustment and then the person was a no-show…