It happenend to me..I got pressured into buying a dress and now I hate it :(

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

hjfleming2066:  What do you not like about the dress?  Do you have a picture?  I felt the same way when I bought my dress.  I was slowly getting over my dress regret, but I’m having regrets again because I keep coming across pictures of dresses I like more.  Even though my dress doesn’t come in until March, I’ve been emailing seamstresses or dress makers to see if they can change my dress.  I’m sure the dress looked great on you.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

hjfleming2066:  

Well have you considered selling the dress you bought and starting over. I am a bridal consultant and have had many brides who already purchased a dress, sold it, and used the money to buy a new one. I would just do it early so you have enought time to get a new one, also do you have a picture of the one you bought even if it is the designer photo?

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I feel like you didn’t finish the story? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

hjfleming2066:  

If you really don’t like it sell it. There is a difference between dress regret because a girl is fickle and dress regret because you were pressured into a dress you never really wanted. Try preownedweddingdresses.com or oncewed to sell. Like I said in my previous post try to do it right away so you have enough time to get a new dress. Also people may give you a hard time but ultimately you get to do this once so you need to be happy, it isn’t a bridezilla thing or anything if you handle it yourself. I would say on your second round of shopping consider going alone to pick one you like then bring people back when you want to purchase it, I have many brides who do that at my store to avoid what happened to you. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I also was having dress regret, but after a day or two of thinking of if am feeling much better. Are you still not feeling this is your dress at all? I personally think it’s beautiful but this is your only chance to be the bride you want to be! Don’t let thinking that asking to return it wold be awkward. you need to love your dress!!

from your other shopping trips did you see anything you liked better? Any pics?

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

hjfleming2066:  Oh i think that’s a really pretty dress!  Definitely make the top to a sweetheart neckline.  I think the dress looks great as a strapless though.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee

hjfleming2066:  First of all, it does look beautiful on you! But I understand, as I was dead set on cap sleeves. I had the opposite issue and settled on a cap sleeve dress, even though I didn’t love the dress, but because it was the only one with cap sleeves out there at the time, I got it. Now I wish I had picked something that I really loved all over, even if it meant straps or strapless. But I digress, you could definitely do a sheer top over that to give you the cap sleeves if that’s the main issue with the dress. I was actually just looking through Bhldn the other day and saw a lace strapless dress that they put a sheer cover over, and you seriously cannot tell that it isn’t part of the dress. Here are pics:

http://www.bhldn.com/bridal-party-guests-view-all-dresses/juliette-dress-and-camille-topper-blush

 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think you should sell the dress and keep looking if you don’t feel great about it. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Golf Course

I would sleep on it for a day or two, and see how you feel then. I just finished up dress shopping, I totally understand how confusing it is and how you think you will voice your own opinion but it is so hard when everyone else seems to agree something else looks better.

Have you thought about having cap sleeves added to this dress? It could look very nice. Otherwise, as PPs have suggested, you could sell the dress and start again. Have you tried looking for your dream dress (the Maggie Sottero) on preownedweddingdresses or on classifieds? Perhaps it didn’t work out for someone else and you could sell yours and purchase theirs at a lower price 🙂

Post # 13
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Worker bee

I’m just chiming in to say that I think you’re at the same place where I’ve been looking for a dress! (Are you in northern Mississippi?) Their one-on-one attention is amazing. The dress looks beautiful, so maybe you could make it work for what you want. Could you have cap sleeves added?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

Terrible… I must say, I look at your picture in that dress and I feel underwhelmed.  You MUST have a dress that makes your heaert sing! Sell it and find one that has the features you want. I totally get what you are saying about strapless dresses. Why wouldn’t you want some shoulder coverage?

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

I’m kind of obsessed with those Maggie Sottero dresses. You look amazing in the first one, and it’s a really different look than the dress you have. I agree with PPs. Try to sell it or return it to the store (this stuff happens all the time so no need to feel awkward that you know the owners)!

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