Post # 1
So I have been reading posts from other bees about relatives and friends who are rudely inviting themselves to their weddings.
I have laughed at these posts, thinking it’ll never happen to us….. Well, I guess I laughed way too soon.
Fiance just got a text message from an aunt he never speaks to and who he doesn’t like or have anything to do with, who has told him that she better be invited, since she is the only aunt who lives in our state. She also told Fiance his dad better be paying for the alcohol because she is going to start preparing herself now for a big day.
Um… rrrrriiigghhtt. I’m sorry… who SAYS that??! (also how the hell did she get his number??!)
Meanwhile, we never even planned on inviting her (or most of FI’s distant family for that matter.) It’s just odd. I’m seriously blown away!! And I thought this wedding was going to be simple and inviting/not inviting people was going to be easy! Argghh…
Sorry, just had to share!
Post # 3
Isn’t that so annoying? Luckily, at the end of the day, you are the ones in charge of the guest list!
Post # 4
I’m wondering if that’ll happen with FI’s family! His father passed a couple of years ago, and while Fiance has made some effort to stay in contact with a few relatives from that side, they’ve been pretty elusive. I keep telling him we should invite a couple of them to be nice, but he’s always said there’s no point. Yet I do wonder if we’ll hear from them before the end of it.
I cannot believe his aunt said that about the alcohol! How ridiculous.
Post # 5
It is annoying! I’ve had that and I’ve also had my mom call relatives who said they couldn’t come to ask why?! Whos cares? lol Let them not come it helps me save money 🙂
I always say “I’m sorry but we are having a very intimate ceremony with a tight budget”.
And what if you were having a dry wedding? lol She prob wouldn’t come
Post # 6
Its sad and frustrating, isn’t it? I feel your pain. The good news is, however, that the guest list, is really, In My Humble Opinion, the WORST part of the wedding planning. Everything else is a breeze. So smooth sailing from here! hehe.
I used to think, there is no way someone would be that rude, but then I decided to get married, and OMG! Its like all of a sudden people turn off their “filters” and say the rudest crap!
I’m sorry you’re going through this, but Gemstone is right, at the end of the day, y’all are in charge, and not some long lost aunt who wants to get boozed up on someone elses dime.
Post # 7
Haha thanks for the support ladies. I just find it SO funny!!
Fiance rang his mum last night to discuss it and she said her sister was just being funny, but it didn’t sound that funny to us. It just sounded tacky!!
The problem is if we invite 1, we really have to invite them all and that’s another 40 people on our guest list. Our venue will not hold another 40 people!
So I guess we’re just going to have to be mean and not invite them.
Oh well. Bring on the drama I say, I’m well prepared for it now!! Haha
Post # 8
@JRL2012: I totally agree! I don’t care if people RSVP “No”. In fact, I’d welcome it because then it is cheaper for me! I definitely won’t be hunting people down for answers.
@miss_blondie86: I really, really hope you guys don’t end up caving and inviting her. That was so freaking rude! It’s like people hear you’re getting married and suddenly think they’re entitled to a free meal and party.
Post # 9
@Pinksapphire: Unfortunately for us we are having an out of town wedding…. and she lives 20 minutes from that out of town venue….
Post # 10
@miss_blondie86: that is what i am dreading too.. i dont want every family member at our wedding.. half of them arent even part of my life and i barely know them.. i would prefer just the people i am close to.. i can’t believe people just think they can invite themselves.. even if it is family im sure she barely knows u and just wants to take advantage of the free food and booze. Did you both tell her she’s not invited or are u going to invite her now? Why do weddings become so political and about what everyone else wants!! arghh
Post # 11
Don’t sweat it. Just relax with a glass of wine or something and laugh about how you hold the all-powerful guest list in your hands lol.
Families can get so pushy around weddings but don’t let that make you feel bad! Just smile and nod and don’t reply if you don’t have to…. time will tell them they were silly for assuming they were invited… you don’t necessarily have to.