(Closed) It has begun… Relatives are coming out of the woodwork…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Isn’t that so annoying? Luckily, at the end of the day, you are the ones in charge of the guest list!

Post # 4
2759 posts
Sugar bee

I’m wondering if that’ll happen with FI’s family! His father passed a couple of years ago, and while Fiance has made some effort to stay in contact with a few relatives from that side, they’ve been pretty elusive. I keep telling him we should invite a couple of them to be nice, but he’s always said there’s no point. Yet I do wonder if we’ll hear from them before the end of it.

I cannot believe his aunt said that about the alcohol! How ridiculous.

Post # 5
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

It is annoying! I’ve had that and I’ve also had my mom call relatives who said they couldn’t come to ask why?! Whos cares? lol Let them not come it helps me save money 🙂

I always say “I’m sorry but we are having a very intimate ceremony with a tight budget”.

And what if you were having a dry wedding? lol She prob wouldn’t come

Post # 6
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Its sad and frustrating, isn’t it? I feel your pain. The good news is, however, that the guest list, is really, In My Humble Opinion, the WORST part of the wedding planning. Everything else is a breeze. So smooth sailing from here! hehe.

I used to think, there is no way someone would be that rude, but then I decided to get married, and OMG! Its like all of a sudden people turn off their “filters” and say the rudest crap!

I’m sorry you’re going through this, but Gemstone is right, at the end of the day, y’all are in charge, and not some long lost aunt who wants to get boozed up on someone elses dime.

Good luck!


Post # 8
2247 posts
Buzzing bee

@JRL2012: I totally agree!  I don’t care if people RSVP “No”.  In fact, I’d welcome it because then it is cheaper for me!  I definitely won’t be hunting people down for answers.


@miss_blondie86: I really, really hope you guys don’t end up caving and inviting her.  That was so freaking rude!  It’s like people hear you’re getting married and suddenly think they’re entitled to a free meal and party. 

Post # 10
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@miss_blondie86: that is what i am dreading too.. i dont want every family member at our wedding.. half of them arent even part of my life and i barely know them.. i would prefer just the people i am close to.. i can’t believe people just think they can invite themselves.. even if it is family im sure she barely knows u and just wants to take advantage of the free food and booze. Did you both tell her she’s not invited or are u going to invite her now? Why do weddings become so political and about what everyone else wants!! arghh

Post # 11
2263 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Don’t sweat it. Just relax with a glass of wine or something and laugh about how you hold the all-powerful guest list in your hands lol. 

Families can get so pushy around weddings but don’t let that make you feel bad! Just smile and nod and don’t reply if you don’t have to…. time will tell them they were silly for assuming they were invited… you don’t necessarily have to. 

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