- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
I have been engaged now for almost a year and I cannot possably stand being asked, “When is the big day?” any longer. The only reason why I hate this is because I don’t have an answer. Why? It has nothing to do with my certantiy of my fiance, but committing to a date means I have to commit to a wedding and all the things that go along with that.
Let me explain.
I do not have the best relationship with my FILs. i have tried and tried, but we just do not click. They are rude, judgmental, strongly opininated and the women are caddy.
All of the women in my finace’s family were thrown huge, lavish weddings. i am talking about thirty thousand dollar and up weddings. And when one of the men in my fiance’s family got married and his fiance’s family didn’t offer the same outragous wedding day, his family turned ugly.
They could not fathom why someone would not want to spend tens of thousands of dollars on a wedding for their child. They would talk very badly about this girl’s parents and her. All the time being pleasant to her face. It discussed me.
So now I am about to marry into this family and I should be happy to be planning my wedding, but it makes my stomach sick. i get really bad anxiety over wedding planning and I am so worried that my parent’s modest budget (and my fiane’s and mine) will not be good enough.
i don’t want my parents to be mocked. I don’t want my wedding to be mocked. i don’t want to be mocked.
My fiance’s parents made it very clear after we got engaged that they already spent money on the one wedding they were “required” to pay for and that they would not be contributing to ours. And honestly, the price I would have to pay for them helping out would not be worth it anyway.
Has anyone else been in this situation? I know it is my fiance’s and I’s wedding, and we should do what makes us happy, but that is easier said than done.