It makes me sad when people "steal" boy names for girls.

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I don’t really understand why the supposed “feminization” of male names due to these names being used on females bothers you so much. Why do people have to subscribe to the narrow views on gender that you view as “correct” in this heteronormative society? 

I for one think we would be better off as a society if the gender lines were more blurred than they currently are. People would have more freedom to express who they are without feeling like they have to fall into some neat little box of “masculine” or “feminine.”

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Eh, I don’t get the whole “a boys name has to be masculine” thing just like I don’t get pink for girls blue for boys and etc. People should be allowed to name their kids whatever they like. Boy names can be used for girls why can’t it be other way around?

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

lol, Me and my mom were just talking about this earlier!

Ashley, Angel, Leslie, Lindsay, Morgon. All originally for boys!

Post # 6
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Busy bee

@atreyu547:  100 years ago, boys were usually dressed in pink, as it was seen as a strong, masculine colour; while girls were dressed in blue, as it was seen as a more delicate, feminine colour.  I’m not sure why it’s considered such a crime to do that now!

Post # 7
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Busy bee

People are calling girls James and Elliot?!!

I never knew about this, thats crazy!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I do think its kind of hypocritical though. People dont bat an eyelash at girls named Elliot, Ryan, or even Max. But if you named a boy Elizabeth or Lucy, people would be in an uproar about it.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I feel like when it comes to “boys have to do/be this, girls have to do/be that” I dont really support it… I don’t get why a name has to HAVE a “correct” gender. People should name their kids whatever they like. (I’ve never seen a female james though?)

edited to add: This post really shows how society values male and masculine things above female and feminine things – using a name considered masculine for a girl is fine, because masculine things are good. Using a name considered feminine for a boy is bad, because feminine things should be relegated to females only, boys are better than that and deserve their own special class of names. (Not saying OP feels this way, just that the shape of the trend indicates this.)

Same way it’s cute if a little girl dresses in boyish clothes, but alarming if a little boy dresses in girlish clothes. Feminine things have less societal value so they should be constrained to their place, whereas male things are objectively good so it’s OK if everyone does that stuff sometimes. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Bebealways:  lol, I’ve seen people with James for a girl on THIS website! Several times, actually.

Post # 11
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@JulietFoxtrot:  I’ve actually told my FI that if we have a son, he will have pink things. He can even have a dolly if he wants one.

My FI loves Hello Kitty though, so he cant say anything. =)

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@allyfally:  I’ve known guys who were named Kelly, Ashley, Addison, Leslie, and Lindsay. I do not know that any of these guys was given a hard time about their name from middle school on. I didn’t know these guys in in elementary school so they might have been made fun of then, but everyone makes fun of everyone in elementary school. Their names didn’t stop them from doing what they wanted to do or behaving in a way that they found appropriate for men.

IMO there is huge pressure on men to behave in a masculine way, moreso than there is on women to behave in a feminine way, and the only way to fix that is to change society’s perception of gender identity and the things that come with that. If that’s something that this sort of “turning names unisex” behavior helps do in some small way, I’m all for it.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

@Bebealways:  I agree. There is a huge problem in this culture of men thinking that they need to be a certain way to be masculine, which includes accepting as “truth” the idea that things that are seen as inherently feminine have less value. This what they pick up from an early age in their socialization.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Come to think of it, I also went to school with a guy called Kelly.  I don’t think he was ever given a hard time for his name.  Although is Kelly traditionally a girls’ name, or is it more like Ashley – originally a boys’ name, but now more commonly a girls’ name?  I actually have no idea.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MissMarple:  I’m really sleepy and cant tell if you’re just adding on from what I said or what. XD

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband has a unisex name.  There’s even a magical girl anime character with the same name.  It hasn’t had a negative effect on him.  One of my male coworkers has an even “girlier” name, and he’s fine with it too.

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