Post # 1
So today was a good waiting day, i think it’s the first time i’ve ever had one of those!
My SO has a female friend with whom ive become very close friends, we’re sort of like pen pals because we’re both super busy and she has an infant at home so we mostly talk over very long emails.
I wrote her today that I was starting to feel not very hopeful regarding a proposal, and i dont want to end up resenting my SO, and at the end of the month i wanted to take some space to myself to reflect and decide where to go from here.
She immediately called me and told me I should wait longer. She said she called my SO to wish him happy birthday on Monday and he told her he was planning on proposing and asked for advice on where to get a ring. She said she was surprised because he was so calm and matter of fact about it, no nervousness at all. She asked if he was sure and he said yes, it’s what he wants. she asked him when the wedding would be, when we’d be making little friends for her son, and he said that he thinks we’ll try right away for kids without flinching, like it’s the most natural and certain conversation.
so eeeeeek now I know he really is planning to propose, he usually doesnt consult with friends on relationship stuff, its a big deal for him.
He told me it would be this month, though, and now I know he doesnt have a ring yet (which i suspected). With all of the events this month and all of the pressure at work, for sure it’s not happening, which is too bad because my parents are coming to visit from abroad at the end of the month:(
Still, I can breathe a sigh of relief and stop worrying so much now, i was so worried he was just telling me what i wanted to hear and wasn’t going to propose. Now, I need to keep my mouth shut on this and hope he moves fast!
Post # 3
Yes! Keep your mouth shut!! Dont mention a proposal at all! Also, if you happen to have a nice “proposable” night and it doesnt happen….dont freak out!! Congrats!!! 🙂
Post # 4
Exciting! Yes, keep your mouth shut 🙂
Post # 5
Wow! COngratulations! I also think that kind of “secret” would take a lot of pressure off me.
Keep your mouth shut,as PP suggested and enjoy the waiting!
Post # 6
that’s some good reassurance right there!!! I would never get such info for my SO’s friends!! I’m excited for ya!
Post # 7
OMGOMG You must be so happy!
I hope it comes soon!!
Post # 8
amazing 🙂 i’m so excited for you! and don’t forget – some guys look online for a few hours, walk into a store and buy a ring that day! so don’t be upset that he doesn’t have one right now, you never know what he’ll surprise you with!
Post # 9
OMG so excited for you! I can’t wait for the happy ring post 😀
Post # 10
WOW! I would be bouncing off the walls with that news! How exciting for you!
Post # 11
Great! It’s probably good to if she’s hinting to him that he doesn’t want to lose you.
Post # 12
yay! that is exciting to know that he is telling his friends about it. that is when you know he is serious! don’t worry about bringing a proposal up to him. play calm and cool and it’ll come soon enough! 🙂
Post # 13
Thank you all so much for your replies!!!
@jesssamesssa: @kandykane1: @skinnypinkmartini: @tiff-tiff-tiff: @arathella: @peonyinlove:
@FutureMrsRatliff: @evrnenpaul: @omglauren:
True to form I didn’t follow your or my own advice 😐
The truth is I felt excited for about an hour after talking to SO’s friend and the excitement wore off. The way this whole “waiting” period has played out has made me feel resentful and neglected. My SO and I have a great relationship where we are open with each other and make decisions together and are really teammates. I didn’t tied to know everything or know when the proposal would be but I wanted open discussion about this and to feel like this was “ours” and not his.
my bf actually brought up marriage on his own and it became this big argument that continued until 4am and again the next morning, I sobbed all the way to work. He later told me he had cried too. I finally really clearly explained how I felt to him and he explained himself to me. He told me understood how much it meant to me that he propose before my parents arrive so I can tell them face to face and celebrate with them. we won’t see them until we get married next summer, they live 6000 miles away. So he promised that he would make that happen and make sure that the proposal is great. I told him it made me uncomfortable because it put me in a situation where I had to impose a deadline and I didn’t want that.He told me its something we both want, not a deadline.
Today he told me that he found a ring that he almost went for but wanted to confirm it was the style I wanted, and I sent him a sample pic and he said he had remembered right. I presume this means he’s going to get that ring? I asked if he knows my ring size because I don’t, and he said “we’ll figure that out too”, I have no idea what that means.
anyway, NOW im really really really excited!!!!!!! Wow! My parents get here on the 29th and SO’s brother is getting married on the 23rd and there are more celebrations on the 24th, so I presume it will be between the 25th and 28th?? Ugh so close and yet so far!!
Post # 14
i’m so sorry you two had a blow out but at least you know for sure without any wondering that it is coming soo… YAY!!
Post # 15
although i would be pissed she asked if he was sure. WTF!?
Post # 16
@DazedConfusedEtc: i’m sorry that it became something a big argument but i’m happt that it’s going to end so well! now that you and him are on the same page with becoming engaged, relax! you know it is coming soon! woohoo! can’t wait for an update before your parents are in town 😉