Post # 1
I am Black and Fiance is white and it gets on my last nerve when people tell me “oh mix babies are so cute”. I want to scream to them I did not choose to date my man because we will make cute babies. I also feel like its an insult saying that babies that are 100% same race are not cute. I know they mean well saying it but it comes off really rude to me. Another crap I hate hearing is that your baby will have good hair. My hair is natural and perm free for 12 years and I think I have good hair. grrrrr
Post # 3
ughh… yeah . That popular idea runs rampant. Sorry people are so blatant!
Post # 4
I’m in an interracial marriage and I hear that our babies will be cute and I don’t get offended. I don’t think people are saying that you’re only dating your SO because you will have cute kids.
Post # 5
People are just trying to be nice. All babies are cute, I think you might be looking into it a bit much, but if it annoys you, speak up.
Post # 6
@KatyElle: hearing it from everyone gets to be 2 much. I plan on speaking up next time I hear that comment. I just hope I do not go completely A-wall on that person.
Post # 7
I always reply to people “yup, cuter than any baby you’ll probably have because Fiance and I are such beautiful people! Look at us, how could be *possibly* make an ugly child?”
My current gripe is FMIL’s Boyfriend or Best Friend. When we met him, we were talking about the dirty looks we get in Va, and he says to Fiance “I bet you get off on that”. Not once, but TWICE. While trying to play the “us northern folk are so accepting!” card.
Post # 8
@surkim: I will so used that…..I guess people do not understand unless they have the experience.
Post # 9
@sexxysheddy: I’m AA and my SO is white. I have natural hair that I usually wear in an afro (my boss calls me Foxy Brown). When people tell me that our kids will have “good hair,” or when anyone makes a comment to me about curly/straighter hair being “good hair,” I tell them that healthy hair is good hair. My hair was never this healthy when I was perming it. And I don’t plan to ever do that again. Besides, my SO absolutely loves my natural hair!
Post # 10
I’m black too, and my fiance is white. I actually don’t mind hearing that. I mean, I think our kids are gonna be adorable too…so I guess it just doesn’t bother me so much.
Post # 11
I find that statement a little odd in this day and age… lol. I honestly don’t know how I would respond if people told us that!
Sometimes people don’t know what to say and they say something like ‘mixed babies are so cute!’ lol hey, at least it’s probably well-inteded 😉
Yeah, it’s annoying but I bet they are just trying to compliment you guys and don’t know what else to say. I’ve certainly experienced that before.
Post # 12
I am in an interracial marriage and it doesn’t bother me when people tell me that. I know our mixed babies will make beautiful babies, same as they would if we were of the same race. It’s not like people are saying it to be mean…
Post # 13
Good Lord that’s how people react? good hair and cute babies? I think that is a strange response too:/
Post # 14
I have gotten the “cute babies” thing, but I think it’s because people think we are a cute couple (nobody has ever said the whole mixed babies lot at me, but I really wouldn’t mind it). I’m Jamaican (mostly black and a little white) and I have curly and kinky hair. He is Indian with very loose waves. If anyone were to try and tell me that our kids will have good hair (implying that it’d be because they were half Indian), I would go off on them. Healthy hair is good hair. Period. I do think their hair will be fun for me to style, because he and I have hair at opposite ends of the spectrum so it’d be interesting to see what genetics gives us.
Post # 15
sexxysheddy But we are cute….. To be honest, my first LO look just like I did when i was a baby and was sooooooo cute. My second LO looked like her daddy, who is french, and she was a fat pink pug looking thing, I mean seriously she wasn’t cute in the least even to me and I am her mommy. Don’t get me wrong I worshiped the ground my little squishy face wiggled on but she didn’t get really cute until about 6 months.
My point is darker complextion on babies seems to make them cuter, because they look more like dolls and less like balls of pink squishy.
Post # 16
OP- I am so sorry if the coments ppl make upset you i am sure they are well intended.
I really couldn’t help but laugh my dad is black and my mum is half and half tho she looks white, I have relativley fair skin and hair that is pure afro, I think i was a cute baby but that all disapeared when i was about 3.
My Boyfriend or Best Friend is white and i hope we have beautiful babies, both the ones we make and the ones we hope to adopt, beauty comes form within, the values you are raised with etc.
Saying that, I know how many tears i shed (billions) having my hair washed and dreid, so although i have never and will never put chemicals in my hair i do hope i dont have the same drama my parents had trying to wash my hair with my own beautifull bundles of joy.