Post # 1
So, I’m average and come from an average family – but I felt almost snobbish when registering for certian things like my fine china and wedding crystal although I think they are well priced:
$125.00, per 5 piece setting fine china (Wedgewood)
$30.00, per crystal class (Vera Wang)
Still I looked at it and went – who is going to spend $100 + on a gift?
Okay I would, but I’m an "over gifter" so I tend to go WAY overboard and spend much much more then need be.
Of course we put some things that we know we’ll NEVER get because they are obnoxious in price…lol – but sorta went, "Eh, so we don’t get them here’s our only chance to do this" – and of those there’s 2 items I find fall under that lable.
Do you think I am asking too much in prices for the china and crystal? Whats the average price spent on a wedding gift by you when you attened.
I’m just not used to this "asking for gits" thing, you know?
Post # 3
Not at all! I think $100 is on average what people spend even in average circles on a wedding- It is an important day and I think you will be surprised by how quickly people grab things on your list. Makes sure there is a variety though from $50-$150 so people don’t feel they have to spend more than they want too (also I replied to your comment on my post about upstaging the bride- I changed my user name but I loved your advice- right on!)
Post # 4
I think $100 is about average too. I’ve had people give me $20 pictures frames to $800 furniture (from non-family members). You’d be surprised. Just think about it this way, if there’s something expensive that you would like, if no one buys it, you usually can buy it with a 10% completion discount. That was my reason for putting furniture, $400 cookware, knives, etc. Lo and behold, those big ticket items were purchased off my registry by the guests.
Post # 5
I think it’s fine to put on there, but be prepared to get only a few place settings of your china. My friend only got two of hers, so instead of buying the rest, they decided to just return what they had gotten. As long as everything isn’t $100+, you’re fine. Some people will certainly spend that, and others can pick other registry items.
Post # 6
I don’t think you can really get china much cheaper than that. And obviously many people register for china… my sister ended up getting most of hers, and her crystal. You might only get a few place settings, its true. In our family, if there are expensive items on the registry, a couple of aunts and uncles or cousins will generally go in together on them; my sister actually got most of her expensive kitchen stuff (KitchenAid mixer, Cuisinart) as gifts from more than one guest jointly.
How much I spend depends on how well I know the couple. For someone I know casually from work, I would probably spend around $60 or $70. For someone that I am pretty close with, I wouldn’t feel bad about spending twice that much. For family, I would spend more depending on what they needed.
By The Way, I actually got my first wedding present this week – my sister, who is a MUCH pickier housekeeper than me, sent me a Roomba. I guess she thinks I should vacuum more – she says she just thought that it would be one less thing to worry about with all the planning I have to do. It is vacuuming right now…
Post # 7
hi sweeney — we decided to go with open stock instead of the whole place setting, as well as a few serving pieces, and in doing so there are lots of price points for people to choose from (20-250). we also won’t really use the whole 5 piece setting (we don’t need a cup and saucer), but instead went with the dinner plate, salad plate and bread and butter plate. this puts each "setting" around $83 (also wedgewood china). just a thought!
Post # 8
In my part of the country (northeast city), I think average people spend is about $100 per person attending the wedding. We always spend about $200 when we go as a couple, and the couple weddings I went by myself I used to spend about $100. I think $125 for a place setting is very average- I haven’t seen many for less than that. Depending on where you are registered people could also use coupons to buy the place settings- , I know I always try to use Macy’s or BB&Beyond coupons for buying wedding gifts- and so it is nice to have the registry for the entire place setting so someone can get the discount on the whole thing (if that makes sense?)
Post # 9
Not sure if you’ve had a chance to use it yet, but there are a number of great budget tools online that help you visualize all your expenses – and even figuring out cost per person.
Just need to do a little searching.
Post # 10
I think it’s fine to have some expensive items on your registry as long as you have some inexpensive items as well. At our wedding, for whatever reason, we got pretty much everything on our registry except for the china and glassware (our china was $90/place setting). We did have several gifts more expensive than that, though, and some people chose to give money instead. As suzanno mentioned what her family does, I know my family used to do somehting similar. Some of the older relatives would get together and purchase things as a group. Like I said, as long as you have a wide range of prices, I don’t see any harm in putting a few higher-prices items on your registry.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2018 - catherdral ceremony/private club reception
We registered at Bloomingdales for linens, china, pots and pans, and bigger-ticket kitchen items. We also registered at Crate and Barrel for all of our glassware, flatware, and various utensils. Our C&B registry was cleared out, primarily because the items were a bit less expensive, but we also had a number of guests purchase off the Bloomingdale’s registry – and the most popular item purchased was our fine china place setting. Sometimes people just like to give a complete gift, and a place setting is a really easy way to do so!
Post # 12
My registry goes from A-Z. Our issue is half of our guest list is local (in Mississippi) and the other half is not. NO department store in Mississippi carries our pattern, so we were "forced" to register with Macys for our formal china patter, flatware and crystal.
We also registered at C&B (household decor and casual china), BB&B (gadgets, sheets and towels) and William-Sonoma (cutlery, etc.). We have a LARGE guest list and needed the options for people to walk in a store (for those who are local and aren’t technically savvy) as well as be able to purchase items online.
It’s your WEDDING, not a birthday party. Plus, there is always the option of using the gift cards to complete your registry, if you don’t get everything you asked for.
Post # 13
I’ll agree with Spruce. I think this is how more people should think! As long as your registry has an equal balance of expensive and Inexpensive I don’t see the problem! and MagnoliaDiva said it best, this is your wedding not birthday party!
Post # 14
I agree with rebecca…we’ve never used our cups and saucers! How funny.
Post # 15
Here’s a bit of advice that I found to be really useful: If you’re concerned about the price of "sets" (dinnerware, pots, etc.), then register for the open stock items. Then do NOT use anything until after the wedding. Since sets are generally more cost effective then open stock items. you can then return all the open stock items for the full sets. That way, if you’re worried that nobody will buy you the full set of $399 pots and pans, you’ll end up having 4 different people buy you individual pots and pans. Then you can return the 4 individual pots and pans to buy the whole set! That way, you get what you want and nobody is hurt that you returned their gift (since it’ll be part of the set)! Hope This Helps
Post # 15
Average is about $500 for a wedding gift so I think you’re fine