Post # 1
Baby Sailor is a boy! We found out today. Turns out I’m only measuring 17 weeks and a few days so the doctor was not 100% sure. However I showed theultrasound photo to my office midwife who is the mother of sons and she told me “honey, that’s a penis” hahaha
However I must say I feel let down. I had my heart set on a little girl. I was already browsing girl dresses, shoes, hair bows… I just never saw myself the mother of a son.
I don’t want to seem insensative. I love the fact I’ve had a great pregnancy with NO morning sickness whatsoever. I just feel disappointed. I know in a few days I will be ok. I just prayed and wanted so badly a little girl and to know she is a he just makes me feel down.
My husband is being really kind about it. I’m happy to give him the son he always wanted.
Am I crazy for feeling this way? Any mothers of sons want to cheer me up?
Post # 3
You’re not crazy. I would feel the same way. I’m ambivalent about children to begin with but if I was guaranteed a girl I would go for it. I think if I got pregnant and then found out it was a boy I would be devestated.
Post # 4
Well first of all Congrats! I know you are still trying to process it but just know that boys LOVE their mamas! I was pretty convinced I was having a boy from the start so I warmed up to the idea rather quickly. I’ve always heard boys are so much easier than girls – not sure how much truth there is in that but thats what people kept telling me.
Everytime I think about my baby boy I just picture a miniture version of my husband which is so sweet to think about. I think about all the things they will do together and how lucky I will be to have a little boy who takes after him. Plus if we have a little girl down the road she will have an amazing big brothe to look after her.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club
No, you’re not crazy. You had your hopes on a girl, but now it’s a boy. Little boys are fun, too!
Post # 6
I want a girl… When I picture taking care of a child I picture a girl. My DH wants a boy and a girl… I just want a girl. I know that when I get pregnant I will be praying for it to be a girl. I am HOPING so strongly that this will change because I do not want to feel sad about a baby. I hope that all will go well for you, and maybe eventually you will have a little girl too.
Post # 7
It’s ok to feel disappointed about having a boy when you had your heart set on a little girl! That feeling won’t last forever, I’m sure.
We don’t know the gender yet, but I pumped myself up about both genders. They are both wonderful!
– A lot of people tell me they are easier to raise
– Boys adore their mommies
– DH won’t try to intimidate any girls with his shot gun when our boy starts dating –> this one is a disadvantage with a girl, as I know he already has the shot gun picked out.
– the “birds and bees” talk is up to Daddy
– Less drama and teenage girl tantrums (remember being a teenager?)
Post # 8
@AprilJo2011: these are all great points!!! Love the fact that he has a shotgun picked out. hysterical!
Post # 9
I haven’t been pregnant yet but I always found it interesting that so many people say they don’t care what the sex of their baby is they just want it to be healthy, when I think if they were to be honest everyone has at least a slight desire for what they want the sex of each baby to be! Which is totally fine!
If it’s your first child I’ll say, I always wanted a big brother when I was younger so maybe you’ll get a girl this second time around who has a BB to watch out for her 😉
Post # 10
Have you read this thread?
As the mom of both a girl and a boy, I can say that both are so special in their own little ways. In my experience, boys do have a special bond to their mommas that is different from the mother-daughter bond. It’s a different type of relationship, but totally and completely wonderful! 🙂 It’s really normal to mourn the life you had imagined, so don’t feel guilty about that. Plus, sex and gender are just not apparent in the early stages, so you have a very long time to adjust to the idea of being a “boy mom.” When the time comes, I’m sure you’ll adjust just fine to having a son!
Post # 11
@LuvMySailor: You aren’t crazy for feeling this way, at least I hope not. I went through the same exact thing – last week. It made it even harder because everyone kept telling me they thought it was a girl. My mom really wanted a girl. My DH REALLLLLY wanted a girl. He cried – a lot – when they said “it’s a boy”, which only made it harder. I’m already used to the idea and it’s been 6 days, but I was, admittedly, really upset at first. It will grow on you! My cousins and mom all told me that boys were much easier, cuddly, and mama’s boys! What helped me the most – SHOPPING. Yea, it’s definitely harder to find cute boy clothes, but when you do, man, they are cute!!!! Treat your little man to some new clothes!
Post # 12
((hugs)). I want a girl too. Of course every mommy wants a healthy baby, but I really want a girl. We have our anatomy ultrasound coming up, and I am really reminding myself that a little boy would be fine too. And that of course, it could be a boy, or a girl.
totheislnds has a very good point, about a boy being a miniature version of DH, and all those good qualities. Boy’s carry the family name, plus, as it was mentioned, if you have a little girl later on, she will have a big brother to watch out for her 🙂 I like all the points that have been mentioned! That thread that was linked is really good 🙂
Post # 13
Awe congratutions, its easy to have our hearts set on a sex preferance but it goes away fast.
Post # 14
I think this is normal 🙂 I was in camp “As long as it’s healthy!” myself, so finding out it was a boy wasn’t really a let down for me. It was however, for my husband. He DESPERATELY wanted a little girl. He even took to talking to my tummy and refering to the baby as “she” and “her” and refused to accept that there was even a chance it could be a boy before our gender reveal appointment. He was very bummed for a bit, when we found out. Didn’t talk much for a few hours, kinda mopey. But a couple of days later he was pretty over the moon again. Now neither of us could ever imagine expecting anything else BUT a boy, and we’re so excited to meet him in a few days! 🙂
So, just give it a bit. Your feelings are valid, there’s nothing wrong with them at all. Process them and then, trust me, you’ll be super excited for your little man! Congratulations and I hope the rest of your pregnancy is just as smooth and easy 🙂
Post # 15
but but … look how cute you can dress your son!!
Post # 16
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Both my sister and my cousin went through this– they were convinced they were having 1 gender, planned for it, thought about it, everything… Then found out they were having the other. My sister was the same as you– always wanted a girl, and got a boy. My cousin was the opposite.
Don’t really have any advice– just know that you’re not alone!