(Closed) It's a boy but….

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

You’re not crazy. I would feel the same way. I’m ambivalent about children to begin with but if I was guaranteed a girl I would go for it.  I think if I got pregnant and then found out it was a boy I would be devestated.  

 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Well first of all Congrats! I know you are still trying to process it but just know that boys LOVE their mamas! I was pretty convinced I was having a boy from the start so I warmed up to the idea rather quickly. I’ve always heard boys are so much easier than girls – not sure how much truth there is in that but thats what people kept telling me.

Everytime I think about my baby boy I just picture a miniture version of my husband which is so sweet to think about. I think about all the things they will do together and how lucky I will be to have a little boy who takes after him. Plus if we have a little girl down the road she will have an amazing big brothe to look after her.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

No, you’re not crazy. You had your hopes on a girl, but now it’s a boy. Little boys are fun, too! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I want a girl… When I picture taking care of a child I picture a girl. My DH wants a boy and a girl… I just want a girl. I know that when I get pregnant I will be praying for it to be a girl. I am HOPING so strongly that this will change because I do not want to feel sad about a baby. I hope that all will go well for you, and maybe eventually you will have a little girl too. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It’s ok to feel disappointed about having a boy when you had your heart set on a little girl!  That feeling won’t last forever, I’m sure.

We don’t know the gender yet, but I pumped myself up about both genders.  They are both wonderful!

Boys:
– A lot of people tell me they are easier to raise
– Boys adore their mommies
– DH won’t try to intimidate any girls with his shot gun when our boy starts dating –> this one is a disadvantage with a girl, as I know he already has the shot gun picked out.
– the “birds and bees” talk is up to Daddy
– Less drama and teenage girl tantrums (remember being a teenager?)

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

@AprilJo2011:  these are all great points!!! Love the fact that he has a shotgun picked out. hysterical!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I haven’t been pregnant yet but I always found it interesting that so many people say they don’t care what the sex of their baby is they just want it to be healthy, when I think if they were to be honest everyone has at least a slight desire for what they want the sex of each baby to be! Which is totally fine! 

If it’s your first child I’ll say, I always wanted a big brother when I was younger so maybe you’ll get a girl this second time around who has a BB to watch out for her πŸ˜‰

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Have you read this thread?

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tell-me-why-baby-boys-are-the-best

As the mom of both a girl and a boy, I can say that both are so special in their own little ways.  In my experience, boys do have a special bond to their mommas that is different from the mother-daughter bond.  It’s a different type of relationship, but totally and completely wonderful! πŸ™‚  It’s really normal to mourn the life you had imagined, so don’t feel guilty about that.  Plus, sex and gender are just not apparent in the early stages, so you have a very long time to adjust to the idea of being a “boy mom.”  When the time comes, I’m sure you’ll adjust just fine to having a son!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@LuvMySailor:  You aren’t crazy for feeling this way, at least I hope not.  I went through the same exact thing – last week.  It made it even harder because everyone kept telling me they thought it was a girl.  My mom really wanted a girl.  My DH REALLLLLY wanted a girl.  He cried – a lot – when they said “it’s a boy”, which only made it harder.  I’m already used to the idea and it’s been 6 days, but I was, admittedly, really upset at first.  It will grow on you!  My cousins and mom all told me that boys were much easier, cuddly, and mama’s boys!  What helped me the most – SHOPPING.  Yea, it’s definitely harder to find cute boy clothes, but when you do, man, they are cute!!!! Treat your little man to some new clothes!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

((hugs)). I want a girl too. Of course every mommy wants a healthy baby, but I really want a girl. We have our anatomy ultrasound coming up, and I am really reminding myself that a little boy would be fine too. And that of course, it could be a boy, or a girl.

totheislnds has a very good point, about a boy being a miniature version of DH, and all those good qualities. Boy’s carry the family name, plus, as it was mentioned, if you have a little girl later on, she will have a big brother to watch out for her πŸ™‚  I like all the points that have been mentioned! That thread that was linked is really good πŸ™‚

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Awe congratutions, its easy to have our hearts set on a sex preferance but it goes away fast. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I think this is normal πŸ™‚ I was in camp “As long as it’s healthy!” myself, so finding out it was a boy wasn’t really a let down for me. It was however, for my husband. He DESPERATELY wanted a little girl. He even took to talking to my tummy and refering to the baby as “she” and “her” and refused to accept that there was even a chance it could be a boy before our gender reveal appointment. He was very bummed for a bit, when we found out. Didn’t talk much for a few hours, kinda mopey. But a couple of days later he was pretty over the moon again. Now neither of us could ever imagine expecting anything else BUT a boy, and we’re so excited to meet him in a few days! πŸ™‚ 
So, just give it a bit. Your feelings are valid, there’s nothing wrong with them at all. Process them and then, trust me, you’ll be super excited for your little man! Congratulations and I hope the rest of your pregnancy is just as smooth and easy πŸ™‚ 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

but but … look how cute you can dress your son!!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

Both my sister and my cousin went through this– they were convinced they were having 1 gender, planned for it, thought about it, everything… Then found out they were having the other.  My sister was the same as you– always wanted a girl, and got a boy.  My cousin was the opposite.  

Don’t really have any advice– just know that you’re not alone! 

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