Post # 1
Saturday the guys went to buy their suits which went horribly wrong. Thdy decided to change the color of the suits because the they couldn’t get the color we had agreed on. After some unflattering bridezilla moments and some silent treatment SO and I talked. Then he took me to see the color of his suit. Then some more silent treatment happened. I do not like the color at all. Its not even in the same color family no matter how much he tries to tell me it is.
He refuses to change it. Saying he really likes the color and he picked it out and I have to trust him. How do I get over this?
I got him to change the shirts to ivory and found a vest online that we both agreed on but I’m afraid I’m going to see him in his suit and just not like it. :-/
Post # 3
@wisher558: what color is it?
Post # 4
@wisher558: Can you show us a pic of your color scheme and a pic of the suits?
Post # 5
One thing about the wedding I couldn’t override my fi on–his and his groomsmens attire. He felt it was the only thing he really had control of…
Post # 6
What color is it? If it’s the same color you wanted but in a different shade, you should really just let it go. Ultimately, even if it is a totally different color, it really, truly doesn’t matter. Unless it’s like hot pink with zebra stripes. Then it might!
Post # 7
Unfortunately I don’t have pics. The website doesn’t have them. The wedding was supposed to be chocolate brown, plum, lime and ivory. They couldn’t get the chocolate brown so they got this grey/red/slightly brown if I squint really hard but not really.
Post # 8
@wisher558: oh. That’s annoying. I find that men don’t really have the same eye for colors as we do (not all, but most of the men I know). Is he really not budging on this issue? That sucks. It sounds different. How come they didn’t have those suits? Is there any way you can order the original ones?
ETA: I would be annoyed too, but I’m a bit of a control freak. Thankfully, my fiancé knows this and we are going together to pick it out (and get the contract all written out), then he will go with the guys to get fitted alone. But my fiancé is well aware of the fact that I care about these little details more than he does and he’s fine with going what I want (within reason).
Post # 9
My FI is half Scottish and wants to wear a kilt.
I don’t like tartan, and I don’t like kilts.
Unfortunately FI seems to have inherited his taste in clothes from his mother – he has none. Most of his wardrobe when I met him 4 years ago was various shades of muddy brown, and lots of checks (which I also dislike).
I’m hoping if we get to marry on a beach, he will come to the conclusion himself that a kilt will be out of place. Otherwise I will only be looking at him from the waist up for the whole day!
You might have to let this one go.
Post # 10
@FoxyBride14: the control freak is part of the issue. He knows I am and doesn’t care. I tried to get him to change to a charcoal grey months ago before our chocolate brown invites went out and our tables were decorated with the brown but he said he wanted a brown suit we weren’t changing it. I’m more hurt that he wouldn’t talk to me even though we’ve made decisions together all planninv process.
He keeps saying his brother chanhed his colors without SIL’s permission so its fine. Its what just happens. NO its not just what happens!!!
Post # 11
@Baal: he wore a kilt to prom so he got that out of his system otherwise he probably would have wanted to!
Post # 12
If he’s got to wear it, he picks the color. Let it go.
Post # 13
Silent treatment over a man wanting to choose his own outfit? Yikes!
Post # 15
@wisher558: guys dont understand. however i think you should just give him this one and just let it go. its not worth the frustration and stress.
Post # 16
Pick your battles! In this situation I would let it go. And these are the reasons:
- Would you want him to be involved in the choosing of your dress? Would you be happy if he wanted you to change the dress after you fell in love with one?
- I can promise you that on your wedding day, when you are at the beginning of the aisle staring at the love of your life you will not even NOTICE what he is wearing.
- No one will care or even NOTICE if the guys suits are part of your colour scheme or not. Furthermore, I bet you most people won’t even be able to tell you your colour scheme two weeks after your wedding.
He is engaged and enjoying making wedding decisions – I would take that as a win!