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I invited around 15 girls to show up to my bachelorette party last night. I knew it was about an hour away from where I live so I offered to carpool with people, letting those who were interested in coming know that I would be staying the night but there were others that were coming that weren't staying the night. 

I had a bridal shower the other week in the city in which I live in, and seriously NO ONE showed up. I had invited plenty of friends who I like to hang out with, but the only people who showed up was my FMIL, FSIL, two other bridesmaids, and FI's cousin and aunt. That's it. Other's promised to try to come, or to come after work and didn't. 

This week I assumed more people would show up for booze and fun, but nope. I had originally had four bridesmaids, but then one of them was refusing to do anything for the wedding (get sized when she had over three months, return any text messages, or even offer to hang out ONCE in an entire year of being a bridesmaid--and she lives literally two miles away from me). Anyways, I saw this ex-bridesmaid at drive through where I work the other week. I asked how she was and then when I said "I was just wondering if.." and she cut me off and said "if I'm coming to your bridal shower, I'm going to try to make it!" And then she left. It was very awkward. 

Did she show up to the bridal shower? Nope. I texted her asking if she needed a ride and if she was planning on coming and she said she was planning on it. Nope, she doesn't show up again. I have Facebook updates for certain people sent to my phone, and apparently never deactivated her updates. In the middle of my partying last night, I get a text message from Facebook saying that she's at a bar in my hometown partying it up. She didn't bother to text me she couldn't make it, and I'm sick of this shit. I'm going to not even bother anymore. I'm sick of "finding out" who my real friends are through wedding events. .

I get on Facebook this morning, more photos of people who promised to show up last night but were at other Halloween parties instead. I'm trying so hard not to say something snarky to them about it. But somehow I feel this is unfair. I just wanted to party with them one last time before I get married. 

Anyways, so glad the girls I hung out with last night (4 out of 14--and I understand those who had to work and couldn't make it at all) were fun. Just frustrated that a party wasn't a good enough excuse to come. 

@eloping: And you are right, I'd understand her embarrassment but I tried to make it as painfree as possible. I enquired if it would be easier on her if she wasn't a BM as I knew she was financially unstable. 

I understand other people have things to do on Halloween weekends, but it was the only time things worked, and I assumed some people would love to come.

@kaylee26:we went to a local bar in my aunts city and it was the most hick-tastic place I've ever been. It was this hilarious guy MCing kareoke because I think he just wanted to sing a ton in front of other people. Two guys dressed up as KKK members and kept trying to ask us to join their group. Later, someone beat them up and the cops came at 1:45 to tell us we all had to get out. One man was extremely angry that drinks ended 15 minutes early...haha. 

There was even a man with a large beerbelly girating around us in circles screaming and we got worried he was going to puke on our shoes. :) 

Bummer!  I'm guessing from some of the things you said that your on the younger side?  Maybe your friends haven't been there yet so dont' really understand how much this kind of thing means to you?

On the other hand, finding out who your "real" friends are isnt' such a bad thing.  I think it's nice to keep a small group of close friends that you know can depend on rather than having a big group of friends that are flaky.

Plus Halloween weekend couldn't have helped - people are pretty serious about their halloween parties!

But I'm glad to hear that you had fun.