Post # 1
Hive..this is officially my last post. I won’t be checking for responses, but I felt that I wouldn’t be doing justice to all of the help that I have gotten here if I didn’t post something. FI and I are no longer getting married. There was no infidelity or fights…just a stubborn will that I can’t seem to counter no matter what I say.
FI’s cancer is back…and this time, the Dr’s don’t think that they can treat it. This will be the third time during our 4 and a half years together that FI has developed stomach cancer. Because this time is so much worse than other times, FI doesn’t think that it’s fair to me to get married and nothing I say will change his opinion. He feels he is doing what’s best for me and that’s that. We found out yesterday and our wedding is…was…May 14th.
I just want to thank the hive for the advice, the DIY ideas, the debates (Mike Vick anyone?), the funny stories, and all of the beautiful wedding pics that gave me so much inspiration in planning my sister’s wedding that took place last year, and mine that will never take place.
When I get the strength, I have tons of stuff for sale that I will be posting some time or another. Right now I can’t bear to look at any of it.
Please keep FI and I in your prayers as he gears up for the fight of his life. God Bless all of you, and I wish all of you the best.
Post # 3
I am so sorry. I hope that you are able to spend this time with him and enjoy being with him no matter how long it lasts. Our thoughts are with you.
Post # 4
I am so so sorry. You and your FI are in my prayers. I am wishing you both all the best in strength and love during this difficult time.
Post # 5
I’m so sorry. The diagnosis is still so new, I hope that once the shock wears off you two can come to a decision about this that you are both okay with. I’ll keep your SO in my thoughts.
Post # 6
(((HUG)))) My thoughts are with you , and I am sending you strength
Post # 7
This just nearly broke my heart. Try to enjoy every minute you have left with him whether it is as husband and wife or not. Just remember he’s trying to do what’s best for you, he isn’t trying to hurt you in any way! ((hugs))
Post # 8
(((Hugs))) My thoughts are with you and your SO.
Post # 9
I wish you and FI the best. This is such a difficult time for everyone. I am truly very sorry. Your FI is a brave man. And you are a pretty strong woman yourself who has to go through so much pain.
Post # 10
@JamaicaBride: I know that it says you won’t be checking for replies, however being a cancer survivor myself, and having it come back 5 times, I understand why he is doing what he is doing. I know that it’s hard to understand, but at some point you feel like you need to protect the one’s that you love, and sometimes it’s by pushing them away :/ I did this too during that period in my life. It may seem stubborn, but with everything up in the air for him, there’s very few things he can control, protecting you is still one of them (even though it’s not really protecting you it’s more hurting you, but he isn’t looking at it that way) I wish you the best and will keep you both in my thoughts.
Post # 11
Oh, I am so sorry. I am sending you all my good vibes.
You will be truly missed around here. 🙁 Best of luck.
Post # 12
I was moved to tears reading your post. I am so sorry for the insurmountable upheaval in your life. You are in my thoughts and prayers as you tread this difficult journey.
Your Bee-friends/sisters will stand by you through thick and thin.
Post # 13
You are in my prayers. I know this will be a hard time but I hope the two of you enjoy your time with each other.
Lots of love and hugs being sent your way.
Post # 14
I am so sorry for this. I wish you and your FI the best and hope that it all works out. You will be in my thoughts!
Post # 15
I am so sorry and wish there was something more to say or do.
Post # 16
so sad to hear about this… praying that the doctors are wrong and that he pulls through this again.