It's Ferberrrr, it's Ferber TIIIME! Any tips?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

iarebridezilla:  I don’t have a great deal of info on Ferber, but I did get some pretty great ideas on the Troubleome Tots blog (google it) and I did a thread on our ‘Adventures in Sleep Training’ if you care to stalk.

Basically, it’s all about having a solid and consistent bed time routine and knowing what your own personal threshold is on how long you can hear your baby cry.  I did 5 minute intervals the first night, then strethed it to 15-20 minutes over a few days.  She learned to self-soothe quickly, and now when she does (rarely) wake overnight she can go back to sleep on her own.  <br /><br />

Good luck, you cold, heartless, stone-cold, able to listen to your baby whimper, poor excuse of a mother. <— Totally joking, it’s in sarcasm font but I’m not sure if you can tell. 😛

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Commenting to follow. I have a seven month old who used to be the best sleeper ever but over the past few weeks, she’s decided waking up in the middle of the night is fun. I believe my exact words to my husband last night when I heard her at 2AM were “Cry…it…out…” Of course after actually waking up a bit I realized I should make a plan for this instead of just deciding this in the middle of the night. So I’m curious to hear what people have to say. I will join you in your “evil” ways 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Lol! Yes I got snarky comments from some Bees bc I admitted I started sleep training just before my DS was 5 months old. I just knew it wasn’t hunger waking him up. It worked great for us! He’s a sweet, secure, happy baby. No evidence whatsoever of trauma. In our case, we’ve never really had trouble putting him down to sleep, sleepy but awake. It was the nighttime feeds we wanted to address. So!

Ferber suggests cutting back on the amount you feed at night over time so it’s not a drastic change for baby. I started with his first nighttime feed around midnight/1:00am. Once I was down to no formula supplement and just breastfeeding one boob, I started CIO with check ins first at 3 min, then 5, then 7, then 10 etc. The first feeding didnt take long to get rid of, maybe 2 nights. Then I tackled his 3:00/4:00 am feed, which took a bit longer, maybe an hour and a half of crying on and off for about 3 nights.

I read that you may want to not get rid of the last early morning feed bc sometimes the baby just starts his day then and if you don’t enjoy 5am mornings, then just let the last feed go naturally. I held off for awhile, but decided to give it a shot. Well, he’s pretty good about sleeping through the entire night, starting his day between 6-7. He does cry out sometimes at 5ish. I can usually get him back to bed without feeding.

Good luck! I hope it works for you!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

iarebridezilla:  Haha, yea we did take her binkie at the same time, but for us that was part of our sleep problem.  She threw it out of the crib because, hey, throwing this is always funny, then she would holler for it because she wanted her binkie.  Also, with another baby on the way, we wanted to nip it in the bud right away.

Honestly, I do wish we had done our sleep training sooner (she was about 10 months when we got around to it) so you’re off to a good start.  They (whoever ‘they’ are…) suggest waiting til after 6 months for most babies to night wean, but honestly by 6 months she wasn’t waking overnight anymore anyway.

 

My best advice is to get on the same page with DH, make a plan, and do your best to stick to it.  Get a good, consistent routine going and remember to be patient since you’re new at this and so is baby!  

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

iarebridezilla:  What about using a clip to keep it close to her?  We did that for several months before taking it away, because she got to where she would pull at it hard enough to unhook it and chuck it across the room.  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I don’t know about Ferber specifically, but we did 2 minutes, 5 minutes, 5 minutes.  After a while we did up to 10 minutes (only had to do 10 maybe twice), if he ever sounded like he was gagging, choking, or other non whimper/normal cry sound, we went up immediately.  If we could tell he was not feeling well (which was only once) we didn’t let him fuss more than 2-3 minutes. We also never used a pacifier and used the Magic Merlin Sleep Suit.  I would call the method we used “fuss it out” rather than cry it out.  I’m very proud of our little guy and how he sleeps.  I think sleep training is important and you have to find the balance that is right for your family.  Good luck!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yeah, if the binkie is what calms her at night, you need to take it away for sleep training to work (if she can’t insert it herself). I understand your desire to leave soothing in place, but you’re essentially taking it away by Ferber-izing anyway (since presumably you won’t give it back to her), so it’s just there, in her crib, taunting.

I second Troublesome Tots and suggest starting here:

http://www.troublesometots.com/cry-it-out/ (especially “How to Cry it Out: The Bedtime Edition.”)

I will also add that Ferber didn’t work for us–it riled my little guy up worse and it was much better to go with extinction for us. Not saying you shouldn’t try it, but if you find it going far worse than expected, you may want to consider extinction. 

 

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