Post # 1
So this is my first post on here (I’ve been hanging around for a couple of months!). Me and my SO have been together 2 1/2 years, and have been talking about getting married a lot.
Long story short, we went ring shopping together, picked out a ring and ordered it. The other day he asked me to reply to a text on his phone when he was driving, and when I sent it I automatically got taken back to his inbox and saw a text from the jewellers. The following day I asked what he was up to as he was off work, and he kept going on about running a ‘personal errand’. Then in the evening he was telling me about his day and said he had been on his ‘personal errand’. I didn’t push it, but I know he went to pick it up!
Now, my SO is very predictable… so much so that I know (without looking) exactly where he would have put it! My dilemma is this – I’ve not actually tried the ring on as I have large fingers, and so they had to order it in my size. And I’m desperate to see what my ring looks like!
Please give me some advice/ring porn my fellow bees to keep me occupied so I don’t go and try it on!! I don’t think a proposal is far away, but it’s so hard!
Even worse, the other evening he asked me (when the lights were out) to rummage around in the drawer (where I know it is most likely hidden) to get something out for him. Luckily what he wanted was near the front of the drawer, and I couldn’t bring myself to rummage around! Do you think he wanted me to find it there and then?! Help!
Post # 3
@kellym83: don’t look for it! don’t try it on! I helped FI design my ring as well (we ordered online) so I hadn’t actually seen the ring in person. He made up some story so he could get it delivered to our apartment without me knowing (I saw right through it–he doesn’t know it though!). And then I was anxious to see if he had the ring in our apartment or if it was hidden at his work. I managed to find the box, BUT I didn’t open it. I wanted to at least have the surprise of seeing it for the first time in person when he put it on my finger. I’m really glad I didn’t look. It made that moment all that more special.
Try to distract yourself. I know it’s super hard, I was going crazy. But just tell yourself you’re almost there!
Post # 4
I’m in the same situation. We picked out a design together so obviously I know what it looks like in theory, but it is now in the house, in the safe, that I can open (and have several times to get things)
He says he doesn’t mind if I peek at it (we’re already planning a wedding so this isn’t a grand surprise), but I’m not getting it until the holidays, and I’m trying to tell myself it will be better if I don’t look and don’t try it on.
Some days it is hard though, I can’t lie.
Post # 5
@pineapplez17: This times a thousand.
I was in a similar situation as you, OP, with the ring in the apartment. My SO proposed yesterday, and I was super glad that I didn’t peek at the ring. Peeking would have definitely taken away from the surprise element.
Post # 6
I’m in the same situation! I know my ring is in the house (I’m bad, I snooped a little bit and found an email so I know he has it), and my SO has gone away for a few days. He wouldn’t have taken it with him as it wouldn’t have been secure where he’s going, so I think if I looked I’d find it. REALLY trying not to snoop any further! Don’t do it kellym83!! It will be worth it when you see the ring for the first time and he sees your reaction. Now to take my own advice…
Post # 7
I’m in the same boat *sigh* It’s in the safe at his place…the other day I was there alone and I literally had to force myself to get up and leave because I wanted to get it out so badly! I picked out the stone and setting but I have a large finger too so I never saw it complete or tried it on. I feel like my bf would be fine (and amused) if I did pull it out and try it on…he actually expects me to I think but I’m being strong because I want to be surprised. I’m giving myself an “peep date” though lol Kind of like a walk date except it’s for checking out the ring. If he doesn’t propose by September 10th it’s on lol Maybe you should set one? lol
Post # 8
It’s the exciting bit when the ring is in your flat. I caved and tried it on and would wear it when my then SO was at work…I don’t suggest you do that. Have a surprise!