It's in the flat… help!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@kellym83:  don’t look for it! don’t try it on! I helped FI design my ring as well (we ordered online) so I hadn’t actually seen the ring in person. He made up some story so he could get it delivered to our apartment without me knowing (I saw right through it–he doesn’t know it though!). And then I was anxious to see if he had the ring in our apartment or if it was hidden at his work. I managed to find the box, BUT I didn’t open it. I wanted to at least have the surprise of seeing it for the first time in person when he put it on my finger. I’m really glad I didn’t look. It made that moment all that more special.

Try to distract yourself. I know it’s super hard, I was going crazy. But just tell yourself you’re almost there!

Post # 4
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m in the same situation. We picked out a design together so obviously I know what it looks like in theory, but it is now in the house, in the safe, that I can open (and have several times to get things)

He says he doesn’t mind if I peek at it (we’re already planning a wedding so this isn’t a grand surprise), but I’m not getting it until the holidays, and I’m trying to tell myself it will be better if I don’t look and don’t try it on.

Some days it is hard though, I can’t lie.

Post # 5
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@pineapplez17:  This times a thousand.

I was in a similar situation as you, OP, with the ring in the apartment. My SO proposed yesterday, and I was super glad that I didn’t peek at the ring. Peeking would have definitely taken away from the surprise element.

Post # 6
31 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014


I’m in the same situation! I know my ring is in the house (I’m bad, I snooped a little bit and found an email so I know he has it), and my SO has gone away for a few days. He wouldn’t have taken it with him as it wouldn’t have been secure where he’s going, so I think if I looked I’d find it. REALLY trying not to snoop any further! Don’t do it kellym83!! It will be worth it when you see the ring for the first time and he sees your reaction. Now to take my own advice…

Post # 7
1470 posts
Bumble bee

I’m in the same boat *sigh* It’s in the safe at his place…the other day I was there alone and I literally had to force myself to get up and leave because I wanted to get it out so badly! I picked out the stone and setting but I have a large finger too so I never saw it complete or tried it on. I feel like my bf would be fine (and amused) if I did pull it out and try it on…he actually expects me to I think but I’m being strong because I want to be surprised. I’m giving myself an “peep date” though lol Kind of like a walk date except it’s for checking out the ring. If he doesn’t propose by September 10th it’s on lol Maybe you should set one? lol

Post # 8
5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

It’s the exciting bit when the ring is in your flat. I caved and tried it on and would wear it when my then SO was at work…I don’t suggest you do that. Have a surprise! 

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