"it's just a cat, god."… SERIOUSLY? I will slap you [[vent]]

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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275 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@krayzay87:  I’d have told her where to go right then and there, but then I have very little patience with people who don’t show any respect for others.

I don’t think you’re being irrational at all. I’d speak with your SO and see how he feels about it all. Then it’s time for a nice, direct chat that leaves no room for misinterpretation regarding boundaries, etiquette and financial contribution. If she doesn’t like it, no one is forcing her to stay.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Get your SO on board and DO NOT let her move in.   Tell the step brother that he is the one renting the room, and his girlfriend cannot live there too.  She needs to take her crap back to wherever the hell she lives and leave it there.  

I’m an animal person.  I don’t have time in my life to deal with “non-animal people” and certainly will not put up with them being in my home.

Does your SO need the income from his SB renting the room, or are you two ok with him moving out?  If you can do without him, I say let him take the nasty bitch and leave.

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I know some people just don’t ‘do’ animals BUT it’s not as if it’s her house so she doesn’t have any say. That’s also something I tend to clash on with people (I’m a huge animal person too). If she can’t be nice enough to say hi or fill the dog’s water when she isn’t even paying rent, I’d be speaking up now. If she’s staying over so much that’s she’s even there by herself during the day she should start playing rent. Especially if there’s nothing else that she’s helping out with.

 

Post # 7
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1580 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

If someone said that to me about my cats, I don’t know what I would do. They are my babies! I’m sorry that you’ve been having a rough time with everything. 

Post # 8
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

She needs to GTFO.

Post # 9
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Mean thought.
Just going to say it:
I hope the animals pee on all of her bathroom stuff.

Post # 12
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Oh, I would have said something snarky back to her! If I were more bold I’d have punched her and said “it’s just a nose” but I’ve never physically harmed somebody before so I wouldn’t start over something so small haha, but I’d WANT to…I MAY say “well then you may as well leave since this isn’t your home and you don’t NEED to be with your boyfriend, he’s just a person” 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@krayzay87:  *HUGS* You have the patience of a saint.  I’d probably end up pouring cyanide in her shampoo if I had to deal with your SO’s brother’s girlfriend.

Post # 14
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98 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

It’s not so much that she doesn’t like animals and won’t interact with them. Her choice, her loss. But to be so openly disrespectful of your feelings? To her, it may just be a cat, but if she had any level of empathy, she’d realise that saying something like that to you is incredibly disrespectful.

I’d also be worried about bringing an indoor cat into this situation, purely because a person who says something like this won’t see letting it out or leaving a window open as a big deal.

 

Post # 15
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980 posts
Busy bee

@Idunn:  thats a scary thought!

Id definitely try and get her out of the house (especially when noone else is around) before your cats move in. If she takes offence to something you do/say or is annoyed by your cats then it’s entirely possible she would do something as payback. 

I wouldn’t leave my cat with anyone other than my parents because I know some people don’t always understand indoor cats. So even if it’s not an intentionally nasty action, it could still happen.

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