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I would totally go with him too! I don't think you're overbearing, I think you're concerned and you know your man. Mine is the same way. I haven't gone with him to the doctors appointments but I have threatened to and I eventually will. Your FI sounds like mine, when they get to the doctor they minimize the symptoms and how crappy they feel. Hopefully he realizes this isn't going to go away and he'll speak up.
I hope your FI feels better soon!
I don't want to scare you but those sound like serious symptoms, especially since they sound like they are chronic. I definitely think you should go with him to make sure the Doctor hears about ALL his symptoms. Even if he doesn't mean to, when you are in a stressful sitatuon like that, you tend forget little details that might end up being important. I think it would be helpful for you to be there, but I agree that he definitely needs to see a doctor because chronic symptoms like the ones you described are NOT normal and need to be treated and investigated for more serious underlying issues.
@jennifer espos- #1 Your wedding date is my birthday! #2 I'm glad you think I'm not being overbearing, I feel like it but it's all done out of LOVE 
@neato- His symptoms aren't always this bad which is why he has ignored it for so long. I'm hoping that it's nothing serious and he just needs his tonsils out. He has the same symptoms I did before I got mine out. He also has sore throats a lot which is what I had. I got mine removed when I was 18 and haven't had strep or a sore throat nearly as bad as I did when I had them.
I'd go with him, if nothing else just so he doesn't have to drive himself! I know when I'm really sick like that, driving is the last thing I want to do.
It sounds a little bit like how I felt when I had mono, but then again, those symptoms are fairly general so it could be anything (like tonsilitis or strep.) Hope he feels better soon!
@farmersdaughter- Thanks, I hope he's better soon too. He thought it was strep & got tested awhile ago but it came back negative which leads me to believe it's his tonsils.I'll be driving home so he can sleep/relax, I hate driving while sick too.
I definitely don't think you're being overbearing. At this point, I probably would have hit my husband over the head with a frying pan and drug him to the doctor! Haha...so you were much more patient. Kudos to you for calling the ENT FOR him and getting him an appointment today! His symptoms really sound quite serious.
My mom is like this. She puts things off for so long until they become huge issues. It's so frustrating! I'm glad my husband isn't that way...he'll go to the doctor, but he's not a huge baby about it.
I hope everything goes well today for him...and hopefully the Dr. can give him something to fight off the infection he probably has!!!
Just because symptoms aren't always bad doesn't mean that something isn't wrong. The fact that he is doubling over in pain and can't swallow at all can't be good. It sounds like he has a tonsil infection (not sure about the stomach thing). You should definetly go with him so that you can tell the doctor everything that is going on.
My FI was this bad until one day he woke up and looked like he had a stroke.
OMG can I tell you how scary it was that day driving him to the hospital because he looked like he seriously had a stroke at the age of 26!
Long story short he had severe streph throat which he never went to the doctor for. So from one of the wounds/ spots in his throat he caught a secondary viral infection which spread into his nerves and paraylized one side of his face. FOR 3 MONTHS. He had to tape his eye down, and hold a napkin to his face to eat. It was so so scary, so from such a minor sickness and not getting treated right away he learned the hard way. So now if he gets sick and it starts to get bad, he goes to the clinic asap.
It sounds like what I was going thru for a bout 2 years. I would have the same horrible symptoms then they would go away for a while. But then my life got a lot more stressful with a lot less sleep and I wasn't taking very good care of myself and it finally forced me to go to the doctor and it ended up that I had to get my tonils and retropharyngeal lymph nodes removed because they were all necrotic. The doctor explained to me that part of the reason I would have stomach signs is because all of the bacteria and drainage were getting swallowed and creating a bacterial overgrowth in my intestines and because of the stress in my life + the other health issues I developed a stomach ulcer which started bleeding and became really serious really fast.
I am not saying that your FI has what I had but I feel 100% better now that I had my tonsils/lymph nodes taken out and treated the ulcer.
If you should go with your FI or not is up to you but I would definitely express to him that you are concerned that he is not taking his health seriously and that it is causing you to become very worried. FI uses the guilt trip on me that we are a family and I have to take better care of myself if not for me but for him.
I'm not sure I like the Dr he saw. The Dr gave FI nasal spray and had him tested for mono. Hopefully after the results we'll get some answers. ugh.
To get my fiance to go to the doctor I have to pretty much guilty him into it... "Do you want to be around for us to grow old and grow?" he'll answer yes and I'll do something like "Well if you don't see that doctor about_________ you can kiss that good bye" Or something like "Do you want me to get sick?" I know I sound like a naggy witch with a b but A) my immunce system is horrible and B) he's a big baby as long as he's not feeling well and drives me nuts by being a big baby because I can't take whinning for a very long time (over 3days makes me want to scream!)
Wellll... I'm kinda like that. I don't like going to the doctor, I think bodies tend to heal/recover on their own but sometimes the dr is necessary. Plus I don't have health insurance & money is really tight right now. My FI researched my symptoms & really really wanted me to go to the dr. Iit turns out I have an ulcer. I'll be ok, but I think I worry my FI sometimes.
One thing you can try is www.webmd.com & use the symptom checker, its really helpful for self diagnosis. You put in the symptoms & it comes up with possible illnesses. I mean, don't depend on that, trust a dr more but it may help at times when FI won't go to the dr & you think he should.
I totally didn't like this doctor at all. He just didn't care at all. He didn't go over his symptoms at all (even though FI has almost all symptoms that imply tonsillitis!) this guy wouldn't even listen to other symptoms. He just said allergies or mono. Poor FI was in so much pain this morning he couldn't talk, his throat is just disgustingly sore & red. I don't know what to do. I'm at a loss, I now understand why FI hates going to Drs b/c they never do anything for him. It's been going on for awhile now so I doubt it's allergies or mono.
i dvise TAKE HIM TO ANOTHER DOC.nothing worst than not feeling ur doc cared.
but then again am a self diagnoised hypo-chondriac.who will go t the doc for almost anything.
Honestly it sounds like it could be mono. Mono lasts a long time and does come with the crazy sore throat. If they tested for it, you should get the results very soon. If it comes back negative I would say get yourself a second opinion!
I had an experience like that. I was so sick and I saw 3 different doctors on campus and they all said there was nothing wrong with me, without even a blood test or a throat swab or anything. I was FURIOUS. One of them did prescribe a nasal spray, which I never got. Then I went to a walk-in in the city and right off the bat the doc was like, I think it's mono. I was tested and sure enough it was. I had been sick for probably... 1 month before that?
FI is going to wait for the results of mono and then he has a follow up with this guy in 1 month. If he isn't better I'm making him go to his GP. He can't keep living with his throat killing him and in pain for the next month.
I guess after looking at symptoms allergies & mono can cause a sore throat but his is very extreme and with the stomach pain it just makes me think it's more than that.
When the doctor came in to the room he didn't even have the paperwork FI had just filled out to ask about symptoms or anything. He also didn't take FI's temp even though FI felt like he was on fire!
@Ottawabride- I'm kind of relieved to hear your story (but sorry you were sick!), that would maybe cause his sore throat. The dr said the results would take 1 week but when FI went to get the blood tests done @ the lab they said it would be in today! WTF. The doctor was just a jerk IMO all around! FI is going to call today asking for results etc.
Also when the doctor brought up mono, FI was like how would I get mono, Dr asked if I had it, I said no but I did have it in 7th grade. He then said FI more than likely got it from me even though I have no symptoms. Ugh great glad this is my fault.
I.Want.To.Scream.
Ugh...I would take him to another doctor! This guy sounds like a jerkface! I'm not a fan of when doctors just brush you off as if you're overreacting - you're right, it's what makes people not want to go to the doctor, b/c they make you feel like you're an idiot for even making a big deal over what you have. Grr...so frustrating!
I had a similar experience with my PCP. I was a new patient, and I told her that my maternal grandmother and my mom had breast cancer, and even though I'm only 29, I want to start getting screened for mammograms soon. She blew me off, and told me insurance would never cover it. I told her that I WORK in benefits, and my HMO doesn't have an age limit on mammograms. She didn't believe me! Hello...I'm the person who is responsible for the plan design of my HMO at my company...I think I know what they cover vs. what they don't cover. I was not happy...she just lost my business.
That is true, once you have mono you're apparently a carrier of it. Don't worry, I gave it to my FI also... lol. We're just big germs apparently!
I hope he feels better soon! Those sound like my mono symptoms but my throat actually closed to the point where I couldn't swallow and had to go on steroids. It stinks when you feel like a Dr isn't taking you seriously!
@2peas...I had a lump in my breast and my GYN had retired so I went to her colleague and he told me it wasn't cancer because at the time I was 25! I told him my grandmother had breast cancer and my mom has had tumors removed, he didn't care! I finally told him sternly that cancer doesn't discriminate because of age and I was going to get a mammo, I NEVER went back to him, he was a jerk. I got the mammo and found a breast dr that was great. He removed the tumor and thankfully it was benign. But it was still VERY scary to happen and then have someone tell you you are too young to have breast cancer. I still get mad when I talk about it!
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...to get FI to the doctor. He has been sick for MONTHS. I did nag him enough to get a lump by his ear checked out and it turned out to be a swollen lymph node. That Dr. told him to see and ENT b/c of FI's other symptoms (swollen tonsils, sore throat, stomach pain, headache, swollen lymph nodes, difficulty swollowing...) the list goes on. It's been almost a month I believe since the Dr told him to see an ENT and he said he started to feel better and never called.
Fast forward to this morning, he looks horrible, he says he has the worst sore throat of his life, I look in his mouth with flashlight and it's RED like super red, both of his tonsils are large but one is ginormous, almost everyother day he doubles over from sharp pain in his stomach, he can't swollow and on the way to work he said he might throw up. He drops me off at work and I start looking up ENTs in our area, I called and told the receptionist his symptoms and they are getting worse and he's very sick and wouldn't call himself etc she was SO nice and fit him in today at 3:30. He was very appreciative that I called and got him in which means I know he's really sick because normally he would probably give me grief about it. He then tells me he'll pick me up after the appointment, I said ok and told him to call me after. Then I got to thinking that I really need to go with him. Not to act like an overbearing mother but because I KNOW him and I know he won't tell the Dr how sick he really is and how horrible he feels, he'll leave out symptoms he has and just agree with whatever the Dr says! I call back and tell him to pick me up before hand because I want to hear what the Dr says and make sure that he doesn't leave without a diagnosis, antibiotics, pain meds whatever. He is NEVER sick and he is in serious pain so I want to make sure he doesn't down play that to act more "manly" at the Drs.
Sorry for the vent but does anyone else have a SO/FI/DH that acts like this? Also has anyone had these symptoms before? I think he has Tonsillitis but that is just from looking up his symptoms, I'm no Dr...any Dr bees out there that have an opinion?