- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
I will try to keep this short – I think I may have complained about this animal before – but my wedding bogged mind isn’t retaining anything non-nuptiual realted these days.
FI has a dog. It’s a cute dog, named Oreo.
Oreo was the product of FI’s first, short and obviously unsuccessful marriage. He bought the dog for his ex-wife and then actually had the dog written into the divorce papers so he could keep him.
This dog is now just over 5 and untrained. Well, he’s potty trained – but that’s all.
I have a 3 year old. Who naps, and is frightened by loud abrupt noises – like most children are when unexpected things happen. We have thema million times a day because thdog goes off at the heat coming on.
This dog does the normal dog thing, barks when a noise happens. But unlike other dogs who will simply stop after a time because the noise is gone and they have"made it go away" he keeps going. And going. 10-15-20-30 minutes straight. Saying Quite doens’t work, demanding quiet doens’t work – no – I have to scream it to get it across to him – which then sets me into a bad mood all day (who wants to be angry all the time?) and not something I want my child around. Anglry mom all day – this is what causes surburbam house wifes to closet drink!
FH tired unsuccessfully to train the dog in school. When it failed he claimed he was too old to train. It didn’t have anything to do with the fact he took him to less then half the classes then never followed up with him after.
**He won’t get the dog groomed – BTW it’s a shitz tu with alergies so it requires expensive shots, pills, and baths all the time. I have to remind, beg and demnd he take it in.
**He won’t clip his nails, even when they are so long it hurts the dog – oh and we just put in hard wood – so I hear tap dancing all day.
**I can’t open my BRAND NEW windows and enjoy my view because the dog will bark like someone is being attacked if a car drives by or the wind moves a tree branch.
**We don’t have the $200 for an eliptical I want (and FI wants too) to keep me in shape and healthy and happy but the dog needs the money for something other then a bark collar – we’re scraping the bottom of the barrel to find it.
**It will cost us near $400 to board him for the night of the wedding because he can’t sleep alone over night. And the family is all stayingin a hotel that night so no one can take him – OH and did I mention my mom who breeds and takes dogs in from homes that abuse them won’t even take this dog for a night because she can’t handle him – and she has the worst kind of dogs most of the time!!!
**I’m ancored to my house – which I’m in all day anyway as a stay at home mom, rushing back for the dog when I finally do get out….
**I can’t have a cat – because the dogs not ready and I can’t have a baby when we’re married because the dog isn’t trained not to jump on tables and children! Why does my life revolve around this thing?
So I tell FI – We will do this one last class but if it doens’t work the dog finds a new home – he says no. I say well then if you can’t live with out him, can you live with out me? Because I’m stressed every day because of the dog, digging babrbie shoes out of his mouth, yelling at him to shut up, he does this thumper thing where he bangs his foot on the ground while he itches himself about 400 times a day ehich echos on a hard woodfloor., drags his infected ears all over my $2500 couch that I don’t even get to sit on because half of the L shape has been given to him for a bed!? WTF!
If he loves the stupid thing so much why won’t he take care of it? He knows I can’t take it to the groomers – he barks and bites at people and Mr S has to leave work to go get him. We’ve tried it 2 times.
I want a bark collar and he won’t do it claims they are cruel. What and being screamed at all day isn’t? He wants to keep wasting money we don’t h ave – WEDDING money on more classes.
Today I’m on the edge of thowing it into the snow and lputting a free sign on him. I can’t keep wasting money on this thing? Especially if FI wants to play the ‘we can’t afford a baby" card like he’s already tried to pull out when discussing our future.
I don’t know what I even need by postingthis – but I feel better.
I hate the dog.
thanks for reading! I need a nap!