Post # 1
I am new to the hive, but I would like to get a few opinions about my shoe situation:
I am 4’9″ and my amazing soon-to-be husband is 5’11” O_o I went and bought beautiful and comfortable flats last week and I am already starting to freak out about it. I feel like wearing flats on the wedding day makes me feel even more so accepted by my fiance, but all I can think about is standing in front of all those people with such dramatic height difference.
“You’re too small to get married” and “He’s going to have to get on his knees to kiss you” are a couple of bothersome things people have said to me, and even though I know that there is no mean intent, it still does upset me a little.
So how bad would it be to wear my flats?
Post # 3
if you are comfortable with it, it is your day, so do whatever makes you happy!!!!! however…
i am 6’1 and FI is 6’2 and a half…..my head is also a lot bigger than his…Now, on normal days, I LOVE LOVE LOVE wearing heels, and he loves it as well…
However, I was really concerned about having heels and being taller than him for our pictures, and also about my head looking so much bigger than his BECAUSE im wearing high heels…for this reason, i went on a mad hunt to make sure that i didn’t get any more than a one inch heel (I was even thinking about doing ballet flats just to make sure!!!)
FI didnt pressure me either, he would have been fine if I brought home 6 inch Jimmy Choos for the wedding day, (lol) but we both discussed that for various reasons, we dont want to hear the “oh, your girl is taller than you” comments…
but again, do what you wish, just think how the comments will affect you on your day. I know I am pretty sensitive, so hearing even ONE comment on that day would probably send me over the edge…
if its not goign to bother you, then go for what you want! 🙂
Post # 4
Basically, if I feel like the people are going to give me the comments that I don’t want to hear on that day…I might want to look into wearing some heels.
I would like to hope that they wouldn’t say the things that I’m concerned about, but, hah, I’m not so sure.
So I either need to gain an abundance of confidence in the neext four months or go shoe shopping again. 0_O
Thanks for your input :]
Post # 5
Aw, try not to worry about what people will say or even think! The last thing you need to worry about is the shoes, or being uncomfortable all night because you’re in heels that are killing you. Most of your guests have seen you guys together, so they know there’s a height difference, right? So, it is what it is! Its like you’re 3’5″ and he’s like 7’6″, then people might talk (wrongfully of course). But I’ve seen height differentials more than yours and all I’ve thought is, “Wow, he’s much taller” and I keep it moving, its no biggie.
Post # 6
I say where whatever you want, esp. what you are comfortable in!!
My FI is 6’8″ and I am 5’2″ and I bought shoes with 4.5″ heels. But I wear heels a lot and am comfortable in them. Ultimately, you should wear what you are comfortable in!!
Post # 7
I use to wear heels quite frequently, but I’ve slacked off a little bit. So that’s one of the many pros of wearing flats for me…plus: I am surprisingly in love with the shoes! (and that isn’t often so with flats)
Also, yesterday we went to go look at the church we will be using and the steps to where we will be standing are insanely narrow and sharply angled! So I suppose for the sake of my safety…lol
*phew* I’m already starting to calm down a little bit.
Edit: I guess one of the reasons I get so caught up with my height every once in a while is that I am a young bride, and I also look even younger, whereas my lovely fiance is 22 and the scruff on his face, though I like :], makes him look older! And people tend to make an issue out of the appearance of age.
Post # 8
If you found shoes that your are comfortable in AND you love – don’t fret, just wear them!! 🙂
Besides, ideally, everyone who is attending your wedding will know and love you guys for who you are, and none of this younger looking/height thing will matter – you are marring the man you love!!! Side note – as a 30 something bride – enjoy the “young looking” comments for as long as humanly possible!!! LOL
Post # 9
do what you want. who cares about what those people think about your shoes (or height for that matter!)!
Post # 10
I say wear what makes you comfortable. You’ll look fantastic either way–I’m sure no one will be focusing on height!
Post # 11
Hey date twin! My FI and I have a pretty big height difference as well, but if you feel most comfortable wearing flats then go for it! Everyone will be so busy being happy for you two, mingling with others, and enjoying themselves that they shouldn’t make rude comments on your big day! Plus, everyone there will already know you so definitely no unnecessary remarks should arise. 🙂
Post # 12
Thank y’all so much!
Day number two of being a member, and I feel right at home. (I’ve been wanting to join a forum for a while now, though it’s not a writing forum, it’s something I need right now, for sure. :D)
Post # 13
Weddingbee is definitely amazing! The community here is fantastic…
I am with the others on this, do what makes you feel comfortable. My cousin got married last year and his bride was almost 2ft shorter than him, but all we were paying attention to was how in love they were and how beautiful the ceremony was.