Post # 1
I normally am not the uber emotional type like this, but my week has just been awful. I need to vent it out a bit.
First, Saturday night I received my first grad school response. A rejection. No big deal, I was expecting it from that one and have plenty more to go.
Then today I find out our reception venue can’t let us book the second piece of the ballroom (it’s in 3 pieces, we have one and the middle one was supposed to be open). They actually booked it two weeks ago without telling me. Nice. Now our reception site is too small. That one was huge. It pretty much means we have to move the whole site. Which is all kinds of mega bad. It means only the ceremony will be up in Edmond, while all potential reception sites are 20+ minutes away. And we have to get a new caterer, because our original venue had on site catering. And our budget just got blown because our venue was so well priced and now we’re looking at more than double that.
To top it all off, my fiance and I are at odds today. It’s certainly not the first time. We have a communication issue. Sounds run of the mill, but it’s driving me crazy. You see, I’m a psych major and last semester I wrote a 28 page academic paper on motivation in marital communication. I got a perfect 100 on the paper. I know a little thing or 2 about communication. I’m really reaching my break point on him lately. It’s not getting better, it’s been on a down hill slide for the last 1 to 1 1/2 years. He says he’ll do something, then doesn’t. He says one thing when he means another. I begged him to talk to me today when I was freaking out about the reception site, and I got nothing. He forgets to tell me important things like “I’ll be gone all day Sunday for a work meeting”. The list goes on.
I’m just really frustrated and overwhelmed right now. I’ve got my last semester of school, grad school application stuff, the wedding insanity, work, being president of 2 campus organizations, and more to juggle and it’s really getting to me this week.
Post # 3
oh dear… What a crappy start to the week!!
Grad school there are always a few more, and I think seriously you will get into one. Rejection sucks sometimes, if not should only make you stronger. THINK POSITIVE!
Venue searching sucks I have had sproblems with my venue and its changed about 6 times… hopefully this one will stick tho. How many people are you having and is it possible to reduce guest list?? are there cheaper options?
My FH suffers from communication break down too… perserverance is the key.. and constant talks about communication regularly helps.
I outline with FH what I had a problem with and what I think will rectify it. I say I dont like the way WE handled this, I felt out of the loop… which resulted in.. (you get my picture) I found if I did this often, without loosing my cool. It improved..
Its been a whole two years so far on the communication issue. You are not alone!!
Good luck! Hope the week improves..
Post # 4
wow..what a week already! that really sucks..i hate when weeks start out like that. you sure have had a stressful week. You have a lot going on…
But….EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON! I know you dont want to hear this but…..TRY to look on the bright side of everything. I am pretty good at this…here i go….
1. Grad School-you will be accepted by a school that is more like you, that you will more than likely do better at, and like better than that school stupid school that send you that letter. (rejection is hard but usually for the best)
2. Reception Venue-This is tough one but….your new venue could be more beautiful and have better food. This also gives you a reason to try and be more crafty and look at other ways to save 😀 who knows maybe if this would not have happened your cater could have been awful or there could have been bad weather there on your day…
3. Communication Problem-your a psych major so i am not going to give any advice here all i want to say is….you are in love; you have a wonderful person in your life. you are one of the very lucky few who finds someone that they want to spend the rest of their life with. those arguments and miscommunications are all worth it in the end. because when you get to a point where you finallly REALLY understand eachother and REALLY work together as a team….it is a beautiful thing. Sidebar-our relationship was the opposite of most couples. our first couple of months together were brutal….we had huge communication issues. BUT we worked through it and it is the most amazing feeling in the world!!! we are FINALLY on the same page..it was worth all of it!
If nothing else I hope I at least made you laugh or even crack a smile
Try to start tomorrow fresh and be proactive! do whatever you need to do tonight to try and relieve that stress and start tomorrow on a positive mission!
I would bet that no matter what yoru wedding day will be beautiful and everything you always imaged. Good luck and i hope you have a better week 😀