(Closed) It’s my birthday…and I am in tears (vent)

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

First, happy birthday!  I’ll just point out real quick that facebook is evil.  I think you are putting too much emphasis on fb comments. 

Your FI shouldn’t really be telling his mother your business, especially if he knows she reacts this way.  Any parent who feels that their child has been wronged by their SO is going to take their child’s side.  It’s human nature.  Your FI is letting his mother intervene and insisting you have a good relationship with her.  This is not you FMIL’s fault… it is your FI’s fault.  FMIL is entitled to her opinion about you… what is bad is that your FI won’t stand up to her and establish boundaries.

 

Post # 4
Member
435 posts
Helper bee

Sorry you are unhappy, but I think you might be reading too much into FB comments.  I make all different kinds of statements depending on my mood or how much time I have. 

I hope things do get better with your FMIL and wish you a really happy birthday.

Post # 5
Member
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

First, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Go get yourself some ice cream, you deserve it!

Second, I think you need to talk to FI about not telling his momma everything. This was a really hard one for DH and I, too. He tells (told) his mom EVERYTHING. Finally I just had to say something like “Honey, if we are going to be a couple, you can’t run to your momma every time I upset you. You need to talk to me about it, so we can work it out as a COUPLE.” 3 people does not equal a couple. 🙂

Post # 6
Member
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with the other posters, what has happened is now in the past. The two of you have both messed up, and the two of you together can work on getting back to where you need to be. It isn’t up to his mom to make you feel worse, as you already feel bad enough with what has happened. I think FB can really mess with people, and sometimes you can read too much into something. But he really needs to not go to her for all of the problems, he needs to sit down and talk to you. Communication is key to your relationship.

Post # 7
Member
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

And Happy Birthday!

Post # 8
Member
2281 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Happy Belated Birthday.

@angela83 I agree, facebook is the devil I’ve always said.

Sit down have a talk with him. Explain to him that that isn’t the best way in moving forward with your future.

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