Post # 1
I realise that this post is going to sound sulky, bratty and downright petulant, but I need to vent or I’m going to start crying in work!!
Basically, it just seems like no one cares that my birthday is in a couple of days. My parents want to take me for dinner but want me to make all the arrangements myself, my friends aren’t in town this weekend so I can’t celebrate with them and my guy…I know he knows it’s on Friday but it’s like he is so wrapped up in a football project he is running that it’s slipped his mind. I’ve hardly seen him this week and he’s in no rush to come home from working on this.
I think what’s also bothering me is that I was kind of secretly hoping that he might propose this weekend, but his sister got engaged last weekend- coupled with his seemingly total lack of awareness that my birthday is two days away would confirm that it won’t happen this weekend. And I guess I’m a bit bummed.
Sorry for the bratty rant, I know I should be grateful to have a loving family and my guy, and I really do! But I have birthday blues and can’t shake the sad feeling that it’s not really that important to the people I love most.
Post # 3
think of all the movies where it seems that people forgot their birthday, but really they didn’t and its a big surprise.
OR better yet… think of 16 candles.
Try not to dwell 🙂
Post # 4
I understand how you feel. I LOVE my birthday, and I’ve always wanted a big party or something done by someone else and…it’s never happened. Probably never will. We don’t have any money to do anything cool, plus we’re saving for the wedding and a house on one income. We’ll have brownies and ice cream with his dad and stepmom, and his mom will probably get me something and bake me a cake, but that’s it. It’s a bummer.
Post # 5
The key is – your birthDAY is in two days…if you were posting a day after your birthday and they had forgotten, been uninterested I would understand, but its not even your birthday yet. At least give them chance. Of course your birthday will be important, but they dont have to get uber excited before the actual day.
What if they are planning a big surprise for you….?? You arent going to know that until the day!
is it a milestone birthday?? The world doesnt stop just because its your birthday…sorry I know that sounds harsh…people have to work if its a week day for example or even weekend depending on what job they do.
If it were me, I would be happy with a simple happy birthday on the day!
Post # 6
@LittleMusic: I’m so sorry, I think every lady goes through this at least once in her life…mine was two years ago, and I nearly killed Mr. 99 over it, my birthday is New Year’s Day, which sounds awesome, but isn’t, because everyone is too tired and hung over to care about anything, especially me. So that year Mr. 99 asked if we could just go watch football over at the folks house, since he was going to take me out to dinner, I said sure…but as the weeks wore on toward my birthday, the shittier I felt about it. No one cared, no one was going to do anything about it, and I should just figure out a way to be happy.
So my birthday rolls around, we go to an unceremonious dinner at the Spaghetti Factory, I get up the next morning, my birthday, yay, and my sister calls to take me to lunch….I spend the whole time drinking margaritas and complaining about what a shitty husband I’ve got…she finally drags me, half drunk to the folks house, I walk in, about twenty people fly out and yell, “Surprise!” and there’s Mr. 99 standing there, with a huge grin and a pair of diamond earrings…I felt like such a tool!
It’s only when you’ve completely given up hope, that something so unexpected happens….does that mean it will? Who knows? But you can’t say it won’t either!
Post # 7
I think birthdays are like weddings–yours is never going to be as important to other people as it is to you.
I’m not going to try and sell you on the idea that people will surprise you with an awesome party just to try and make you feel better because that’s movies, not real life (eta: unless you are Nona :), and it would probably just set you up for more disappointment. I think you should decide what you want to do for your birthday, and do that. If what you want is a party, and nobody else is doing it, throw your own. Make your own awesome birthday.
I do think you should tell your Fiance that doing whatever you decided you want to do on your birthday is important to you. Sometimes we forget that other people can’t read our minds, and we feel like they should just know how we feel about something. And then we get mad at them when they don’t meet our secret expectations. So if you want him to make your birthday a priority, tell him that.
Post # 8
Thanks guys, sometimes it just takes a few wise, objectional words (and funny stories, thanks Nona!!) to get you grounded again!
I know no one is going to be as excited about my birthday as me, and I know there are a few days to go before they even have to acknowledge it. I guess I just feel like people have loads going on and my non-special, non-milestone birthday isn’t really that important…but I want it to be!! I know, total princess!!
I think I’ll just have to ask him what he has planned so I can get my glad rags ready if needed, and if he hasn’t thought about it then I’ll have to give him my “get on it” stare!!