Post # 1
hi ladies i am an a wreck right now. This might be a long one. I am pmsing and it has never been this bad. I have noticed it is getting worse with the wedding being less than 2 months away. I am crying over anything, i went to the dentist today to see about my wisdom teeth and the oral surgern was kind of rushy and i got in my car and just wanted to cry. My back is killing me and i noticed it is getting wose with stress. Normally my mood when i pms goes from happy to sad to mad it does what is feels like i guess lol. Now i am just completely sad. This week, when i come from work all iwant to do is sleep. I was on bc for pmsing and period troubles but it made my mood so bad all month that i couldnt take it anymore and neither couldmy other half. Is anybody having this problem with pmsing being ths bad?? I dont know if there is anything i can do to help my problem.
Wedding stuff is even making me sad. I have my first fitting for my dress on saturday and it isnt really making me 2 excited. I found out that no one from my side of the family is coming to my bridal shower and it is making me sad. None of them even replied yes or no. My grandma on my dads side is not coming to the wedding, and neither is my aunt. My fiance doesnt get how it makes me feel. I know it is less we have to pay but at the same time i feel like they just doesnt care.
Where i work at they told me that they are cutting my position, so after the wedding i wont have a job.I work at a horse stable and there is only about 7 stalls that are filled now, because the economic is so bad right now. I get done in an hour to hour an half and i have nothing else to do so i come home and feel like so lost because i have the whole day and nothing to do accept for house work or play with the dogs until my other half gets home from work. It is making me feel so worthless, that my other half is out working and i dont work that much. I have had job interviews for kennel assistant jobs and they tell me sorry you are way over qualifed and that they dont have a vet assistant opening. I am freaking out that omg after september 13th i wont have a job and what if i cant find one soon.
Post # 3
I can’t offer any advice, but I can offer bee hugs!
Post # 5
- Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House
If you’ve been feeling this way for a while, it may be more than pms. Would you consider seeing a counselor or maybe a spiritual advisor that you trust? All of these changes could be sparking anxiety and/or depressions, and it’s very natural to nedd to talk through some of these big life changes with a professional who is equipped to help. I’ve gone through a few life changes before where I needed to see a counselor to help give me perspective and come up with a useful plan for taking control of my thoughts and situation. It’s completely normal to be anxious about the job situation and sad about some of the wedding things. Take care of yourself! You can get through this!
Post # 6
First off, deep breaths! Hormones can do wicked things but they won’t last. Go outside and get some fresh air and sunshine. Light exercise can be really helpful too. And yes, my pmsing has gotten worse as we get closer to the wedding.
I’m sorry you lost your job, but you will find another one. Keep trying and don’t lose hope! Maybe tell the kennel that although you have other qualifications you’d really like to take a break from that and think you would be excellent at doing whatever they need done?
It’s ok to take a nap, but make yourself get up and do something afterwards. If you’re feeling worthless because you don’t have a job make keeping house, taking care of the dogs and finding new employment your full time job. Between those three you ought to stay pretty busy.
Keep your chin up and good luck! It will all turn around soon.
Post # 7
Remember that EVERYTHING seems much worse than it actually is when you’re PMSing. It’s possible you have PMDD – it’s kind of like a more severe PMS. Make an appointment with your doctor and ask about the birth control Yaz. Trust me when I say it’s a miracle worker 🙂
Try not to concentrate on all the things that are making you sad. You’re marrying the love of your life in less than 2 months – you should be excited! Staying positive right now is the best thing you can do. Use your extra time to finish DIY projects for the big day, or revamp your resume and start looking for new jobs!
Post # 8
I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this… everything that goes wrong always seems magnified when it’s happening around wedding planning time. Talking to your fiance and to friends and family will help you cope with things, such as your family not being able to attend. It’s hard not to take things personally when it comes to weddings and who will/will not be there, but try to focus on who will be there to celebrate with you and just figure that the others have other things on their plates, just as we all have at times. Also, it’s a very trying ecomonic time and there’s lots of money involved around weddings so everyone’s feeling the squeeze. Just continue with the job search and stay confident & have faith that you’ll find something and things will work themselves out. After all, you’re not in this alone, you have your loving other half there to help you out & that in itself is someone and something to be very greatful about. Keep your head up, I hope everything works out for you 🙂
Post # 9
Awwwwww honey, here is a hug for you. I’m so sorry that you are feeling this way, I can definitely understand the stress of the wedding and to add job troubles on to that is even worse.
I completely understand the family thing, none of my family is coming to my bridal shower, and my grandparents, rsvp’d no without an explanation or a good luck of anything. It really does hurt your feelings, a day that means so much to us brides seems like nothing to other people.
I don’t say this to make you feel worse, but as one who struggles with it daily, do you think you could be depressed? The sadness and sleeping a lot are definitely warning signs, also increased stress can make it worse if you do. I suggest doing some type of physical activity every day, I know you don’t feel like it, but it does help, try to eat right, see your doctor if you feel like it, they can give you medicine that will help.
Hang in there, believe me I’ve been there, things can and will get better. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 10
Just wanted to offer a hug. I’ve been in that boat. “This too, shall pass” is what my mom used to tell me. I also advise you to see your doc and get the medical part checked out – after that, try to make your time productive – organize a drawer or work on a project, but keep yourself busy and try to stay positive.
Hang in there!
Post # 11
Honey i know just how you feel. I feel the SAME things when it’s alomst that time of the month. I feel either very mad or very sad or just very irritated. i had to finally take a deep breathe and just look forward to better days. i do small things by meself just to make it easier, so that i don’t take it out on my fiance or boyz. Little things like work outs or doing my toes or hair. Sounds silly but it’s helping me.
I hope you find something that makes it better for you.
Post # 13
I’m so sorry!! (((((BIG HUGS)))))
Were you on Yaz by any chance? My friend was on it and her mood swings were so crazy! I don’t experience the crazy mood swings (I’m on it too) but my back pain right before my period is excrutiating. It almost feels as bad as when I get a UT. I think you should see a doctor too just in case.
I’m sure a lot of your sadness is depression. Even though you are planning your most important day, it really sucks for family not to be there and on top of that knowing that you are losing your job. I’m truly sorry. Just live one day at time and it WILL get better soon.
Post # 14
haha no socialbride86 my period came on wednesday. I am feeling kind of better. I was on my way to work today which is a 35 min drive and my brake light was on so i called work and told them i need to take the car in. I called my other half and he told me to come to his work and he would check it out and come to find out the parking brake was on, so i called my boss back 10 mins later and he told me not to come because he got all the stalls but 2 stalls left to do. So i took my pitbull/american staff for a hour walk and we are both tired lol. I saw an ad in the paper for a vet assistant so i went to apply for it. I hope i get it, the only thing i am worried about is if i get it telling them that i am getting married and the honeymoon. I am kind of looking forward to seeing the table set up tonight for the wedding and my dress fitting tomorrow yay! anyways i am off to do more landry! thanks everyone for your support *hugs* back to you all!
Post # 15
Wow! That sounds like a very productive day! I’d say you’re on your way back up. Well done!
Post # 16
Hey, I don’t have advice (although boy, I have been there but it seems to have gotten better just as I’m getting to be an old lady now) but I just wanted to send you some hugs.