(Closed) It’s nice to want things.

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry you’re feeling that way!  It sucks sometimes, I know.  But honestly, the fact that you’re stamping and handwriting on cardstock for your invitations?  If I were your FI or your parents I’d be so proud of you for being a take charge woman that does what she’s able to in order to make things special and nice.  Honestly, it sounds like you’ve gotten a lot done!  I usually throw away invitations after the wedding (I know I suck, sorry!) but I’d be likely to save one that was done by hand, if that helps?

Your wedding will be awesome because you’re putting yourself into it and because nothing wonderful is ever easy to get <3

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

im seeing alot of “I”s in your post but where is the “we”???  are you carrying the financial load of the wedding all on your own?

 

 

Post # 6
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1267 posts
Bumble bee

Harleyanastasia, I have to add that even though I totally respect everyone’s vision for their wedding, it’s been a pretty common post on here that most people aren’t going to even really notice all of those details.  I work at a place that hosts weddings, and I can’t tell you how many times a bride tells me she was up three days straight doing something like embroidering little sachet packets with their initials on it and after she leaves, I’m collecting about 60% of them off of the tables because people never even took them or noticed them πŸ™

There’s times when the couple buys crazy expensive little things and we seriously have about half of them left over.  Don’t worry – those little things can seem like something luxurious to want, but they don’t hold a special meaning of your day at all.  You and your FI are the wonderful little detail for your wedding!! πŸ™‚

I like your honesty and your ability to get over that hump!  I hope your wedding is wonderful and then you can breathe easy and relax!

Post # 7
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Your wedding will be great!  I second luckyprincess.  I used to cater weddings, and I found that the simplest were often the most appreciated.  Tons of people left their favors on the tables, and didn’t notice elaborate little details.  I am one of those people.  I would NOT notice if my place card were etched in gold or written with Sharpie.

Don’t sweat the small stuff…because it is just small stuff πŸ™‚

Post # 8
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6351 posts
Bee Keeper

Have you looked at local colleges to see if maybe you can get a photog trying to build their resume? Your invites sound awesome.

Payless has dyable white shoes. Cute and inexpensive.

Post # 9
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Your invites sound awesome and it is going to be an amazing day.

Post # 10
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I totally get the vent.  It’s just really hard to see people who have lots of things you would like, when despite working as hard as you can you just can’t have them right now.  It feels really unfair sometimes.  All I can say is the advice I try to take myself when I’m feeling that way about anything in life – I try to list all the things I’m so lucky to have: my friends, family, cat, fiance (not in that order!), our cozy little apartment, a city I like, good public transit, etc.  We don’t have the money for a honeymoon right now, and as I finish grad school, my FI is unemployed and I still don’t have a job lined up for next year.  But I’m going to try my best to focus on the good stuff and work my hardest to help us get in a better situation.

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