Post # 1
$450. That’s what I had saved up. My grandma and mother paid for my dress. They helped pay for decorations. I ordered my bouquet, paid an officiant and church fees, bought a couple flowers and craft supplies, and bam… all the moneys gone. I have my dress, alterations, veil, garter, ring pillow (diyed), cake cutters, toasting glasses, a few centerpieces and random decorations, boutoneirres (also diyed) and some hair jewelry. I have no rings. I have no shoes, photographer, food, or bridesmaid gifts. I do have a marriage license- I do have a cake, a dj (free), and reception hall. I have family willing to help me with creating all our desserts for the dessert reception. It just really sucks when you see all these beautiful details in other people’s wedding- personalized hankerchiefs, mini bottle favors, invitations ordered for more than my budget while I spent countless nights stamping and handwriting on cardstock… I feel bad for whining, but I just had to get it out. I wish we had more money, and that’s an honest vent 🙁
Post # 3
I’m sorry you’re feeling that way! It sucks sometimes, I know. But honestly, the fact that you’re stamping and handwriting on cardstock for your invitations? If I were your FI or your parents I’d be so proud of you for being a take charge woman that does what she’s able to in order to make things special and nice. Honestly, it sounds like you’ve gotten a lot done! I usually throw away invitations after the wedding (I know I suck, sorry!) but I’d be likely to save one that was done by hand, if that helps?
Your wedding will be awesome because you’re putting yourself into it and because nothing wonderful is ever easy to get <3
Post # 4
Thank you so much! That really helps cheer me up 🙂 For the most part I’ve kept myself in check and been happy that I have what I have, when my parents were never even able to have a wedding, it’s just now that I’m close to the deadline I’m feeling like what I do won’t be enough 🙁
Post # 5
im seeing alot of “I”s in your post but where is the “we”??? are you carrying the financial load of the wedding all on your own?
Post # 6
Harleyanastasia, I have to add that even though I totally respect everyone’s vision for their wedding, it’s been a pretty common post on here that most people aren’t going to even really notice all of those details. I work at a place that hosts weddings, and I can’t tell you how many times a bride tells me she was up three days straight doing something like embroidering little sachet packets with their initials on it and after she leaves, I’m collecting about 60% of them off of the tables because people never even took them or noticed them 🙁
There’s times when the couple buys crazy expensive little things and we seriously have about half of them left over. Don’t worry – those little things can seem like something luxurious to want, but they don’t hold a special meaning of your day at all. You and your FI are the wonderful little detail for your wedding!! 🙂
I like your honesty and your ability to get over that hump! I hope your wedding is wonderful and then you can breathe easy and relax!
Post # 7
Your wedding will be great! I second luckyprincess. I used to cater weddings, and I found that the simplest were often the most appreciated. Tons of people left their favors on the tables, and didn’t notice elaborate little details. I am one of those people. I would NOT notice if my place card were etched in gold or written with Sharpie.
Don’t sweat the small stuff…because it is just small stuff 🙂
Post # 8
Have you looked at local colleges to see if maybe you can get a photog trying to build their resume? Your invites sound awesome.
Payless has dyable white shoes. Cute and inexpensive.
Post # 9
Your invites sound awesome and it is going to be an amazing day.
Post # 10
I totally get the vent. It’s just really hard to see people who have lots of things you would like, when despite working as hard as you can you just can’t have them right now. It feels really unfair sometimes. All I can say is the advice I try to take myself when I’m feeling that way about anything in life – I try to list all the things I’m so lucky to have: my friends, family, cat, fiance (not in that order!), our cozy little apartment, a city I like, good public transit, etc. We don’t have the money for a honeymoon right now, and as I finish grad school, my FI is unemployed and I still don’t have a job lined up for next year. But I’m going to try my best to focus on the good stuff and work my hardest to help us get in a better situation.