Post # 1
So, I know that when people who you don’t intend to invite ask you about your wedding, the proper thing to tell them is that it’s a small wedding for just friends and close family.
What do you do when your wedding isn’t very small? We’re planning to have about 200 guests, which most people consider to be a somewhat big wedding, but even with 200 guests we need to make some cuts. We just can’t invite everyone we know, and people who will probably not make the list are already asking questions.
I don’t want to say it’s a small wedding for just friends and family because that’s not really true. Someone we say that to could later see pictures or talk to someone else and hear about how big it was. What should I tell people who ask?
Post # 3
You could say something like, “We are only able to accomodate close family and friends.” For some people, that is 200 people. They don’t need to know the size of the wedding.
Post # 4
What specifically are they saying? I think you could get away with something about the guest list isn’t final yet or maybe your still considering the size of the venue and how many people will fit. But in the end, people who don’t get an invite might still ask you after the wedding (or right before it) why they didn’t get one and then you might have to answer that a little differently.
Post # 5
@MissBananaBread: “Our venue is restricting the size of our guest list.” Which could mean that there isn’t enough space, but in my case, we just don’t want to pay the extra price pp which limits how many people we are willing to invite. People will probably interpret it as the first explanation.
I have this problem as well!
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2013 - Kempinski San Lawrenz, Gozo
could you just say you have a limited guest list? You wouldn’t be lying if you said that…
Post # 7
You don’t have to say it’s small, simply saying something about how you wish you could invite absolutely everyone, but you were limited based on budget/space restrictions/whatever.
Post # 8
To me, “small” is relative. If you easily have 500 people you want to invite and choose to only have 200, then yes you’re having a “small” wedding. Most people won’t interpret it that way, but that’s how i would convince myself that my wedding is small.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t have a problem saying “small…” If you’re not inviting the whole city (them included!) then sure, why can’t it be “small?” (it’s relative.)
Post # 10
I think you can still get away with saying it’s going to be a small wedding. You don’t have to elaborate or explain what ‘small’ means, as long as you’re making cuts to the guest list, it counts as small!