- 5 years ago
SO and I had a long talk and decided not to get engaged this December as planned. Don’t worry things are really really good right now…but we had planned to get engaged in December on our big once a year trip in Disney. The trip’s still on (just got the tickets this weekend!) but we’re waiting for the big day for a couple of reasons:
1. My parents are still helping me out financially since I’m in law school and they’re against me getting engaged while I’m not financially independent. They want me to be financially independent first and to be honest, I kind of agree that I should be. Graduation is only a year and a half away and at ages 23 and 24, there’s really no rush for us to do it RIGHT NOW. Plus he’ll be starting law school next year so there’ll be that extra financial pressure too. I think it’s a good idea to wait until I have a job secured (hopefully not too long after graduation!!) and can support us while he finishes school.
2. He wants to get me a nice ring but he’s saving like crazy to pay for as much of his tuition or living expenses as he can so he doesn’t have to go into as much debt (he’ll still have to take our loans though. Luckily with the help of my parents and savings I didn’t, so our debt won’t be excessive). He could have gone to law school last year, but the amount of scholarship money they offered was RIDICULOUSLY low because he applied late after taking the December LSAT (seriously, I got 5k more than him and his LSAY is FIVE POINTS higher than mine and our GPAs are almost the same) plus he got a great work oppurtunity. I’m so proud of him for how hard he’s worked. He just got promoted to a new project that lets him work overtime and his boss brags all the time about how he’s a work horse and he saves everything he can. But I see him looking at rings sometimes and he gets as excited as I am and I know he needs a little more time to save to get the one we both want.
3. Finally the most important reason. We’ve been together less than 2 years and we want to work on us as a couple a little bit longer and enjoy being together without feeling pressured to keep to a timeline. We both admitted we’re felt anxious about December coming, but that’s not a sign we shouldn’t be togeher, it’s a sign we’re just not ready yet. After we had that talk we both felt so much better. Things have been going great and all our little issues are being worked on. Sex has been a HUGE improvement. I’ve had issues with anxiety and being able to have sex and…I was able to finally relax enough to let something happened. It still hurts a little but I LOVE being so close with him, closer than I have with any other guy. Things are just going really really well right now and even though an engagement isn’t coming as planned, I’m okay with it. I’m still a happy waiting bee, just gonna be one for a little while longer 🙂