Post # 1
I moved to Texas from Wisconsin last November to be with my FI and haven’t been back home to see my parents, friends, and family since then, more than a year. Saving for a wedding just doesn’t allow the travel budget I’d like to have. My Parents have come down once to visit and a few friends surprised me this summer with a quick weekend visit, but it’s really not the same as getting to spend some time with familiar people in a familiar place.
All that was to change though… we’re going to visit my family for Christmas. The trip has been booked for a few months now and I’ve been so so excited. We’re getting married up in the area, so there are lots of wedding appointments scheduled as well. This is the first time my family and friends will get to see my engagement ring and the first real wedding planning I’ll do with the people I love most……….
Then yesterday, FI comes down with a horrible sinus infection. He can’t get in to see his doctor and wouldn’t go to urgent care like I suggested to get some medication. Now he’ll be sick and miserable on the flight and probably for the majority of our time up there. I love that man to death, but he just doesn’t handle being sick well. I’ve been so homesick and so looking forward to this trip and now it will all be ruined. I know him, he won’t want to go out with my friends, he’ll complain about his nose running all the time, he’ll be grumpy when I try to drag him to vendor appointments… It’s just not fair! I’ve waited so long and so patiently for this trip, finally getting to be a couple with my friends and family, and my other half will be a snotty, crabby mess.
This probably comes off sounding immature and bit “woe is me”… ok, it sounds a lot like that. But I’m having a pity party over here and obviously can’t vent to the FI. It’s not his fault he’s sick and I feel so bad for him and for feeling this way. (he was sick the last time he came up to visit before I moved too, I think he’s allergic to the thought of my home state) It helps a bit to get it out, but I really just feel like being a pouty kid about it and throwing something… probably not a good idea though.
Post # 3
That is tough!
Why is it that men just CANNOT seem to handle being sick?! Seriously, not trying to be mean, but they are the BIGGEST babies (don’t tell hubby I said that 😉 Mine probably would have done the same thing about not wanting to go to urgent care. It’s so frustrating isn’t it?!
I’m sorry the fun you were planning on having might end up being compromised by your guy’s sinus infection. Hopefully though he will still understand if you want to go out and be with your friends for awhile! Maybe he can just use that time to rest & try to get better faster.
Try not to let it get you too upset though. After all, you are going to get to see your family for the first time in over a year!
Post # 4
I am so sorry! Have you tried sitting down with him and explaining how much this trip means to you and how going to urgent care would really help out? Some guys see sickness as weakness and he may not realize how his sickness will hold you both back on your trip.
My boyfriend is the same way. Last year he left his old job for a new one. One of the biggest selling factors of the new job was that it had medical insurance, however he hasn’t went to the doctor at all over the year. He won’t go unless something horrific happens like he chops his finger in two pieces. It’s like they think they are flawed if they have to see the doctor! *Sigh* It’s hard to understand their mindset sometimes. Best of luck to you, and I hope you have a wonderful Christmas in spite of it all. 🙂
Post # 5
… you need to MAKE him go to urgent care. Serious, sinus infections can get pretty serious, and flying is going to make his head hurt SO bad. Plus I totally feel you on the wanting your trip to be fun since you haven’t been home in so long!
Post # 6
Thanks ladies, it’s nice to be able to complain and not be called out for being whiney I’m going to try to convince him to go into urgent care, but I doubt he’ll go and time is running short. We’re supposed to fly out tomorrow morning. I know that he’ll try to come along for whatever I do, putting on a happy face for me… but I’ll know he’s really not feeling well. I’m just disappointed. We’ll make the best of it though, like okqueenbee said, I will be getting to see everyone!
Post # 7
Hi date twin! Sorry your FI is sick. I’ve gotten sick on holidays in the past and it is NOT FUN. I think you can still have a great time at home though. I know it would have been fun to include your FI in everything, but the main reason to visit home is so you can see your family and friends, right?
If I were you, I would let him take it easy and take advantage of the time to catch up with family and friends. Maybe even bring someone else to the wedding appts if he doesn’t feel up to going. Choose a couple of events that you really really would like him to be at (family Christmas dinner, an outing with your friends, etc) and ask him to make an effort just for these.
Post # 8
I agree with everyone else… try to get him to go to urgent care! I have (unfortunately) flown with a sinus infection and it’s absolutely miserable. I wish I could have gone to a doctor before getting on the flight because some medicine would have made it more bearable, but we were traveling home from overseas and it just wasn’t an option. Good luck!!
Post # 9
If he won’t go to urgent care, get him to do a saline sinus rinse and take some Mucinex DM. It’ll seriously help.
Post # 10
Get your FI a nasal rinse kit and Tylenol sinus! That should help him to feel better. Good luck!
Post # 11
The attempt to get him to go to urgent care was a failure again. In his words “They can’t fix me that quick.” The reasoning that he could be “fixed” in a few days with such a visit now still didn’t inspire him to go, silly boys. So, I’m going to stop by the pharmacy on my way home and load up on some sinus fighting supplies… wish me luck.