Post # 1
I’m sad. One of my good friend’s stepping out of our wedding. BUT for a good reason. She’s pregnant plus she lives out of state. This kind of sucks. She thought I was going to be mad at her too. Poor thing. I’m just so excited for her. This is also the friend that introduced me to my FI so I was wondering if there’s any way I can honor her even though she’s not going to be a part of our day.
Post # 3
How about asking her to do a reading at the ceremony? A mention in your program would be sweet as well, if you have a section where you are thanking your guests for joining you, you could also put something special at her place-setting at the reception.
Post # 4
Is she thinking she will not be able to come to the wedding at all? Or just that she will not be able to be in the wedding? If she can attend, you can certainly make her part of things by doing a reading, having a seat at the head table, asking her to give a toast – you could even say a few words before you give the microphone and introduce her as the person who is responsible for you and FI meeting.
Post # 5
Oh she’s not coming to the wedding at all. Her due date will be right around our wedding and she lives out of state. No flying for pregos. Good news is she will make it to my bridal shower. Yea!
Post # 6
If you are doing programs, you could put a note in there for her.
Post # 7
Do something nice for her at your bridal shower- like maybe make her a scrapbook or something about how she is special to you . . . just a thought
I like the idea of mentioning her in your program or briefly in a toast as well. . .
Post # 8
Maybe add a note in the programs, or a note somewhere else in the decor maybe a note next to something that reminds you of her… use your imagination.
Post # 9
It used to be that telegrams from guests who couldn’t make it were read at a wedding (back when telegrams were the be all, end all of communication). What if she sent a small note, reading or speech that could be read by someone else? That way she could still be there in a sense. (Bonus: if it’s filmed, she could see you guys react to her words after the fact)
Post # 10
The EXACT same thing is happening to me!
My dear friend who introduced FI and I is due the day after our wedding, and lives about 6 hours away, so no way she can make it, either. I had been considering making her a BM, too. She called me thinking I’d be upset, and I was shrieking with excitement!
But there’s definitely sadness, too. As such a close friend, I was really counting on her to be next to me and share in my excitement. On the other hand, I think it’ll be kind of cool if the baby happens to be born on our wedding day. It’d be doubly blessed, and we’d share our anniversary with a special person’s birthday!
Anyway, I just wanted to throw a "me too!" out there…