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...and my MOH hasn't exactly shown up - mentally or emotionally.  I thought things would be okay.  I knew that she has a tendency to be slightly self-centered and incredibly self-involved even in a situation that isn't about her.  But in the past, she has really been great about being there when it matters most, which is why I chose her above the others.  I've even had fleeting moments of regret when two other BMs were really stepping up to the plate and doing an incredible job that went above and beyond.

All 4 of them live out of state and in different states (TX, MO, AR, VA).  So, I didn't expect that they could do much but be incredible when they got here.  Two of them have been just incredible already, though. 

One has been my personal consultant and put up with so much bull from me - like changing my mind on flowers every other day for about two months straight.  She even researched flowers so I could get what I wanted for cheaper without being afraid to be my own florist.  The other one asks on her own how I'm doing, gets involved with plans if I need her and flew down as a surprise for my bridal shower.  HOW AWESOME IS THAT??  The other one is almost as bad as the MOH, but I don't expect much from her until she is here. 

MOH just told me this past week that she is as broke as a joke.  Literally NO money.  Now, I've been engaged for a year.  I set it up with my parents that the girls would stay at their house for free with free food.  All they had to buy was a ticket, a dress and whatever shoes they wanted.  Amazing BM #1 is footing the bill for a rental car while here for everyone else.  MOH BARELY made it through those three things, all of which were purchased at the last possible second.

She told me a very odd story about buying shoes, and when I asked her what they look like, she couldn't remember because she didn't exactly go to the store...sober.  I have never once been called by her to ask how I'm doing or if she can do anything for me.  My grandfather is in hospital as of last night and I got in a car accident last night as well(minor; I'm alright), but I was shocked that she responded to that to see how I am. 

I know it's still 2 weeks out, but with not having money, we can't go do anything unless someone (me) foots the bill for her.  The MOH should be semi-planning this stuff, but she isn't.  Amazing BM #2 basically is.  I want to talk to her about it, but it won't matter now.  The wedding is almost here and she will be an issue now instead of the person stepping up.  Should I talk to her or just leave it?  She is my best friend, but I'm beginning to think that this is too much to ask of our friendship.

Thanks, guys.  You were right.  I don't need to be thinking about this right now, and what will be will be.