- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
Fi and I are true antique loving, gardening, outdoor nerds, so when the opportunity to have a rustic outdoor wedding came along we jumped on it! We searched and searched for a hall with a relaxed atmosphere that fit our vibe, but we kept getting rubbed the wrong way by the idea of a sit down meal, stationary seating, speeches, dancing…”normal” wedding stuff.
We came upon our venue on an afternoon hike. Its a small restored barn at one of the local parks we visit. We both looked at it…looked at eachother…smiles ear to ear…YES (it may have been more romantic than the proposal…lol…which FYI took place at a mennonite produce stand)
And so…what is zee problem? Family.
My grandmother was visiting this weekend and felt it appropriate to tell me all of the “gossip” our family (aunts, uncles, cousins…). Basically, people are “worried” “upset” and “confused” about our wedding.
a) there is SERIOUS outcry about not having dancing at the wedding. Who knew people craved dancing so much? I sure as heck don’t so, I wasn’t expecting it. For the record, the kind of wedding that doesn’t have dancing is one that takes place in the afternoon, and its only 4 hours long.
b) I had no idea adults could not function w/out a seating plan! In my dad’s family there always seems to be fighting amongst the siblings…I really cannot keep track of who hates who, nor do I want to. PLUS…at every other wedding my cousins have complained about getting stuck at the “crap” table…so, you would think this would solve all problems? no? Well, bottom line…there are only 70 people in attendance…I will not be making a seating plan…deal with it.
c) WHAT IS UP WITH THIS DEEP FEAR OF BUGS AND SUN?! Seriously people, bugs exist…sure they sometimes suck, but learn to deal…otherwise you’ll spend all your time inside. Trust me outside has MUCH more to offer. Fly’s won’t kill you. Yes, even if they land on your food…yes, even if you accidentall eat one. As for the sun…its called SPF, or a shade umbrella…you were warned its a (covered) outdoor event, so my best advice is dress for it…or rsvp unable to attend if you feel you can’t cope.
Anyway, I am just sick of hearing about all of this. I wish my family could understand that its our day. I wish they could take their blinders off and get over what they feel a wedding “should” be. Its our day, our way. We’ve done our best to make everyone comfortable (minus the bugs, they’re just gonna have to deal). I’m sick of the gossip. I’m sick of having to answer the question “what kind of wedding is this anyway?” -seriously? who asks that? Just come and enjoy yourself…or don’t come, but not enjoying yourself or complaining is NOT an option because I will ask you to leave (I have already asked my one cousin not come since she insisted she was bringing her stereo because she HAD to have music)
vent over (I hope)