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I'm so sorry. I'm glad you feel like you made the right decision and I hope you find happiness!
I'm sorry, sounds like the right decision, isn't it awful when just because it's right doesn't make it easy. Look after yourself :)
You did the right thing! You followed your heart and your instincts and that's all you can do. I was in two long-term relationships that didn't work out before I found my fiance. And I'm so glad I waited for the right one! Good for you! The more time passes, the better you will feel.
Hugs! The right decision often sucks in the short-term. The hive is here for you!
Aw Boston, I give you credit for being strong and not settling because it was "comfortable". I hope you don't forget about us, I always liked you.
HUGS
It's a brave thing, what you did. You're right, he will realize in the future that it was for the best.
Thanks ladies! You are always so encouraging, and I knew you'd put me at ease about my decision. It is so hard and heartbreaking though. I can still stay on weddingbee even if an engagement is no where in the near future, right? ha.
Of course you can stay! There are a few people on here who aren't even in relationships, like Lillindy, one of the admin girls!
I'm sorry hunny. It is a tough thing to go through but like you said, its for the best. I hope you and he are able to move on soon and enjoy the best things in life!
If you don't stay, I might go to boston and stand on street corners stopping every girl that walks by who looks like your avatar. My sister lives in Brookline...I have connections. ;)
Aw that's so nice VirginiaMarie! I'm actually living in Tampa, FL at the moment though. hehe. I'll get back to Boston eventually!
Oh well good thing you told me now! Essentailly, I'm just getting at the fact that I would be bummed if you left us.
aww i'm sorry @bostonbee!
i TOTALLY understand what you're going through. i went through this in my transition from graduating college and starting my first job with my ex... i stayed with him for a good 6 months because i didn't want to hurt him. but in the end, if i would've kept persisting in the relationship, i would've hurt him and myself more.
you did the right thing.
I'm with the other ladies! It can be so tough to hurt someone you loved so much, but it's better to end it now, then continue 'faking' it until it's WAY complicated to end it. I hope you stick around in the hive, I always love your posts on the boards!
I did the same thing, and it killed me to know that I hurt him so badly, but it wouldn't have been fair to him if I hadn't. He deserved someone who thought he was everything they could ever want. Fast foward 10 years later after never speaking, and I saw him at a reunion. He got married a few years ago and has two kids now, but the best thing was that he thanked me. He said that I had done the right thing, even if he couldn't see it back then. I know it hurts, and there's always the guilt, but I'm sure that someday he'll see that you were right, too, and that you didn't want to hurt him.
Sorry to hear about your break up, but I'm glad you've done what's best for both of you and listened to your heart even if it meant some sad times for both of you now. Please do stick around, we'd miss you if you disappeared!!! Wishing you much happiness down the road!
Aw, super big hugs to you BostonBee!! I am glad you did what feels right for you! Not enough people do that sometimes. But please, stay on the Bee. You always have good insight!!
Aww Boston, that stinks!!
I didn't know you were in Tampa right now, I thought you were in Tally?
Best wishes! At least you have your puppy right?
Good luck to you. It is terrible having your heart broken, yes, but its also pretty tough being on your side of things too. Just try to surround yourself with good people and do things you love - it can be freeing after the end of a relationship to see the new possibilities and explore who you are and who you want to be again.
Hugs!! I know that it's tough... I went through something similar several years ago. Ex and I haven't talked in a while so I don't know how he's doing but I think it was for the best for the both of us. Now I'm engaged to someone else that couldn't be more perfect for me. He will live through it but what you guys had together is part of your lives that will help the both of you grow, even if it's in different directions.
Please stay on WB! It's great chatting with you and the other girls on the Fitness forums! :)
Hugs to you, BostonBee. It seems really clear from your post that you followed your heart and feel confident about your decision. It is too bad he didn't feel the same way, but I can't imagine that he'd hold it against you--even all of the Bees can discern over the internet what a caring and warm person you are. Please stay!
Making a decision like that takes courage! He will see it's for the best, eventually, just like ou said.
I hope you stay on the bee too. :)
i'm sorry about your break up. it sounds like it was the right thing though. :) kudos for being strong and aware of yourself. he'll appreciate it in the long run...even though he probably won't tell you!
Sorry to hear about your breakup :( Hope you feel better soon. It sounds like you did the right thing.
Sorry to hear about a break up, but it deff seems like the right thing for you to do!
Sorry to hear about your break up Boston. I know it's hard, but imagine how much harder it would've been if you'd stayed. I had a relationship like that before FI - I just knew it wasn't right for me and I had to move on. I give you a lot of credit for taking that step - it's really hard!
PLEASE stick around. I'd be bummed if another familiar face left.
Ugh...that totally does stink to be on either end of a breakup! I've been on both ends before...the one who didn't want to break up, and the one who didn't feel the same way anymore. You absolutely did the right thing by ending the relationship. You can't help what you feel...and you just aren't in love with him anymore. Kudos to you for recognizing that and ending the relationship.
And please stay! I've been married now for almost 3 years! I hope the bees don't mind me hanging around! I find the community very comforting and love to offer my advice to bees going through the process too!
Awe Boston, I know exactly how you feel. The exact same thing happened to me - I moved away for a summer job, and I had wanted to end our relationship for a few months. Meanwhile, he was thinking marriage and was head over heels. I finally got the courage to tell him. He was heartbroken.
It hurts now, especially because no one likes to hurt someone else. But I am SO GLAD I broke up with my old BF, because now I am marrying a someone who I truly feel compatible with. Sending lots of love your way!
I'm sorry about your break-up, but it seems like it was the best decision for you both.
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My boyfriend and I just broke up. It was for the best, but he doesn't feel that way. Things just haven't felt the same for me as of late. He's my best friend, but lately that's all I feel towards him. I moved to a new city for a summer job, and he would tell me how much he missed me during the week, and I just didn't feel that way about him. And it's not just since I've moved here. I've been feeling this way for months, but being away allowed me to really think about what I want and how I was feeling. I just feel so bad because I've had my heart broken before and I know what he's feeling. It's the worst feeling in the world, and I never meant to hurt him. My feelings for him have changed though, and I couldn't just stay in it because I didn't want to hurt him. I know I made the right decision, and I know he'll agree with me in the future, but it still sucks right now. I'm sorry. I just needed to vent.