Post # 1
I haven’t posted in a while for various reasons. I know I’m not one of the more recognizable bees on here, but I figured I would come back and bid you all a more formal farewell.
I called off my engagement a few months ago and tried to work things out with him, but there was nothing left that could be salvaged. We were both headed in different directions, wanted different things and some of our fights resulted in true feelings being let out. We tried, we really did, to make things work, but it just wasn’t meant to be. Then, he got into some legal trouble. At this point, we both agreed that we were past the point of no return, and cut our losses.
I wish all of you a short wait, happy engagements and long, wonderful marriages.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry. I hope that you find the path that is best for you.
Post # 4
Good luck to you…sometimes we just need certain situations to push us out of a rut in order to ready ourselves for that perfect someone or something.
Post # 5
So sorry to hear that, chick. Take care of yourself and i wish you all the best.
Post # 6
I am so sorry that you had to call it off, but at least it was mutual and you found out now, instead of later. I wish you the very best of everything and just know that your time will come when you are least expecting it 🙂
Post # 7
I’m sorry to hear that, but hope you’ve found a solution that works for you. Good luck!
Post # 8
although each situation is unique, i can say i know how you feel.
just know it gets better, and you made the right decision. 🙂
Post # 9
I am so sorry. Best of luck with everything in your future, and don’t be a stranger!! XXOO
Post # 10
:Hugs: I am sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time, but it seems that you know this is best for you. Wishing you a wonderful journey, make it yours!
Post # 11
You sound so calm!
I want to just leave you with a little story that I’ll try to condense. I was engaged just a few years ago to whom I thought was the love of my life – a dashing military officer with a brilliant career. We were a wonder-couple. Everyone loved our love. Our wedding was going to sparkle. I quit my budding career for him, moved to another country, hitched my wagon to his star. And he was a secret pervert online, a whole other person nobody knew. The FBI had his number, I would find out later, but they didn’t have enough for a case against him. I remember the day that I realized that I would not be marrying him, that the wedding and the marriage and my whole life were shattered – along with all of my trust and hope in good and honorable men. One day stretched into many as I threw up and shivered and sat on the sofa. I could feel the hours drag over my skin like fire. I was humiliated to go back home, to return wedding presents, to explain without explaining.
I thought for sure I could never trust again, that it would take forever to get over this kind of nonsense, if in fact I ever did. I envisioned myself alone for a long time. Who would want me now, with a hole in my heart this big? How could I be good to anyone, with a wound so fresh and raw? I had no expectation of happiness for a long time, but the same month I came home from my disaster non-wedding, I met the most incredible man. Now I’m marrying him. Thank God I got out when I did. Thank God I’m marrying this one, and not the one before. It was darkest before the dawn.
You’re probably not thinking about another relationship right now, which is good. Probably you’re just thinking about yourself, which is wise. But don’t think that just because you watched everything go up in flames that the real love of your life isn’t just around the next corner. He just might be.
Post # 12
Hugs to you. I am there as well, and I still lurk here from time to time. I think I seek comfort in stories like yours and mine, and in stories of love from most on WeddingBee.
I have to believe in cliches though. I have to believe that things happen for a reason; that if it is meant to be it will be; that time heals all wounds. AND, you will be OK.
Take this time for yourself, to have faith and confidence in yourself, to love yourself and to find love again. Best wishes.
Post # 13
@Lapeaudesoie: WOW. Thank YOU for sharing.