Post # 1
It’s a long story to get into which hopefully one day I can come back here and retell it but what I’m going to focus on is what happened the night we broke up. It was 4 days ago, we were on our way out for the night with my Fiance and his friend. They were making joke something about fighting and his friend made a comment Oh I think she(myself) would be able to kick ur ass. My FI was going on saying no she wouldn’t, and his friend was just joking around saying i bet she would and I said at least someone has my back!
It was meant as a joke!! He flipped and turned it into something completely different, he called me a slut. I took off called my friend and he sent a msg saying I’ll see who has my back tonight. Which then I explained again! It was just a joke like common. I said do you want me to stay or go? he then replied saying stay just don’t be slutty. I went back inside and turned into huge fight and I took off got my stuff and we’re done.
He messaged me today bringing this up again, that was pretty well it for him there when that was said and that he can’t handle that shit.
Is that really flirting? am I so badly in the wrong here..
Post # 3
I don’t even know what to say about this…. it all sounds really juvenile and not the type of relationship I would personally want to be in.
Post # 4
Umm….no. Your fiance sounds incredibly immature and hot-tempered. I know it must hurt like crazy right now, and I can’t even imagine what you must be feeling. But honestly, this may be for the best. Sending good thoughts your way!
Post # 5
Jeez – as much as it hurts now, you’ll eventually be thankful for this turn if events. He doesn’t spun like the kind if person you’d want to spend forever with …
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
There had to have been something else going on. What you have written does not make sense. To me it just sounds like you guys are young and not emotionally mature yet on both sides.
I have to ask. I saw your other post and you said that family and friends were not happy that you guys got engaged 3 months ago. Why is that? There seems to be something amiss with this relationship. How long have you guys been together?
Post # 9
DeannaLo: I am sorry that it’s hurting right now, but you will be thankful soon enough. Any man that calls his fiancee a ‘slut’ is no man. It sounds like he did you a favour.
Post # 10
Sounds like you’re dodging a bullet.
Post # 11
Does not sound like either of you are ready to get married.
Devastated over that childish behavior? You should be relieved.
Post # 12
Seriously? You are lucky you got away from that dipshit. Calling your partner slutty multiple times is NOT ok. He’s an ass.
Post # 13
I’m 27 and he is 31. Our relationship got intense fast and we did end up engaged quickly. He is hyper sensitive to say the least, but somehow still has me feeling some what guilty here. I know I shouldn’t and saying “atleast someone has my back” as a joke shouldn’t be considered flirting.
I know how stupid it sounds.
Post # 14
That’s the kind of thing my first boyfriend did to me constantly. Flipping out over nothing, calling me names, but god forbid I ever get mad at HIM for a change, that wasn’t allowed. I was trapped in that abusive relationship for 4 years. Get out now, any relationship where you feel like you’re walking on eggshells is abusive IMO. Name-calling is such a red flag, it’s something I would never put up with again. Good luck, you are definitely dodging a bullet by ending things now!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
He sounds REALLLLY insecure. He is verbally abusive, and you shouldn’t go back to him if he opens that door.