Post # 1
from an insecure person trying to make themselves feel better can completely erase all compliments and positive comments received from everyone else as well as rattle my normally mostly decent self image.
Anyone else gone through this? Because of that insult, I now feel like unattractive and down about myself. I’ve even had thoughts of “Why would my SO want to be with me?”
Post # 3
@mollz0621: *hugs* People have the tendency to suck. 🙁 Your SO is with you because you are beautiful on the outside and the inside.
I know one girl who puts people down constantly and have been the receiving part of her crud too many times, even now, almost a year after we stopped talking and I blocked her on FB. Sometimes all you can do is be the bigger person and remove yourself from the equation.
Post # 4
That is me exactly.
I got picked on constantly growing up and really only came out of my shell/starting feeling better about myself in College.
It breaks my SO’s heart the way that I feel about myself.
I can hear 1000 compliements and I’m just like ‘eh.. ok… you’re just being nice’ and ONE bad thing and I crumple up and want to die again.
Post # 5
@mollz0621: Funny how people manage to do that, eh? We get lots of compliments, but the second we get a negative comment, it seems to cancel out all the good ones. Don’t let the insecure person bring you down. Obviously SO picked you for a reason, and the jealous party is simply that-jealous. You are awesome in your own way. Don’t let anyone take that from you, honey. *Hugs*
Post # 6
You poor thing! That breaks my heart. I used to get sad, but now it just makes me ANGRY!
No one has any right EVER to make you feel bad! If they do, they are terrible people!
Which is a broad overstatement, but it always makes me feel a little better!
Post # 7
My ex-boyfriend was pretty bad about this. He constantly put me down and I figured that it was an insecurity issue on his part. I was apparently too “skinny” for him. I was too pale. Why the heck did you date me then? I also have a scar on my right side from when I fell off of an ATV in the desert. He told me I would be so pretty if it wasn’t for that scar. I don’t know why I put up with it for as long as I did. I would be lying if I said that it didn’t upset me.
Now I don’t really get it anymore, besides my mother who pointed out that my baby daughter has funny looking toes like me. Like thanks mom! Appreciate it…
I guess all you can do is remind yourself of all the compliments you do receive and that you have someone that loves you.
Post # 8
thanksfully I’ve reached a point in my life where I don’t care at all what people think or say about me. It makes life a lot easier.
Post # 9
Thanks for the encouraging comments, all. To give an idea of what happened ..I frequent another site that many men post on. I am pretty outspoken and opinionated on this site and there’s a particular guy who hates women like this and thinks they should sit back and shut up. I have had disagreements with this guy and have called him out on his bs/lies in the past. He is a very insecure person and has a major inferiority complex.
Because of this, when he came across my FB (we have mutual friends), he started making fun of my looks on the site.
I suppose I could have avoided it all together by not engaging in disagreements/debates with him.
Post # 10
@mollz0621: Ugh, he sounds like a real charmer. Try not to let someone like this get you down. *HUGS*